Episode 27
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Yapping!
Erika:Hello, this is Erika.
Edgar:And Edgar.
Erika:And we are the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you with yap worthy stories we find around the web. So today's theme is Toxic Oversights.
Edgar:The first story is titled, Would I be the asshole if I contact my friend's ex fiance to warn him about her creepy behavior? Recently my friend and her fiance broke it off. I'm honestly not really sure what happened, but she claimed that he ghosted her and then threatened a restraining order afterwards. I feel I don't have all the details and something tells me there is more to the story. Anyways, they were living together and shared most of all their accounts, including cameras inside the home.
Edgar:She claims she still has access to them and has told me how she looked at them on more than one occasion so she knows what he's doing, etc. She even mentioned how she knows where he is at times because she still gets emails I guess with statements of things so she knows when he's out of town and where he is. I asked her why she doesn't just remove herself from these accounts and even told her how it was a stalkerish in a joking manner because it is and I didn't want to upset her, but she just says that it's a process to get the stuff switched over, etc. It sounded like total bullshit and I think it's really inappropriate. I understand being curious, but I feel like watching the feed from cameras inside his home is a major privacy violation.
Edgar:I don't know if he would respond if I tried reaching out and I don't really want to throw her under the bus, but I'm thinking about just reaching out and telling him he should remove her from all connected accounts with no explanation. Would it be appropriate in this situation or would I be the asshole?
Erika:This is a hard one.
Edgar:Mean Hard? What about this is hard?
Erika:Because it's not your relationship or it's not your business. I mean, obviously doing the right thing means telling the guy, but your friend told you this in confidence, so you're just gonna throw her under the bus.
Edgar:I mean, you don't have to throw her under the bus necessarily.
Erika:Like, how should?
Edgar:You do this more tactfully. Like, imagine Opie could do is he shouldn't just visit his friend's house and then once he sees the cameras he'd be like, just mention it. Like, oh, that the cameras you had with your ex?
Erika:But why would she even go to her house? It's her ex.
Edgar:No, no, remember OP.
Erika:It's OP's ex friend, no, it's OP's friend's ex. Why would she go to his house?
Edgar:Excuse would because it's OP's friend.
Erika:But what if they're not close enough for her to go to the house? That would be so awkward. Be like, Hey, can I just stop by? Why?
Edgar:I guess so. But I think still, I mean, that's like the, if in an ideal situation she'd accidentally stumble upon his house tell them. But I think that she should because it's a pretty cupri anyways and if I had cameras around my house and an ex or someone I didn't know or wasn't close to it, I would like to know if they were watching me because that would be very
Erika:creepy for That's so weird. So we have a camera for the dogs to see them when we leave. So it would be weird if we break up and then, well you don't even have the code now but if I gave you the code and then you would still have it and you would be watching me in the dark, that'd be so weird.
Edgar:I know, yeah, it'd be pretty strange.
Erika:Yeah, I mean, going off of what you said, I didn't say I don't believe she should not tell her, I just said, you know, it's kinda like a dilemma. However, if she does wanna tell him, she could always do it anonymously.
Edgar:How?
Erika:She could create a fake account and tell them, you know, I know OP, and she told me that she, you know, does this, this and that, and then delete that account. And now if he doesn't believe her, then what is what it is, but you tried reaching out.
Edgar:I mean it's like a good point anyway, that if you have shit accounts, if you guys aren't together, you should try to find a way to like, well I guess you shouldn't even be considering doing it carefully, like kick them out of the account if you own it.
Erika:Yeah, mean, definitely. I think I would reset all my passwords if we were to break up or something. You know I mean? It's kind of weird.
Edgar:I think, yeah. And then OP's friend has like some issues, like still looking at all that stuff.
Erika:Yeah, she sounds like she's a little bit
Edgar:Is definitely stuck where she's
Erika:Yeah, it's not
Edgar:It's probably unhealthy for her as well, like she's not able to move on if she just spends most of her days or whatever. She spends her free time just watching.
