Episode 8
· 01:10:06
Yapping.
Erika:Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar:Edgar.
Darielys:Dave.
Chelsea:Chelsea.
Erika:And we are the Yapping snousers. We entertain you with the worthy stories we find around the web. So today, I went to work because we're doing a little bit different day for recording. And we're going to just hopefully talk to you guys about couples and relationships. And how about you, babe?
Erika:What did you do today?
Edgar:Today, yeah, it's just work day. I just had, like, emails and a few meetings. So, yeah, pretty standard. And then continuing with making the games and stuff, where the action items and websites.
Erika:Yeah. I was looking at that. It looks super cute. I can't wait for the rest to see.
Edgar:That was coming. I remember when I was, like, first making, like, the, so did the pop up effect, and I thought whenever I was first making it, I didn't fine tune it enough. And at first, it would just have the pictures of our dogs, like, flying across screen.
Erika:But I
Edgar:fixed that, so we don't we don't
Erika:do that anymore. It was funny.
Edgar:How about you, Dave? What'd you do?
Erika:I did my last final of the semester. I'm the last semester, finally, and I went to work. And what else did I have today? Oh, and Erica made me a hot chocolate.
Edgar:And I thought
Erika:it had yeah. I thought it had milk, and I was so excited to drink it. And then when I saw that it was very watery, I was like, this girl did it with water. Yeah. So it's gonna be a little bit of a situations in the mountains.
Erika:I'm lactose intolerant, so I can't drink milk. However Yes. I thought she had a coconut milk in the fridge, and she decided to use water. Decisions. Decisions.
Erika:Decisions. How about you, Chelsea? What you did today? I went to go try to recruit some kids at the high school. Oh, how'd that go?
Erika:Horrible.
Edgar:Next time you gotta connect them.
Erika:They suck. This generation sucks. How do you do that? Unmotivated, like, disciplined.
Edgar:That's crazy.
Erika:They don't know what to do. I had a kid come up, and he said that he wanted to be a garbage man. Oh. No. Yep.
Edgar:It's not bad. Garbage can get
Erika:a lot
Edgar:of money, actually.
Erika:I think that's why, but I don't think he realized he has to go to school for that, and none of them wanna go to school either. So
Edgar:Yeah. We're a little bit cooked in terms of, like Yeah. I guess, hard work.
Erika:Yeah. And they don't wanna work. People
Edgar:like it.
Erika:They don't wanna work. Lack of innovation. Lack of innovation. So that was interesting. It was also interesting to see the old school.
Erika:I mean, they renovated it now. Is it better? Yeah. Kinda. They have more security.
Erika:Oh, shoot. Do they have more security? That's good, actually.
Edgar:Because everything
Erika:that was needed. Yes. Yeah. Because there's no way I should have been able to walk in and out of the school 5 times. Oh, yeah.
Edgar:Yeah. So last
Erika:time we Yeah. Yeah. Even when I was in school there, it was just that you could literally walk out. They wouldn't do anything to you. It felt like 2 or 3.
Edgar:Wait. Did you announce that you're gonna go there, Chelsea? Like, tell the principal or anyone? Where you just, like, walked in and say, hey, kid. You wanna go to
Erika:your house? No. I'll go down there with my, I went down there with my sergeant.
Edgar:Mhmm. So we had a call table display.
Erika:Wait. You're in the front? No. At lunch. Oh, at lunch.
Erika:Okay. Okay. Oh, dang. That's weird. But it's a yeah.
Erika:Because it's, like, everybody there. Exactly. That's awkward. I feel like it would have been better, like, in the front. Yeah.
Erika:That's, like, people walking in and out. Yeah. Well, they wanna do it at lunch. I don't I don't know. Alright.
Erika:Well I'm just a private womp womp. Very good.
Edgar:So I said only 0 people? Virtuated?
Erika:We had a couple girls come up. Well, it's good. At least some people took interest. Mhmm. Alright.
Erika:And then, our first story is, am I the asshole for moving all my daughter's belongings to my parents' house and leaving nothing for my husband's affair kid. My husband told me Saturday that he had an affair and had a kid from it. Our kids are 14 months and Oh, my mom.
Edgar:My mom. Female.
Erika:And this child is 9 female. Something happened to her mother in the last couple weeks. I was too little bit I was too busy screaming at him to listen to the details. And he was leaving to go get her. My daughter came to me crying saying that he told her she had to share her room and her stuff with this girl now.
Erika:I called my parents and they agreed to let me stay with her in the guest room. Two bedroom condo and my son and I are staying at the house. We packed her stuff, and Monday, my parents, sister, brother-in-law, and nephews helped us move all her stuff to my parents' place. They also helped put locks on my bedroom and my son's bedroom. We moved all my husband's stuff from my bedroom to the 4th floor and that he used as a home office.
Erika:Yesterday evening, my husband got home with an affair kid. He got mad about all the stuff being gone and nothing being left for her. She's from a much warmer area, doesn't have clothes for the cold here. We live in the northern part of the US. This morning, he caught me in the kitchen to complain about about it again and said I was being cruel by make by not making my daughter share with her.
Erika:Am I the asshole? This one's contra it's really hard. Yeah. I don't know. It's really, really hard.
Edgar:That's not her child.
Erika:Yeah. But it's not fair that a little kid is innocent has to be, you know, treated this way when the child is it's not a child's fault. It's the husband and the adult's fault. Mhmm. The the child has no Don't have a kid.
Edgar:Yeah. You don't have
Erika:a kid. Yeah. It's it's adult. Is that adult's fault? Hashtag abortion.
Erika:Okay. Okay. Let's not see that. I mean, like
Edgar:I mean, it's, like, kind of I think it's a little bit messed up that he was just calling the the kid, and a fair kid. Like, it's, like, a weird Well,
Erika:the what the wife was was saying that. And, yeah, it's just one of those things where I just I still I think that he shouldn't have automatically said, yeah. No. We we are gonna have this kid come in here and she's gonna have to share everything. I think he should have gotten a little at least a better communication, a better way to to saying stuff than just, like, putting his foot down even though he did something wrong.
Erika:But why would this was just out of nowhere? Yeah. He just once decided to be like, oh, I have another kid. And then she's coming to the house. Yeah.
Erika:Like what happened to the mom? Oh, okay. I was like bring her bring her bring her into Oh, but this kid is already known about. Right? Like, from what we know or no?
Erika:They're 9. So that's crazy.
Edgar:It's a little bit,
Erika:That's a
Edgar:little too close.
Erika:I think it's That's like a year they're a year apart. Yeah. 10 and 9. The fair kid is 9. I think And the the other 2 are 40 and 10.
Erika:And the the fair kid is 9. So, like, when that baby was a year old, that's messy. Yeah. No. She didn't know.