Erika:Checking up on him, yeah.
Edgar:That's weird. Washing and checking up on him.
Erika:So the top comment is yes, and then dump your friend. She sounds like trouble.
Edgar:Yeah, she sounds pretty creepy. Like I can imagine if this is the kind of thing she's caught doing, imagine things she's not caught doing.
Erika:I know, but then again, if she's kind of a, you know, maybe a little bit more saturation and you did something to her, like she finds out that you told the boyfriend or the ex boyfriend,
Edgar:More reason why to not be their friend.
Erika:Yeah, but now she knows where you live, what you do and whatever, what if she wants to like get back at you?
Edgar:I'll at least even try.
Erika:Oh my goodness. But so yeah, you just have to be careful, would say. Like I said, anonymously, it's the best bet. There is an update. Update.
Erika:I set up a Google number and sent a text, but I haven't heard anything back yet. I have never communicated with him over the phone before and I only had his number that my friend gave me a while back in case of emergency. So I'm waiting for a response before I share the details of what I know just in case this number isn't active anymore or is someone else's number. I figure I'll give it some time first then move on to the other venues of contact. I appreciate all the advice from you guys so far.
Erika:I'll have recommended reaching him at work, but he doesn't work close enough for me to drop by. Anyway, I like to remain anonymous to avoid any backlash. I don't want to release too many details on the chance she were to come across the post, but the ex fiance has a pretty fancy job and is one of the higher ups of the company, so he also has cameras set up in his office there that she has been watching. Oh my god, that's even worse. She's been watching him at his job too.
Erika:I'm pretty sure this is super illegal for her to be listening and stuff too depending on what she hears. I'll keep you guys posted though. After that there hasn't been any updates, so hopefully she got to reach him.
Edgar:Definitely like very creepy, you know, like, yeah, like she's just kind of, like OP's friend is like just messing herself up, like getting like just caught up into her ex that like isn't even like in his life anymore.
Erika:Yeah, I think she needs to move on. She's just holding on and there's no, there's just, it's not going to end well.
Edgar:Definitely not. Do you think the OP should reach out to the friend that just said to stop looking? Because like, it could be pretty bad for her?
Erika:No, I mean I don't know how stable she is. You know what I mean? If she's doing all this stuff, like for example, if we're talking about it and we know that's not correct, well maybe we don't know what her state of mind is right now. And if she was to tell her to stop, we don't know if there might be some, you know, like, oh you're making it out of, you know, I don't know, maybe she could just get backlash from her or something like that. So I'd rather just stay out of it because you could give her advice but you have no right in telling her to stop doing something that you think is wrong.
Edgar:Yes, if I know better.
Erika:I would say she is not the asshole. Think she's right in telling him but I would say just stay anonymous.
Edgar:Yeah, I think overall, not an asshole to warn the guy. Probably for his safety, keep it anonymous.
Erika:Yeah, I agree. The next story is, would I be the asshole if I said no to a Mother's Day lunch with my boyfriend's mom? I, 22 female, and my boyfriend, 24 male, invited me to his house tomorrow for a Mother's Day lunch with his parents. I hesitant on going because I'm allergic to cats and there has been multiple situations where it has been promised that the cats were going to be kept inside and they have not kept the promise. The first situation was when I actually found out I was allergic, was when we had dinner.
Erika:The cat is not my boyfriend's family, it's his twin brother and his girlfriend who's rude and treats me like shit. We were at dinner, she gets the cat and proceeds to hold and let the cat be near me and the table and I'm wheezing and coughing. The second time was when I was at his house and I was sitting on the couch and the cat was in the box and was literally sat next to me. Those were the big ones but every time I'm at the house he tells his brother to keep the cat inside and every single time the cat has escaped or they forgot to lock the room. Just early this morning we went to his house and his brother said the cats are inside.
Erika:We walked in the house and the cat was in the house. So, would she be the asshole?
Edgar:Well, I'm pretty biased to cats. But I can see why it would be annoying to be in that situation when you're not expecting that kind of company.
Erika:I think it's a little bit deeper than that. Just because depending on how severe her allergic reaction is, it could really cause health issues or she could die or she would need a pen, you know, EpiPen. I mean, she says she's really allergic and if they're aware of that and they continue to have the cats around her then I don't think it's safe for her to go to their house. Even though the boyfriend is asking her, I don't think it's fair of him to expect that knowing that her health is at risk.
Edgar:Yeah, I mean it shouldn't be that hard to just lock the cats in a room, just like at least while she's there.
Erika:Exactly, I mean when we have the dogs over at my parents' house, we lock them in the room and it's that simple.
Edgar:But then again, how many people, I guess it depends on where this is. Like in cities there's not a lot of room to spare in most places.
Erika:Yeah, but I mean, don't think, I mean you have a bedroom, the cat can stay in the bedroom.
Edgar:I don't think it's Better than some people don't like having their pets in their bed for some reason.
Erika:It's only one hour or two when they're there for dinner and then leave.
Edgar:But that's just their mindset. That's why maybe they think that that's worth having OP or having I guess suffering from their pets and their allergies.
Erika:But what's baffling to me is that it's not even his parents' cat, it's the brother's girlfriend's cat.
Edgar:I know, she's like someone totally random.
Erika:I know, I don't understand why the cat is even coming. I don't get it.
Edgar:I wouldn't bring my, like, even like Bella, Selena, Lila. Like, I wouldn't bring her dogs, like, into a random person's house.
Erika:No, that's weird.
Edgar:Maybe it's like an emotional support cat.
Erika:Do we even have that as emotional support cats? I've always seen dogs but I've never seen such I just imagine any
Edgar:animal could be an emotional support animal.
Erika:I guess. So there is an update. We are eating out. He told his family he doesn't want me in the house because of the past situations. So the boyfriend was very thoughtful and he was by her side and stuck up to her.
Erika:So I'm glad he's able to say okay, I don't want her to go through this, we're bleeding out and avoid all the problems. Right?
Edgar:Yeah, simple solution actually.
Erika:Exactly. So the top comment is not the asshole, your boyfriend is asking you to go knowing more than likely your health is compromised, is inconsiderate on his part. But that's wonderful he sticks up for you. To be honest, that's the bare minimum. He should be making sure the cats are put away and locked away, whatever to make sure you don't have a medical emergency.
Erika:If he gets upset or pushes about it, tell him you'd love to honor his mother on location that won't put you in the hospital. You don't need to compromise yourself for someone who has no regard for your health. So I think the boyfriend did good.
Edgar:Pretty straight thinking. It's an easy solution and it doesn't really make anyone upset because they're eating out. Probably they're eating out someplace, well hopefully they're eating out someplace where they all enjoy their food.
Erika:Yeah. So I think it's a good idea. I think a solution was made by her boyfriend and he did good.
Edgar:Final verdict?
Erika:I don't think she's an asshole. I mean I think if she said no I wouldn't blame her. I mean having a very bad reaction to the cat is literally life threatening. So, if she doesn't want to go I don't think she should be put against.
Edgar:Yeah, I don't make the OP's the asshole. The next story is titled, Accidentally Told My Girlfriend's Dad I Love You, Now He Won't Stop Saying It Back. So, last weekend I was leaving my girlfriend's house after dinner with her family. Super casual night tacos, a movie, good vibes all around. Her dad and I have always had this polite, slightly awkward relationship, you know?
Edgar:Like, we nod at each other and occasionally comment on the weather, like we're both NPCs in the same video game. Anyways, I was tired, full, feeling warm and fuzzy after she hugged me goodbye at the door. Her dad walks me out to my car again, super chill. He pats me on the shoulder and says, Drive safe. And that's when it happened.