Erika:So he told her, I don't know where that he had an affair and he had a kid from it. Oh my god. But, like, he told her when the kid was already 9 years old. So he kept that for 9 years. Well, maybe he didn't know and the the one he had the woman he had an affair with just told him.
Erika:He's like, hey. I'm dying and he's care take care of the kid. Oh, that's another issue. Maybe that could be a I don't know, Rhett. Because I don't like how that's too close.
Erika:I know. That's a good
Edgar:idea. We are apart from each other.
Erika:And we don't even know if it's a year. Maybe it's a couple months, but
Edgar:Oh, yeah. I mean,
Erika:it's a couple months. It's like the baby's born, and he, like, went to go ahead go get Yeah. Buffet or whatever. And that's crazy. Then you have, like, a child.
Erika:Right? Like You just had a kid? Yeah. I mean He was busy. Oh, ew.
Edgar:That's not I
Erika:don't wanna pick up the OP doing that, but it's too late now. So the tough comment is, I mean, definitely not the hassle for refusing to make your daughter share her belongings with your husband as a fair child. But also, like, what is your ultimate game plan here? The from the post, it sounds like you have completely relocate relocated your daughter to her grandparents' house. Even if she gets to keep all her stuff with her, it's not fair to move her out of the home just to safeguard her belongings.
Erika:Honestly, it sounds like you need to kick your husband to the curb and let him figure out how he needs to take care of his affair child. If you intend to stay with your husband for some reason, then you need to do seriously work through those logistics to ensure your daughter can come home and figure out how your husband's affair child factors into that equation?
Edgar:So the top common solution is make war fairer children.
Erika:What?
Edgar:He's, like, abandon your your husband and have him deal with it. So just making maybe not not like, a fair of children, but just like fatherless children at this point.
Erika:Fatherless children? Is that what you say?
Edgar:Yeah. He said they
Erika:need to be your husband. But that's not that's not fair for the kid.
Edgar:I know.
Erika:It's just so messy. It's just hard to really give a a whale good
Edgar:Wait. So is LP, like, in general an asshole? I think he's a
Erika:general asshole. I'm sorry. Not life isn't fair.
Edgar:Well, not OP. I mean, husband. Husband is
Erika:I was.
Edgar:I I get the husband
Erika:and wife confused. But yeah. Life ain't fair. So The dad has to deal with his with the consequences. Like, I'm sorry.
Erika:Yeah. I think he needs to deal with it and then need okay. So the she OP replied and she said, I'm going to file for divorce. My plan right now is for my daughter to stay with my parents until he moves out or I move out. I think, honestly, that's the best she can do because it's also not fair for the husband to put a whole load on top of her for something he did something for something irresponsible he did and have her deal with that even though it's not her fault.
Erika:Yeah. That's
Edgar:true. Yeah. Because, ultimately, he, like, cheated 9 years ago. Yeah. 9, 10 years ago.
Erika:Yeah. But that's crazy how he came out of nowhere. And she still stayed. That's crazier. Well, she's planning on getting a divorce.
Edgar:She's divorcing him. But I
Erika:just yeah. I would just leave that day. Yeah. Bye. Bye.
Erika:I'm fucking up that you're never gonna hear from me again.
Edgar:What if your fair child said, mom?
Erika:Your mom is cool. Be like, where? Well, you can't hear a cheerleader. Okay. So It's a little sad because the the children are so small and, you know I feel bad.
Erika:Yeah. Just terrible to, you know, just be like, yeah, your dad is not coming here anymore or your dad is gonna be out of the picture from now on.
Edgar:And they'd be like Why?
Erika:Why? Yeah. You have a brand new family. Imagine, like, a citywide. Older.
Edgar:Bro, those guys.
Erika:That's why. Imagine when they get older and they're like, oh, this is your stepsister. You know? It's just like I don't know. That's crazy.
Erika:Yeah. Oh, we know how Eric already feels about step kids. No. Don't come. I want I always want to adopt, but Edgar said no.
Erika:Yeah. Why not? He doesn't wanna adopt. That's why. Why?
Erika:Wait. Why not?
Edgar:That sound like it.
Erika:He wants to be blood related. He wants, like, kids' kids. Like a blood. Yeah. Why are you saying kids?
Erika:Are you saying adopted kids? Are kids' kids' names? Is that
Edgar:what you're saying? Yeah. They're not
Erika:No. I why are you switching it up on me? Yeah. They are trying to I'm asking okay. Blood related kids.
Erika:I don't know. What do you want me to call them? Them? Stop. Stop it.
Erika:Don't call me young. No. I'm not. I'm just saying. Well well well.
Edgar:Well, on a consensus that we're all if we had we found out our partner had an affair, did we leave?
Erika:Yes. So I think I think I think that's a It it's hard. Okay. We are all unforgiving people, but, yeah, it's fine. It's not it's not the kid.
Erika:It's like the fact that they cheated on you Yeah. 9 years ago, and they didn't tell you that's why I'm a leave. Not the not the kid. Not the kid. The kid has it's not the fault.
Erika:No. It's not the I wouldn't leave because of the kid. I will leave because of him doing that. Cheated on you.
Edgar:Yeah. You
Erika:know, I would leave. And then hid I don't know if he hid the the kid for 9 years or he found out. Either way, that's weird. He got it still. He cheated.
Erika:If he found out, I need proof. I need proof. I need proof. I need a DNA test. I need Jerry Springer.
Erika:But he still cheated. So that's what the issue is at the end. Yeah. So he You are not the father. Asshole.
Erika:Oh. You know what I'm talking about? Yeah. Yeah. Alright.
Erika:Final
Edgar:final verdict, OP, asshole or not. OP being the wife.
Erika:No. She's not the asshole. No. No. No.
Edgar:The husband is the The husband.
Erika:Yeah. 100%.
Edgar:So for our next story, it's titled, am I the asshole for breaking up with my husband after finding out he married me to cover up that he's bi and has been secretly seeing his lover who is a close friend of ours.
Erika:That's insane. So the 3rd wheel the 3rd wheel story. No. Well, I don't think that's a 3rd wheel story. That's Oh, more tricycle.
Erika:Yeah. A tricycle. A tricycle. I don't
Edgar:wanna think about it too hard. Okay. So this
Erika:is a story. Anyway trio is insane.
Edgar:I'm really struggling with the situation. I need some outside opinions. I, female in my dirties, have been married to my husband, Jake, 34 years old, for about 8 months. But we've known each other for 3 years. I thought we had a great relationship, and I really thought I knew him inside and out.
Erika:Well But recently yeah. He's the part him inside and out.
Edgar:Because he
Erika:is getting his insides, but some anyways, let's not say that one.