Edgar:Without thinking, I say, You too. Love you. Like I was on the phone with my mom or something. He paused, I paused, the air shattered, and then the man smiled, nodded slowly, and said, 'Love you too, buddy.' What? I drove off into the night with my soul in shambles.
Edgar:Fast forward to every visit since. This fan now ends every single interaction with, Alright, see you later. Love you. Sometimes with a wank. Once with a thumbs up.
Edgar:Bro, you cannot make this any more uncomfortable to read. My girlfriend thinks this is hilarious. Her mom keeps giving me weird looks. I don't know if he's messing with me or if I am now unofficially part of the family in the weirdest way possible. So Reddit, do I own it and say love you back forever?
Edgar:Try to phase it out? Have a formal we need to talk about the love thing conversation? Any advice of similar accidental intimacy stories would be greatly appreciated.
Erika:I mean, this is cute. It's a green flag. I don't think it's weird.
Edgar:I guess it depends on I feel like this is based on the dad's look. Imagine if he was like Cotter, she wouldn't be so weirded out, or maybe if he wasn't so old and awkward about it. The thumbs up is like, if someone thumbs up after saying love you like that, and we're not anything more than platonic, I'd just be weirded out.
Erika:Well it's the dad and you're the boyfriend, what's wrong about it?
Edgar:What do you mean, like if your dad said that to me?
Erika:Yeah, mean you're part of the family, what's wrong with it? Would you feel weirded out?
Edgar:I think I would feel weirded out if it feels like flirty.
Erika:But I don't think this is flirty. Think this is just like, know, love you, like, good luck buddy. I mean, love you too buddy. Like, don't think it's anything flirty. I think this is like just him just welcome him to the family.
Erika:I don't see anything flirty about it at all.
Edgar:Oh, wait, I thought that Opie was a girl. I just read we read the title.
Erika:Oh my god.
Edgar:Okay, guess, yeah, in this case, it's not flirty. I was thinking that Opie was a girl and the dad was like flirting with her somehow. But no, I think this is just like a weird and awkward welcome link to the family. But yeah, guess in that case, yeah, I don't think there should be anything to be weirded out about. But I guess it's a little bit weird that the mother seems to be jealous.
Erika:I think she just wants a relationship with him too, saying, Oh, you just tell him I love you, but you don't tell me love you to me. You know, maybe?
Edgar:Hopefully that's it.
Erika:I think that's adorable. I think they have a, I think you should just keep going with it.
Edgar:Yeah, perhaps, yeah. They can be like, have a bromance.
Erika:And then the top comment is, that's all green flags. Her dad likes you and making a joke of it, own it. Express all the love. Exactly.
Edgar:Oh, well.
Erika:He was so dramatic. The air shattered was insane.
Edgar:I know. Maybe he played it up a little, but
Erika:I think this is a cute story. I think he should definitely just go with it.
Edgar:Yeah, I do think it's a little heartwarming. I like to imagine the dad's this big six'eight brawly guy saying, Love you too.
Erika:I know, right? And it's just picturing too, just a really muscular guy, tall, bald, I don't know. We have
Edgar:the same vision with this guy.
Erika:I know.
Edgar:Yeah, so final advice for OP?
Erika:Yeah, just go with it, OP. He likes you, you should be happy about that.
Edgar:Yeah, maybe if you're lucky you walk down the aisle with him.
Erika:You're so funny. But you could have a second father, it's really nice.
Edgar:Or a second daddy.
Erika:You're so funny. Anyways, the second story, I mean, next story is, am I the asshole for not letting my husband relight my daughter's birthday candles for my three year old to blow out? I, 32 female, have seen and read plenty of stories where spoiled kids have blown out other kids' candles or thrown a fit when they're not allowed to. My husband, thirty five male, apparently has not. Friday was my daughter's tenth birthday.
Erika:The day off, I will make them the food of their choice and a small cake. The party is usually a later date. After we ate, we got her cake ready and my three year old was very excited. I had explained to him all throughout the day that it was his sister's birthday, not his. So he had to wait for the cake.
Erika:We lit the candles, sang happy birthday, and she blew out the candles. This might be where I might have been an asshole. My husband grabbed the lighter and tried to relight them so the baby could blow them out too. I said no. It's daughter's birthday and I refuse to allow my son to be one of those bull kids that can't understand it's not their day.
Erika:His face fell immediately. He said he was just trying to help and keep the baby happy. We dropped it there. He was kinda quiet the rest of the night. I didn't mean to come off harsh.
Erika:I just didn't want my daughter to feel like she had to share her day or that it wasn't all about her. Would she be the asshole?
Edgar:It's like a little bit conflicting for me, like how I feel about this.
Erika:I know, me too.
Edgar:Because I understand, yeah, it's like cute to have like both kids, like both little kids, like blow the candles, but also they do make a point that not every single day, like every single special day has to be celebrated by everybody.
Erika:I just think about the repercussions. Like for example, let's say it's the sister, right? Know, fine, they're related, they're family. But let's say it's a family friend and then what are gonna do? Oh, can you light up the candle because my three year old wants to blow it too.
Erika:Like, you can't expect that, like that's not okay. You need to teach your three year old that your sister's special day, you should not have your blow out the candle either. You know what mean? It's just one of those things where you have to respect and show boundaries.
Edgar:Exactly, otherwise they're just gonna expect that all the time. Then they're just gonna throw a fit if you don't do it.
Erika:Yeah, I think it's just hard. Think being a parent is hard. I'm not a parent, so I don't the extent, to what extent. But I would just say, I think she wasn't harsh. I think it was a good lesson for him to learn.
Edgar:So the top comment was deleted, we're gonna be reading the second top comment.
Erika:Which is, Kids need to learn that not everything revolves around them. Teaching your son to respect his sister's special moment is good parenting, not cruelty. Exactly. It's not fair that the little girl has to share her special time or her special moment when it's not necessary or it's a must. Have you seen those videos?
Edgar:What?
Erika:Where there's like a 10 year old, nine year or older sisters blowing out their candles and you see a little kid trying to blow their candles. Have you seen them?
Edgar:No, but I can imagine how that would happen. Like I feel like a lot people think it's cute, but I feel like long term it teaches like the kid blowing the other kid's birthday candles. Like it teaches them like a bad lesson.
Erika:Yeah.
Edgar:And there's some kind of lessons like especially early on that get imprinted on them and that's just how they see the world.
Erika:Yeah, I've seen a lot of them actually. There's been so many where the little girls or the boy or whatever had to stop them from blowing, because the parents aren't doing anything. Yeah. And you see the little girl stopping them and they start throwing a fit, like grabbing her, pulling them, trying to bite them, pulling on their hair because they wanna.
Edgar:The next generation is cooked.
Erika:It's just insane. I'm like, it's literally the parents' fault here. They're not showing the baby that it's not okay.
Edgar:Yeah, it's like, it's nourishing the entitlement in them.
Erika:Yeah, no boundaries. It's just lack of boundaries right there. And this is so important to teach your child because not everybody's gonna allow you or allow them to cross the boundary and let them do what they wanna do.
Edgar:Yeah. May God have mercy on them if they try to blow my candles off.
Erika:You're so funny.
Edgar:They'll be like, be a combo.
Erika:You're crazy. But I just think it's just one of those things where I don't think she was an asshole at all. At least that's my final verdict.
Edgar:That's your final verdict?
Erika:Mhmm. I think she did good.
Edgar:Yeah, I think harsh lessons are better than no lessons for something that needs a lesson for kids.
Erika:Yeah, or maybe somebody else teaches him a lesson later on and you kinda don't want that. You'd rather you teach them, you know, obviously, I wouldn't say in a nice way, but more of a, you know, early on.