Edgar:I mean, that's but, yeah, I found something out that has turned everything upside down, and now I'm questioning everything. So here's what happened. A few weeks ago, I accidentally found some messages on Jake's phone. I wasn't snooping, lies, but I picked it up to make a quick call for him, and the screen was unlocked. It wasn't a big deal at first, but then I saw a text from Ben, 35 male, one of our closest friends.
Edgar:Ben and I have known each other for years. We've had dinner together, hung out, shared personal stuff. He's like family, but what I saw in those texts made my heart drop. They're they weren't just casual texts. They were planning secret meetups texts.
Erika:Oh my god.
Edgar:Talking about their relationship in a way that made it obvious they've been involved romantically
Erika:for a
Edgar:long time. Jen. Even while I've been married to Jake. I was in total shock. I honestly didn't know what to think, so I sat on it for a couple of days hoping it was just me misreading things or being paranoid, but when I finally confronted Jake about it, I was blindsided by the truth.
Edgar:Jake admitted everything. He told me that he's been seeing Ben for months and that he's had feelings for him even before we met. Oh, that's crazy. He said that when we started dating and then got married, he did it because he was terrified of being judged for being bi. He told me that he didn't know how to tell me or anyone, and he thought marrying me would make things easier.
Edgar:He thought it would hide the truth and give him the normal life he thought he'd had to have. He said he loves me, but that he also loves Ben. Oh, no. Throttle. It hurts so much to hear that.
Edgar:We've been married for 8 months, and it turned out I was just part of his cover up. I honestly feel like an idiot. I never saw any signs that he was struggling with his sexuality.
Erika:Signs when it's the closet is clear glass. But
Edgar:Now we've had deep talks about everything over the years, and he always told me he was straight. I never once thought that he might be hiding this huge part of himself. But here's the kicker. Ben isn't just some random guy he met.
Erika:Oh my god.
Edgar:Ben is our friend. Someone I trusted. Someone I considered family. We spent so many nights together as a dude.
Erika:And I
Edgar:never once suspected that he and Jake were secretly having an affair in the other room.
Erika:How much would you charge? How much would you charge? How much would you charge me? The most straight up of both of them. It's honestly something
Edgar:I can't wrap my head around. When I came to Jake, he was very emotional.
Erika:And that's how you know he was scared. He told me he never
Edgar:he told me he never meant to hurt me, that he didn't know how to tell me the truth, and that he was so scared of losing everything. He said he's always loved me, but he couldn't keep living a lie. I don't know if I believe him anymore, though. I feel like everything about a relationship has been built on a foundation of lies, and I get and I can't get past that. I told him I couldn't stay in the marriage.
Edgar:I told him I couldn't be with someone who wasn't fully honest with me, especially when it's involved such a huge part of who they are. Jake is begging me to stay, tell telling me that he was confused and didn't want to hurt me, but I'm just so heartbroken. I feel like I was just a shield for him to hide behind, and that's not the life I want. Now I'm questioning everything. I know it's not their fault that he's bi, but it is his fault for lying to me and using me as a cover.
Edgar:I'm also so angry at Ben, who has been my friend for years. I trusted him, and he betrayed me in a way I couldn't even begin to explain. It feels like everyone I thought I could rely on has been lying to my face. So am I the asshole for breaking up with my husband after finding out that he married me to cover up that he's bisexual and has this same man, who is a close friend of ours this whole time, that has the smallest fit.
Erika:Oh my god. I don't want to hurt, but one of the wonders if I'm being too hard.
Edgar:Oh my god. But if I should try to understand Jake better. So that's a long story to say that he caught his, Yeah. His husband in the act.
Erika:Well, Jake's about to be by himself is what he's gonna do. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Edgar:Is he is she the asshole for leaving him?
Erika:No. Not right? Left them to what you leave. I saw a door. That's so wrong.
Erika:That is so wrong. Imagine how many times they sneak snuck behind his back in the same house.
Edgar:I've actually yeah. Because they said they all 3 of them hung out, and then, like, basically work. I don't know. It was probably very messy all over the place. So for the top comments for the story, by Watch Out For Sneks, just because your husband is bi, it doesn't give him the right to cheat.
Edgar:Many bisexuals are monogamous. Your husband needs to be an ex.
Erika:Yes. Exactly.
Edgar:The people I've spoken.
Erika:Yeah. He's already by himself or with Ben. That's just weird.
Edgar:So I guess is that is that the next step now? Like, OP is becomes single, and then Ben and Jake become, like, a a thing?
Erika:The group thing is the worst thing. Ew. So you're telling me they were all together, and then they were just doing stuff behind her back while they're all together? That's crazy. And then and then pretending like Yeah.
Erika:Like, nothing happened. Yeah. That's that's so nasty.
Edgar:That's crazy work.
Erika:That's so nasty. And they were best friends or really close, like, family for years. And they go into that. Doesn't do that. Well, yeah.
Erika:Clearly, they do. Unless your friend family does. Emma. Like, what? Yeah.
Erika:That's disgusting. Mhmm. But
Edgar:men's the asshole. Right?
Erika:Yeah. Yeah.
Edgar:In despite, like, how sad he is. Yeah. The guy
Erika:I don't care if he's sad. He is not sad. He's just he's just sad he got caught. That's all. There it is.
Erika:That's tea. Yeah. No.
Edgar:So I guess he has to be now he has to be open about the fact that he's bisexual, not that everyone knows.
Erika:Very emotional. Yeah. I think that's just an excuse. If you wanted to have a different relationship or open relationship, you should have talked about it and not cheated.
Edgar:Yeah. Because at the end of the day, he cheated. So, yeah.
Erika:Yeah. Alright. So next story is, I found sexual texts of my, on my wife's phone between her and her and her coworker. I, 32 male, have been married to my wife, 32 female, for 5 years. We have a 4 year old child together.
Erika:Today, I asked my wife if I could use her phone to find shipping details on an item she ordered. She was a little hesitant to hand it over, and it appeared she had a new code to enter her phone, but I didn't think too much of it. I found the shipping information and took screenshots of it so I could send it to my phone. When I went to her text, the most recent text was a message she sent to a coworker. Let's call him Greg.
Erika:It was a kissing emoji and a heart on fire emoji. When I opened it, she was replying to a picture of him without his shirt on. She entered the room as I was looking at this and quickly grabbed her phone back. I thought for a second maybe I should pretend I didn't see anything and try to find out more about their conversations, but I couldn't. I asked her, what is this?
Erika:She said, it's nothing. She refused to show me their conversations. She said it would just hurt my feelings. I told her I told her we're done. I want a divorce.
Erika:My gut was telling me there's a lot more going on than what I saw. She and I said they're sleeping together. Later that afternoon, I looked at her cell phone usage records to see how much she has been talking with him. I noticed when I saw the text on her phone, it was from late the night before, but that did not appear on our phone records. Don't know why.