Edgar:The next story is titled Am I the Asshole for Exposing My Late Dad's Secret Second Family at His Funeral Because My Sister Was About to Marry Our Half Brother. Yeah, this is going to sound fake, but I swear it's real and I honestly don't know what else I could have done. I, 28 female, lost my dad three weeks ago. He was a respected guy in a small town, former police chief, very community involved, basically treated like a saint. Growing up it was just me, my little sister Emily, twenty five female, and our parents.
Edgar:We weren't rich or anything, but we were close, or sorry I thought. Anyways, Emily got engaged recently to this guy, Ben, twenty nine male. They met last year at a local theatre and just instantly clicked. He moved here for work and didn't really have any family. They were planning on a small elopement right after the funeral, just to get it over with.
Edgar:So, she was very happy, like glowing. While helping my mom go through dad's old stuff for the funeral slideshow, she gave me a flash drive of a bunch of old photos. Most of them were normal, but then I found a bunch that I didn't recognize. Different women, different kids. One of the kids was Ben.
Edgar:I mean, literally him. Same exact eyes, same weird scar on his lip, everything. At first I thought maybe I was losing it from the grief or whatever, but then I found a letter from that same woman, Ben's mom, talking about protecting Ben from the truth and how she understands my dad had to stay with his daughters. I confronted my mom and she just broke down crying. She told me the truth.
Edgar:My dad had a secret second family in a town like forty minutes away for ten years. He had a whole ass other son. They ended it when Emily was a baby. Mom made him promise to never tell us and they pretended it never happened. So, I grew up thinking my dad was this great, solid guy and he was just living a devil life.
Edgar:I begged my mom to say something to Emily, but she refused. Said I would destroy her. But Emily was literally going to marry this man. So yeah, I told her the day of the funeral. Probably terrible timing, but what am I supposed to do?
Edgar:Wait until after the honeymoon? Oh my gosh, you're She didn't believe me at first, so I showed her the photos, the letters. She started shaking and locked herself in the bathroom. Yeah. I would lock myself in the bathroom too.
Erika:I wouldn't I don't even know what I would
Edgar:do. Okay. Ben knew. Ben knew. He admitted it when she confronted him.
Edgar:He said it wasn't a big deal because they didn't grow up together, and technically it wasn't illegal. Like, what? Dude watched Game of Thrones once and got some ideas, I guess? Yeah.
Erika:This was
Edgar:crazy. Emily called it off. She's staying with her friend. Ben moved out. My mom isn't speaking to me.
Edgar:She says, I shamed the family during a sacred time and destroyed dad's legacy. A few of my cousins are siding with her. As I said, I did the right thing. Okay, so the ones that sided with her mom, like, they're sus. You're sick.
Edgar:All of them are sus. I feel sick and just really empty. Maybe it wasn't my place to drop that kind of bomb at a funeral, but I couldn't let her marry her half brother and live a lie, right?
Erika:100%. You did Emily a solid.
Edgar:Exactly, yeah. It could have been even more scarring. I mean, it's probably pretty scarring already, considering you were going to elope and all that stuff. Oh my god. And the fact that Ben knew about it.
Erika:That's so wrong in
Edgar:so many That's like a weird form of narcissism.
Erika:Oh my god, just because they're not legal. What do you mean?
Edgar:Is this in Alabama? What
Erika:in Alabama? Oh my gosh, I'm Okay, so this is literally a live reaction of this because all I saw was the title and I was like this must be good. I'm like in shock. And then Ben knew? Oh my god.
Erika:Exactly,
Edgar:yeah. I just don't know why the cousins would side with the mom and this. I feel like it's pretty cut and dry. Yeah, of course stop this from happening. Stop the madness.
Erika:I mean, I get that it was his funeral, but come on, they were literally gonna elope. They had no choice.