Erika:Maybe once she deleted them, they did not appear. But I did see a phone call she received that day a couple hours after the situation. He called her for 22 minutes. I asked her later that day, have you spoken to Greg today? She said no.
Erika:I told her the proof I had, and she didn't respond. I know she is lying, and I feel she is lying to me about their relationship. I also did some research about some I also did some research and found Greg's Facebook. He's married, been married for 20 years, has 4 kids, and is 10 years older than us.
Edgar:That's crazy.
Erika:Oh my god. This is even worse. So when I was little, my parents went through a ugly divorce that really affected me. Her parents are still together. Ew.
Erika:I said together. I didn't even notice. I did. It was terrible. Edgar's that girl's getting more noticeable.
Edgar:Yeah. Mine's yeah.
Erika:When I was little, my parents went through an ugly divorce that really affected me. Her parents are still together, but I don't think she realizes the magnitude of the situation. I told her I plan on moving out with our son. We currently rent a house. I drop off and pick up my son at school already.
Erika:She didn't disagree with me. I believe she thinks this will blow over and we'll get past it. She thinks I'm overreacting and says it was nothing. My guy is telling me otherwise. If it was nothing, she would show me all the texts and not lie to me about talking to him when I asked her.
Erika:I am most concerned for my son. I do not do not want this to affect them like it did to me when I was young. I did not yell at her, but there is tension between us. I feel bad for him. This is very raw, and I'm still in shock.
Erika:I did not expect this. So what do you think? Is he the asshole?
Edgar:The guy? Yeah. OP isn't the asshole, but No. The wife definitely is.
Erika:Also, if she's gonna cheat, why did she have a fire emoji and a little kiss emoji
Edgar:and I mean like she's been caught why is it why is it going on with this
Erika:yeah like you didn't want to put like maybe like dad A 42 year old man? That's crazy, Eric. Yeah. That's really yeah. 10 and he's been married how long?
Erika:20 years. Oh my god. 20 years. Mhmm. I mean, there is an update that says first thing I did today was go to the bank and open a checking account in my name.
Erika:I also set up consultation appointment for tomorrow with an attorney. I'm also working on breaking our lease and moving out with my son and our dogs. Oh my god. Not my dogs. I'm looking at a place this Friday.
Erika:I so first I so pressed her to see the messages, and she told me she deleted them. I'm looking into ways to access them. I told her if she can't recover the message and show me, I would be telling this to his wife about the situation. When I speak with the attorney tomorrow, I'll ask his advice on what to do. She she says she's on board with me being a primary caregiver and her seeing our son every other weekend and the 2 days she's off during the week.
Erika:I learned today that in North Carolina, you need to be separated for a year before divorce. So that's our plan. If we can agree on a parenting plan, we can file for divorce after the year of the separation. And I appreciate all the advice. Makes me feel like I'm not alone in this.
Edgar:That's crazy. A whole year before you
Erika:had a divorce. I did not know that. Yeah. Is that true? Apparently.
Erika:I guess I
Edgar:don't have a relationship in North Carolina.
Erika:Forget that. Married.
Edgar:But it seems like the wife wasn't even in the the wife wasn't really into the whole family thing because, like, she gave up, like, caregiver
Erika:or something like that. She literally gave that
Edgar:up real quick.
Erika:Yeah. Yeah. She was in she was ready to let that kid go. He's like, yeah. Yeah.
Erika:Have primary care. Every other weekend insane. And the 2 days she's on foot.
Edgar:Yeah. I doubt this this, guy that he, that she ended up cheating with was, like, the first guy that she did with.
Erika:You think there's more?
Edgar:I I think so. Yeah.
Erika:There's more guys?
Edgar:Yes. I I would wanna speculate. There's more guys probably.
Erika:A whole
Edgar:a whole group of guys.
Erika:I don't know, but I think she she probably talks to all her. Seems like her and All her coworkers. Yeah. She might her and Jake should be friends.
Edgar:The whole roster.
Erika:I think he should tell the wife too. So
Edgar:he yeah.
Erika:The other guy can can, you know Yep. It's not fair for the little wife either because she's been Two
Edgar:birds, one stone.
Erika:The
Edgar:Two families down.
Erika:How many
Edgar:how many cases?
Erika:Lives have been destroyed over this. He said he has 4 kids. He has 4.
Edgar:He's a 5 kids.
Erika:Crazy world. And they
Edgar:have 1. It's over for them.
Erika:And not the dogs.
Edgar:In the dogs, Kayla. No.
Erika:That's so sad. Why are you guys laughing? Because I care
Edgar:more about the dog.
Erika:Laughing. I'm not laughing. He's like, oh, it's so sad. Well, I care I care about the kid, but, you know, I'm just a dog person. Dogs are better.
Erika:I'm just a dog person just because I have 3. So, alright. So, yeah, definitely not the asshole. The wife is the asshole, and he definitely needs a good lawyer.
Edgar:Yeah. It's in a I mean, it seems like a pretty clear cut case, and she looks what's it called again? She looks like she is, like, gonna make it as streamlined as possible for him.
Erika:So she's gonna leave. Well, that's what she says now, but you never know. Women change like this. Yeah. Anybody changes.
Erika:They're like that.
Edgar:Yeah. Whole year trying to do that without any, like, law backing is gonna be pretty tough.
Erika:Yeah. And he didn't I mean, he was dumb because he I'm sorry. If you saw that, take screenshots, send it to you. Yeah. Like, get proof because that's literally proof that she's cheating on you.
Erika:Like and that you could use that for your court case. However Yeah.
Edgar:I was thinking, yeah, like, he shouldn't be looking like, he knows that he she didn't he shouldn't press any further, but he doesn't need the
Erika:That's approved.
Edgar:Yeah. He needs the actual proof for if he's gonna do, like Mhmm. Get an attorney involved.
Erika:Yeah. But Yeah. He deleted everything. Oh, she deleted everything.
Edgar:Which sucks. For me Wow. Yeah. That's probably phone records exist and all that things.
Erika:Hopefully. Mhmm. I better exist.
Edgar:Well, I mean, it's probably I don't think it's, like, impossible to find, but, yeah, he'd have to, like, dig actively.
Erika:Yeah. Alright. What's the next story?
Edgar:Yeah. And yeah. So the next story on the list is titled, am I the asshole for threatening to divorce my wife if she didn't become a proper homemaker in the next month? My wife and I have been married for 4 years. I'm 33 and a male, and she's 32 and a female.
Edgar:Her name is Steph. Steph is a stay at home wife, and since we got married, she has been incredibly inconsistent with household labor. I work a physically demanding job, and it would really help if Steph could at least cook dinner more than once or twice a week. Instead, she sits at the dinner table, hunched over her phone for a day, for hours a day. She's completely addicted to it, but she refuses to even have a conversation about this.