Edgar:Exactly. I mean, yeah, mom knew all this at the same time, too.
Erika:And it's her fault for not saying anything. She could've avoided this when they were dating, but because she wanted to keep the legacy of him being a good dad and not being a liar and having a side family for ten years.
Edgar:Twenty, thirty years.
Erika:Oh, okay. Was this for ten years, he had a host? Okay. I mean for a long time.
Edgar:Yeah, I mean maybe he was actively a part of Ben's life for ten years, but that's even weirder. Like I just don't understand. I feel like the mom could have just, as soon as saw Ben, just kick him out of town If he really wanted to preserve the family legacy. Because why would Ben be there? Like, it's just very weird and all that
Erika:Yeah, I think she was just in denial. I she just I think she's just in full on denial and she didn't want to accept that he had another family, and so she kept lying to herself for years. She lied to herself so much that she literally made her believe that that was the truth, that he didn't have another family.
Edgar:Yeah, she gaslighted herself, too. Yeah,
Erika:and the fact that he was made up to be a great, respected guy in a small town, the reputation would have been literally on the floor if the police chief had another wife
Edgar:four weeks I mean, he still could been seen as the great guy he was, how he acted. But I mean, having us all blow up in the most important time not important time, but the time where everyone's paying attention to this dead guy, that's definitely gonna stains on relationships.
Erika:I guess karma does come back, but mean, damn.
Edgar:That's crazy. I mean, everyone should be mad at Ben at this. This is so messed up. He was like the true villain in this. If there was an asshole in this story, it was Ben.
Edgar:Because Ben did not have to go to the funeral. Ben did not have to sleep with his own sister.
Erika:That's so wrong! It's so
Edgar:many Ben did not have to justify this. No, Technically my ass.
Erika:I think that dad is the villain. Yeah. The true, true villain.
Edgar:But
Erika:then also Ben. It's the second
Edgar:villain. I feel like the dad was the villain like thirty years ago, but now it looks like he reformed. He looked like he was gonna go off free, go to heaven, all that stuff, and then now everything's coming to light. He did nothing about it because he's six feet on the ground.
Erika:Oh my god, Ben. So, bro, I don't even know.
Edgar:I'd shudder.
Erika:I'm like.
Edgar:I can only imagine how disgusted a OP sister felt.
Erika:Yeah, poor Emily. I oh my god. I don't even know what I would do. Think in the next relationship I'd be like let's do a DNA test.
Edgar:Yeah. No kidding for Emily. Oh my god. That's maybe the requirement for her. I'd be like Do you know this guy in the same picture of his dad?
Erika:No, but for real, this is like trauma.
Edgar:Yeah.
Erika:This is trauma. I would be Oh my god, I don't even know how to overcome this. Oh my gosh.
Edgar:This is definitely going to the therapy sessions for Emily.
Erika:For real, she needs to go to therapy, for real.
Edgar:Therapy.
Erika:Okay, so the top comment is not the hassle. Know, there's never a really good time to find out that you've been sleeping with your brother. I can say this however, there are times that are a lot worse. Like after you've had a kid, like when your child comes home from school and asks, How come I only have three grandparents on my birth certificate? Or, Why does everybody ask me how Uncle Dad is doing?
Edgar:Crazy.
Erika:Exactly. And oh my gosh, and then OP responded, I didn't even think about that. Mike, go barf now. Yeah, I think it's just one of those things where you really, I think she did good. She did her a solid right
Edgar:OP is like, yeah, the final verdict on this.
Erika:Definitely not that asshole.
Edgar:OP was high key the hero in the story. Yes. Emily is like their unfortunate bystander to go, like collateral damage, but I mean, she got off pretty light for what could have happened.
Erika:Yeah, and I also think the mom is the asshole too. She knew about this this whole time.
Edgar:Exactly, yeah.
Erika:And she refused to say anything because she was in denial. She needs Yeah,
Edgar:she could have at least said, not been mad about the situation.