Edgar:Now, about twice a year, I have an opportunity to visit a foreign country for work. The nature of the work is to supervise construction and instruct the workers there. The compensation for these trips is always fantastic, and Steph is appreciative when I go because I bring home a pretty fat paycheck afterwards. 3 weeks ago, I was about to depart for 2 weeks on such a trip. At around 10 am, I texted Steph and said that time was tight, but I'd be home by 12:30 to pick up my luggage.
Edgar:I asked her if she would make me something for lunch, and she agreed to do so. I emphasized that I had to about 10 minutes to stuff my face and then get to the airport. At 11 am, I texted her again, saying I'd be home as planned at 12:30. Again, she said okay. At 12 pm, I texted her saying that I was leaving.
Edgar:I walked in the door at exactly 12:30, only to find her sitting at the dinner table, hunched over her phone. When I walked in she gave me this bewildered look. She had done literally nothing. Nothing was cooking. She stepped, stepped up in a panic and said, She stopped making me lunch, but I told her that it was pointless.
Edgar:She sheepishly apologized and responded, don't say sorry. Just be less fucking useless. This made her very upset.
Erika:That is
Edgar:That might that may have crossed a few lines.
Erika:That is too much.
Edgar:Yeah. So I just picked up my luggage, left, and went to the airport. I did manage to pick up some food at the airport, but I really would have liked a home cooked meal before eating out every day for 2 weeks. Oh, okay. I got home last week, and Steph was still angry.
Edgar:She said that what I said to her was over the top. I asked what she had been doing these 2 weeks, and she insisted that she was super busy, see Instagram in Netflix. I gave her an ultimatum. She had 1 month until, January 10th to get her shit together and be a proper homemaker. I told her that if she couldn't, I was going to divorce her.
Edgar:Instead, I was super upset, and for the past week, she has been soaking. See, Instagram and Netflix. She told her family about it, and her mother basically blamed me for Steph's lack of direction in life. I know it's nonsense that a 32 year old woman needs to have her hand held to do anything, but was I being ridiculous with my ultimatum?
Erika:Absolutely not. She's 32 years old, and you're telling me that she can't even cook something. Well, let's not judge it. No. I don't know.
Erika:But, yeah, she is working from home. Yeah. She's doing nothing. There's nothing she's doing. Work is her is she just working from home?
Erika:No. She's not even working. I'm sorry. She's a stay at home wife. Okay.
Erika:So Yeah.
Edgar:So yeah. Nothing.
Erika:If she's a stay at home wife and is not doing anything, I mean, then, hey. It wouldn't hurt you once in a while to pick up that pant. You know? I'm asking you to, like, you know, give me a Michelin star meal. I'm asking you to make me some
Edgar:Maybe a big day. You to
Erika:boil me an egg. Let me That might be too much fun. At least at least you can do. That's just gonna burn it. It's gonna taste like rubber.
Erika:Yeah. Or put in the microwave, it's gonna explode in her face. Oh, god. That's crazy. What do
Edgar:you think about his comment, though?
Erika:Oh, no. That was I
Edgar:think that's That that was
Erika:a little too much.
Edgar:I I can I can understand that he was frustrated, but I think that's the one part, maybe people would find, like, to be asshole ish? But, anyway, I think he's reasonably mad.
Erika:And his reason yeah. It's like It's valid. Understand what yeah. Like, he shouldn't have said it like that. So that's mean.
Erika:Yeah. That's a little bit crossing the line.
Edgar:Mhmm. I mean, like that, if if if anyone like, imagine someone said that to you, like, don't be useless.
Erika:Like, would I believe you
Edgar:or would would you feel the opposite? Would you like me more
Erika:or something? Hands. I would say that. That's ridiculous. Don't talk to me like that.
Erika:You're gonna catch these hands is what's gonna happen.
Edgar:Who were you?
Erika:Yeah. I would be pissed off too. Like, make it yourself. Oh, yeah.
Edgar:It's like you're negative
Erika:or not. Yeah. I mean It's not like she was cooking anyways. But
Edgar:Yeah. That was funny in the comment. He's like, well, I came back home. She was not cooking or.
Erika:Oh, yeah. No, no, no. Nothing was cooking. That's a funny thing. That's terrible.
Erika:Okay. Yeah. Yeah. The tough comment is not the asshole. She's 32 and not even trying.
Erika:If she's a stay at home wife, keeping the house together is literally her role. You're out there working hard and she can't even make lunch when you're flying out. That's wild. The ultimatum makes sense if she's not pulling her weight. Marriage is a partnership, not you doing everything.
Erika:I agree. And then also that the mother's blaming him. I'm like, excuse me? Like, how is this? What do you mean?
Erika:The mom is probably the same way as her.
Edgar:Maybe. Maybe. Or she's like, maybe the mother just cuddles her a lot as well.
Erika:Yeah. Yeah. Mhmm. Very high. I think it's crazy.
Erika:I think she needs to get a wake up call because she she needs to do something. Like, that's it's not okay. She needs to pull her weight.
Edgar:I wonder what what got into the situation, like, for her to, like, not cannot be ambitious. Or I, like, not not at least, like, not wanna do anything.
Erika:Maybe she just got complacent. Yeah. Too complacent.
Edgar:Okay. So final verdict on this story?
Erika:He is not the asshole, but he needs to be better with his words. Yep. Mhmm.
Edgar:Yeah. It was a little bit harsh. Yeah.
Erika:I see. He's not the asshole. Yeah. Okay. Okay.
Erika:So next story is Emma the asshole for flipping out on my boyfriend after he went out on a couple retreat without me. What? Wait.
Edgar:So who did he go
Erika:with? Yeah. Did he go by himself? He just go by himself.
Edgar:I guess we'll find out in a second.
Erika:I'm 29 female. My boyfriend is 30 male. I have 2 kids that are now his biological kids, and we have been together 4 years. Last week, his buddy invited him and I to go on a 4 day couples retreat with him, his wife and his other friend and his girlfriend. Apparently, there are couple massages, romantic dinners, etc.
Erika:We were due to leave today. My boyfriend mentioned it to me, so I started looking around for babysitters. Unfortunately, I was not able to find a sitter. Their dad hardly ever takes them, and their grandmother is just as much as a deadbeat and only sees the kids to post photos on Facebook and act like the grandmother of the year. Normally, when we make plans, he will reach out to his mom or sister-in-law because they're the only people in her area.
Erika:He didn't do that. So I called them yesterday to see if they would, but, obviously, they couldn't. I figured since I could not go, he would not go on the couple's retreat. I woke up this morning at 5 AM to him packing. I asked him what he was doing, and he said, packing?
Erika:I need to leave here by 7 AM and meet up with George. So I asked him why he still intended to go on a couple's retreat when his partner couldn't even go. And I asked him if he had even wanted me to go since he didn't even bother helping me look for a sit sitter originally. Anyways, he said if you wanted to go, you would have found a sitter. I don't have time for this.