Erika:Yeah. I'm shook with this story.
Edgar:Yeah.
Erika:The last story is I asked a lady at Starbucks out by accident. About a year ago, I, 39 mil, went to The US for the first time. Chicago to be precise. I'm not a big coffee drinker, but I wanted to try an American Starbucks. I go to this place near my hotel and there's a Cubarista, probably late 20s, at the counter.
Erika:She had this super cute smile and was very friendly. So she hears my accent and we start making small talk. In The UK, I usually ask what time people finish work, especially if they say it's been a long day. So I asked her what time she got off work. She looked at me funny, like I was asking more than I was asking.
Erika:And so did her colleagues who I didn't realize were paying attention. She tells me her shift finishes at 3PM and I'm like, oh, that's not so bad. Then I say, see you later, which in UK is bye for now. She's smiling at me as I leave and she says, See you later. My cousin in North Carolina calls to ask how my day is.
Erika:I tell him about Starbucks. He immediately starts laughing and he tells me not to ask women what time to get off work in America. Apparently I may have accidentally asked her out. I avoided the coffee shop for the rest of my trip. I felt so embarrassed.
Edgar:RIP. I mean, yeah, I feel like it's more definitely like a culture thing. Yeah. But OP could have had a date while she was visiting. I don't think that's like the worst thing ever.
Erika:Yeah, I mean, the poor woman got stood up.
Edgar:Exactly. She probably like walked out of her shift and was like, okay, where's this man? Sit there for half an hour like an idiot and had her self esteem destroyed.
Erika:I mean, yeah, I mean, oh damn. At least he could've just said, Oh, you know, maybe just a coffee there or something. I feel bad. I'm I'm
Edgar:He's obviously too, what's it called again? Shy. Especially awkward.
Erika:He might have been shy. I think he just felt embarrassed, like he said. He didn't realize he asked her out in front of all her colleagues. So, no wonder they were giving him their love.
Edgar:Exactly. Because it just made him look like he was a ballsy guy.
Erika:I mean, yeah. But I think he was just trying to have conversation with the poor guy. So the cop comment is, so you stood up the poor woman, and then Opie responded, not on purpose. I thought they were
Edgar:He's like the kindest asshole ever.
Erika:Well, didn't mean to.
Edgar:Not on purpose.
Erika:Not on purpose. I thought we were just making chitchat. And then there was somebody else who says, Go back and tell her that. Have a laugh and say, Okay, let's try this again. What time do you get off work this time?
Erika:I know what I'm asking. This is so smooth. Sadly, I'm a year too late. I think if I did this now, she'd probably freak out.
Edgar:Probably, yeah. But. It still haunts his nightmares.
Erika:The poor girl, I mean, I guess. I think I'm no reason to asshole here.
Edgar:Except for OP.
Erika:I don't think, I mean it's not that he mean to, but she doesn't know that. So, she probably felt like she got stood up. Poor girl.
Edgar:Yeah, mean, that probably wouldn't be the first time for her.
Erika:Stop. That's not nice. I think, you know, I feel bad for the girl, it's kind of a funny story.
Edgar:Yeah, it's a little bit, yeah, pretty funny actually. So yeah, you find a verdict on this?
Erika:I wouldn't say he's the asshole, not on purpose at least. He didn't do it maliciously.
Edgar:Hope he's the asshole, but not maliciously.
Erika:Exactly. So that's all the stories we have today. Thank you for tuning in to this week's episode. Check out our website, www.yappings.com and join our mailing list for updates. If you love our podcast and want to support us, subscribe and share it to your friends and family, we would appreciate it so much.
Edgar:Also, have a Facebook group called AITA Relationship and Family Drama linked in the description. Join so you can share Am I the Ah So posts you like or share your own stories for us all to judge. We may even read a few posts in one of our episodes if you're
Erika:lucky. Thank you. Bye.
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