Erika:This really bothered me a great deal. He kissed my forehead and left. 50 minutes ago, I got a text from him which included pictures of his suite that had flower petals, champagne, and even a heart shaped bed. Oh my god.
Edgar:For himself?
Erika:Yeah. I just looked back and said have a good time. I took this he took this as an attack and said don't be clipped with me. It's not my fault you didn't find the sitter. So I responded with, I wasn't even being clipped, and it would have been nice if you could have helped me find a sitter.
Erika:I know they aren't your kids, but if you wanted me to go, you should have put it in effort. He responded with, you're being an asshole right now. And quite frankly, you're being over dramatic as well. Am I the asshole for getting upset with the fact that he went without me?
Edgar:Absolutely not. Why are they together? Right? Like, that seemed crazy. Like, you go to a police retreat, but you go alone.
Edgar:Like, do they even know that? Does she have to be with somebody?
Erika:But, like, why would he even wanna go? What is he gonna do that he wants to go alone and not with her?
Edgar:He gets double meals, double massages. Yeah. He
Erika:just wants a break. From her and her kids. Or he can't do something with somebody else. K. Well, I think we should give him the benefit of the doubt.
Erika:Not at this point. Okay. Well, we've seen a bunch of stories where it clearly. That's ridiculous. I ain't mad.
Edgar:Yeah. They have very ridiculous. Like, that's don't go. I don't know. Was that not an option for him?
Erika:I don't know. I think it's crazy that he didn't try help.
Edgar:Is it
Erika:they this wasn't like a paid thing. Right? Like Yes. Every Yeah. I think he paid it's free.
Erika:So that he paid for it already I think his friends paid for it because he said them they invited them okay but if it's a paid thing then I'd I'd go I'm going by myself if I already paid I'm going
Edgar:by low key I'm just going by myself.
Erika:If I paid for it, I'm gonna go. I'm going by myself. I'm getting double the massages. I'm getting double the meals. I'm going by myself.
Edgar:Double the drinks?
Erika:Double the I'm going by myself. If I pay for the But if there's something and everything. You're just gonna leave them? Are they my kids? Because they're my kids.
Erika:No. No. You're not. No. No.
Erika:No. No. No. No. No.
Erika:No. I'm not gonna pull an aircon. This one would be like my step kids aren't my kids, but No. No. No.
Edgar:No. Chelsea's on over the dark right now.
Erika:No. But, like, like, if he didn't help find a babysitter, then that's like that's like that. That's like that. And then he was like, first of all, who used the word clipped? I didn't even I'm a start using that.
Erika:How old is he? I don't know. I wasn't a clipped view. Oh. Excuse me, though.
Erika:Not Jackie. I don't think he even wanted her to go anyway. Yeah. I don't think so either. But why?
Erika:How long have you been
Edgar:dating again? Like, a few months? I don't
Erika:4 years. 4 years. Oh my god.
Edgar:That's crazy. Like
Erika:I think when you marry somebody that has kids, they're also married. I don't think they're married. Yeah. They are. They're married?
Erika:No. No. No. They're not married. No.
Erika:They're not. They're not. They're not. They're not. They're not.
Erika:They're not. They're not. They're not. They're not. They're not.
Erika:They
Edgar:Yeah. Clearly, after 4 years, he doesn't see them as her his kids.
Erika:Yeah. Clearly not. So I think he needs to Yeah. She used to cut her losses and find somebody that actually will, you know, loved her kids as their own. Yeah.
Edgar:Oh, so you guys say this was, like, the divorceable offense?
Erika:They're not even married. They're they're not break
Edgar:I guess, the breakup were the Yes.
Erika:Yes. A 100%. Yes.
Edgar:Except for Chelsea, I guess.
Erika:No. No. No. Listen. Listen.
Erika:Listen. I only said if I paid for the retreat, I'm going by myself. If you paid for it, but if, like, your friend paid for it Yeah. No. Then I'm staying.
Erika:Yeah. I'm staying home. Exactly. But if
Edgar:I pay
Erika:for it, I'm But then he didn't pay for it.
Edgar:Yeah. It was a gifted.
Erika:It was a gift. Oh, it was a gift? It was a gift, so he's still wet. No. No.
Erika:So he's the asshole. Exactly. Thank you.
Edgar:Okay. I was about to go off.
Erika:You're gonna go off. Well, you know, Dave, maybe I'm gonna have a different opinion. You ever thought of that?
Edgar:Yeah. We all don't have to have the same opinions.
Erika:Yeah, Dave. We don't have to agree. You were you were reading the wrong thing. You didn't even know what you were reading.
Edgar:We didn't disagree. You were just ignorant.
Erika:Okay. Anyways, the top cop made is not that. So he's supposed to be your partner. The whole, if you want to go, you would have found a sitter could easily be turned into, if he wanted you to go, he would have found a sitter. It's a weak argument.
Erika:The fact that he took have a nice time as a confrontational text rather than a genuine makes it seem to me like he knew he was doing something that would bother you. It's all very unnecessary. You aren't the asshole.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:I agree with that a 100%.
Edgar:Yeah. OPE definitely isn't. Like, she's meant to be, like, upset. I just think it's ridiculous. Like, for the the husband to just go alone, though.
Edgar:Like, how's he gonna look in front of all his friends?
Erika:He's gonna look stupid because everybody's gonna be, like, with a couple, and he's just gonna be there by himself. Yeah. I gotta be there waiting. That's embarrassing. I wouldn't even go there.
Erika:I don't know. I wouldn't go. That's embarrassing. That's awkward.
Edgar:Yeah. I'll just be like, where's your what? Where's your girlfriend? It's like, she's not here.
Erika:She didn't get a sinner. That's that's so sad. I know. That's so funny.
Edgar:Well, yeah, it's gonna be learn. It's very it was a very bad look.
Erika:Yeah. I think they need to work on their relationship because they want it to last. But if they don't, then it's gonna be over rather than it's gonna Yeah.
Edgar:The dog house to him.
Erika:Let's see. Let's go back. That's even if he gets to get the dog house. It could've be just, like, literally her they just break up worthy. Alright.
Erika:So the next story is
Edgar:Okay. Wait. What final verdict? I guess, yeah, we don't have to do that yet. So the next story is titled, am I the asshole for calling my sister-in-law racist after she compared my cooking to making Kung Pao Chicken.
Edgar:For context, I've been married to my wife for about 10 years, and we're a mixed race couple. I'm Asian, and she is Caucasian. I've gotten along with
Erika:her
Edgar:family, mother-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, but I always felt like her father-in-law and other, siblings in law, Sarah for this for instance, never liked me. I'm a professionally trained chef with 15 years of experience and I work at a high end Chinese restaurant, a spin off of a popular one in Beijing in a large US city. My crew and I have won several awards, and I've been explicitly told I'll be the next executive chef. Sarah is also a professionally trained chef and works at a popular upscale French restaurant in the city. He constantly brags about it and, no joke, compares himself out loud to Ramsay in Bourdain.
Edgar:When never I met my mother-in-law and father in law's house and helped out in the kitchen, Sarah is always criticizing everything I do, whether it's chopping, braising, marinating, etcetera, she's always butts in with comments like, I think you should actually do x like this. I've been patient with my wife and sidestepped those comments, saying things like thanks, but I think I'll stick to the way I do it. Things came to a head 2 weeks ago when my wife, father-in-law, mother-in-law, and I were in her parents' kitchen preparing dinner for my mother in law's birthday. We were running a bit behind, so things were heated, which I kind of liked because it reminded me of work, and that's when Sarah walked in. She took one look at what I was doing, scoffed, and said something like, oh, wow.
Edgar:Okay. So that's not the right way to do things. It hit a nerve, and I pretty sternly told her to stop criticizing my cooking and that I'm also a chef like her. She laughed and said, making Kung Pao Chicken at some Chinese restaurant doesn't count. The kitchen went silent.
Erika:Why you change your voice?
Edgar:Father-in-law snorted Chuckle and my mother-in-law yelled, Sarah, what what is wrong with you? I stopped what I was doing, threw at her and called her a racist piece of shit, and apologized to my mother-in-law for not being able to stay and left for home with my wife. Apparently, this caused a massive fight after we left with my mother-in-law, brother-in-law, and sister-in-law taking my side, and my father-in-law and Sarah saying it was a joke, but kinda true, and that I was being too sensitive. The extended family somehow got wind of this, and now everyone is arguing and taking sides.
Erika:Oh my god.
Edgar:With my wife even getting texts from some of her cousins apologizing for Sarah's behavior. Despite being on my side, my wife is begging me to apologize so that the fighting will stop. No. But I refuse to because fuck Sarah and her blatant racism. Am I the asshole?
Erika:Wait. Definitely not. Right? No? No.
Edgar:Yeah. I mean, that's like kind of I think it's a ridiculous situation in the first place. Like, what family has 2, like, top chefs in there?
Erika:I know. And they have, like,
Edgar:chef beef against each other.
Erika:Chef beef is crazy. Literally just call it cutting. I really think they should just respect each other's cooking. That's it. They I think that was just disrespectful on her part.
Edgar:I think it's just them like, both of them just beefing and trying to see who's, like, the alpha in the situation.
Erika:The meat and childish Chicken is crazy. Yeah. I don't think
Edgar:it like childish, but oh, yeah. The cauliflower chicken is, like, pretty crazy. And I don't know why, like, why she's so upset about, like, him cooking and stuff.
Erika:She's Yeah. I think I don't know. His food tastes better than hers.
Edgar:I gotta be. I like Asian I like Asian food better than French, but
Erika:I like A 100%. Care. I I But
Edgar:I do like frog legs.
Erika:Frog legs? What? No.
Edgar:That's good.
Erika:Thank you. Tell me when you've ever ate them. That's no. I just I can't. I just literally picked your frog legs in the kitchen.
Edgar:It's like fried chicken. Literally like chicken. No.
Erika:Louisiana say that it's pretty good. Mhmm. My friends in in Louisiana say it's pretty good. Frog legs? They tried it?
Edgar:Yeah. They can try it. That makes sense. Yeah. It's like French and Louisiana is like French Canadian or I mean, French American.
Edgar:Yeah.
Erika:Yeah. No.
Edgar:The creole and all that. Creole. Yeah. Yeah.
Erika:There are edits and updates. So the first one is my wife has also informed me that now Sarah may be in trouble at work, and she's blaming me for it. Apparently, one of her coworkers heard her rant about what happened and reported it to management. Oh. Oh
Edgar:god. So, basically, had John found out that she said that.
Erika:That she's a racist? No. She's a racist.
Edgar:That's very funny.
Erika:Okay. Update to so it looks like one of my wife's cousins found this post and put it on Sarah's Facebook wall. Oh my god. Going, is this you? Right?
Erika:Her Facebook friends are starting to comment with things like, is this you, Sarah? And I'm disappointed. I think Sarah's Sarah's still at work. Shit might be hitting the fan soon, and now my wife is pissed too. We'll try to update, but I might have to delete post if this goes no clear.
Erika:Edit 3. I was considering removing it, but I just got a voice mail from my father-in-law that my presence was only being tolerated up to this point and threatened a whole world of hurt if I didn't delete this post. Officially gonna keep this post off. And if you're still reading this, Doug, I'm very disappointed in you. You're better than this, Doug.
Erika:We'll also continue to update, and thanks again for all your support. Father-in-law name. I know, Rang. Doug. Update 4.
Edgar:Not done with Doug.
Erika:Oh my god. Why is there so many updates?
Edgar:Oh my god.
Erika:That's just stuff just went down. It's like another story. I know. My wife got a call from sister-in-law from wife's paraphrasing. Sarah started screaming crying at her the moment my wife picked up and said that she just got demoted because of her agent slur husband apparently.
Erika:Some of her co workers have her on Facebook and showed the post to the management which combined with her earlier rant double whammied her back to being a line cook and now she might get fired. Okay. My wife told her to fuck herself. Oh, no. And now solidly on my side after taking the verbal abuse from Sarah and reading some of the comments here.
Erika:My wife is still opposite opposite of happy, though.
Edgar:Unhappy? To say that. Yeah.
Erika:Okay. Wife called mother-in-law and asked her what the fuck was going on with father-in-law? Mother-in-law was confused, so my wife played back the voicemail I had on my phone. Apparently, my mother-in-law literally just walked away from the phone without hanging up and started screaming at father-in-law. Facebook post has now developed into a cluster flock a flock?
Erika:Cluster flock flame war with family and friends jumping in.
Edgar:Like, they're, like, are invading cruise bases and who's that racist?
Erika:No. But this oh my god. Suffice to say it has officially gone nuclear. Yeah. I can imagine.
Erika:I think I'm gonna have to call this a day, and we'll make an update post when the dust settles. Thanks again, folks. Oh my god. There's a update fight. Turns out I'm not allowed to post an update post for some reason.
Erika:What? No. You provide all the updates in the original post with your many, many edits. You can edit. Anyways, so it says, suffice to say, it's been kind of nuts this week.
Erika:My wife and I had turned off social media for a bit because this shit storm caused by her cousin put in my last post on Sarah's Facebook page. Some people even try to call a restaurant and workout to get me fired as retribution. But luckily, everyone there is a 100% on my side. I guess it didn't help when that half of the calls involve threats, screaming, and some racial slurs. We didn't hear any updates from her family even though we assumed the shipment fanned after mother-in-law found out a father in law's threatening voicemail.
Erika:Still disappointed in you, Doug. That's fine. But that change on Sunday night when mother-in-law suddenly showed up, our doll, with overnight bags. Oh my God. After we took the moment to help unpack and calm down, she spilled the beans on everything.
Erika:Father-in-law, AKA Doug, apparently my mother-in-law and father-in-law were already having trouble in their marriage. It was only and it was only made worse with a certain 2016 presidential election. She's a dem, and he had oh, Democrat. And he had apparently gone more far right since then. Seems that line was crossed with the Kung Pao Chicken incident Okay.
Erika:And his voicemail. Then he refused to apologize for anything. Typical dog. She asked for a divorce, and he went berserk. She didn't feel safe.
Erika:There's there's so that's when she came over. Other brother-in-law and sister-in-law live out of town. You have been able to tell already, but the extended family has largely are arguing fighting, dividing along political lines for a few years now. And my cousin's Facebook post was likely just a layoff the set on power peg. According to, the father has allegedly already led some breakups, excommunication to some family members, and even an argument that ended a police involvement.
Erika:Oh my god. I haven't verified myself
Edgar:Oh my god.
Erika:Oh my god. According to my mother-in-law, Sarah came over to her place on Friday. In writing, the writing was on the wall, and she was basically forced to quit despite her trying to start from scratch as a line cook. The entire self turned against her. Nothing was coming back from the dish pit for her and she was getting the cold shoulder.
Erika:She's a great chef. I will admit this is true, but they took no chances since it turns out, shit you not, they're probably owned by a Chinese investment company. It's not representative. Oh my gosh. I didn't want to add this detail, but it turned out to be true after some research.
Erika:I won't say any further for privacy. Word also got around in the local industry, and Sarah is essentially blacklisted from high end establishments. She's now considering selling her home and moving to find work. As much as I don't like her and found her behavior horrifying, I didn't intend for this to happen. So I've reached out to some buds in other states to see if they had any openings.
Erika:Whether or not she wants to take take it And, no, she has no not apologized for anything either, but I still want to be a decent person for to her. I'm sure as hell don't feel happy for the ending that has occurred. Perhaps bittersweet justice, but that's all I can give you. Thanks all for your support. What do you guys think?
Erika:Oh my god. Why were there so many There were so many updates that should have been another story and his stuff.
Edgar:I think All this
Erika:over, like, how was it
Edgar:about cooking? Next, how about you can just cooking, a dinner for, the mother-in-law?
Erika:That was absolutely insane. I don't think
Edgar:Everyone in that town, the entire family is, like, everyone just imploded overcooking.
Erika:Everybody in the town started to eat. Like it was the the cup that that made everything float. Oh, is it? Yeah. The coconut whatever.
Erika:How do you see that?
Edgar:The pot that was spilled. I don't know. Something like that.
Erika:The cup or something. The cup that overflowed or something. Yeah. I know. I know.
Erika:Yeah. Yeah. Oh my god. It was just a bad it got worse and worse and worse.
Edgar:Yes. Sarah is there. Like, we Sarah can't possibly be that good a chef if she's, like, she's a line cook now. Like, imagine, like, if Gordon Ramsay says something racist, they're not gonna make him a line chef. He's still gonna be cooking.
Edgar:Yeah.
Erika:That's true. I mean, there's probably Sarah is that good a chef, to be honest. Yeah. She is probably trash.
Edgar:Yeah. But I don't know.
Erika:I mean, they really don't stand up for racism here anymore.
Edgar:I know.
Erika:That was crazy. The top comment is not the asshole. Cooking Asian food doesn't count as cooking is racist. Incredibly uncalled for. And shows how much of an entitled know it all, Sarah, is.
Erika:Glad most people over there are on your side, but, yeah, don't apologize when you did nothing wrong. And then after the whole edit, she said, wow. My my post blew up loving the crazy mix of comments here, and the updates in the main post are amazing to read. Can't wait to see how the cluster fuck ends, which means that she got fired. That's crazy.
Erika:She definitely got fired. She deserved that. She She did, honestly. She was doing too much. Yeah.
Erika:Literally, if she just shot her mouth, life would have been hard for her. Exactly. Mhmm. She wouldn't have been demoted. She wouldn't have gotten fired.
Erika:But
Edgar:And she's blacklisted too.
Erika:Yeah. She's blacklisted too. Any high end restaurants, and that's crazy. Oh my god. That's when you make the most money.
Erika:Yeah.
Edgar:Think of her lord, though. Like, in a in a few decades, it's really like, do you still cook?
Erika:That villain arc is gonna be crazy. Oh, no. That's crazy. The fact that the company was owned by a Chinese investment company. No.
Edgar:I feel like it it was just that Sarah
Erika:was like What are the chances? Like, what are the chances?
Edgar:Everything wrong that could happen to Sarah happened. Like, the Chinese company owning her restaurant
Erika:Shit took her turn. For the worst. All her
Edgar:friends and family having an opinion on this.
Erika:Yeah. That's I feel bad for the mother-in-law and father-in-law. Yeah.
Edgar:Yeah. I mean, I think that's, like, an unfortunate casualty because, like, I don't Casualty?
Erika:Yeah. Like, that relationship. Casually got divorced, you know, nothing. Something simple, honestly. That's crazy.
Erika:But
Edgar:I mean yeah. It's just I feel like this is just, like, yeah. As you said, it was, like, the final straw and the camel's back of, like, whatever was happening. Oh, the straw.
Erika:You broke the camel's back there.
Edgar:Yeah. Mhmm. That's another way to say it. I think yeah.
Erika:Yeah. That was a lot. That was so much I didn't think I didn't realize it was that long.
Edgar:Mhmm. Do you think OP was the asshole at all at this point? No.
Erika:No. No. She did nothing wrong. No.
Edgar:Yeah. And I did yeah. It's like I feel like he was trying to be as reasonable as possible. And, like, once he, like, once she, Sara pressed his, like, buttons, like, he he obviously blew up for a good reason.
Erika:Yeah. And then it wasn't even her that spread the rumors. It was Sara herself talking about it at work, and then it spread.
Edgar:Yeah. Like, Sara, like, yeah, made her own mistakes that led up to all of this. And then also, like, yeah, OP wasn't, like, trying to, like, get her her, like, fire, trying to ruin his her life over this comment that was, like, not okay.
Erika:Yeah. It was so much. Mhmm. I think that takes us out. We have one more left, and it is Mhmm.
Edgar:Mhmm. Okay. So, yeah, we'll end with this final story now, which is titled am I the asshole for calling my mom When My Husband Refused to Listen to Me. I, 26 female, recently moved into my first home. I am also 4 months pregnant with our first baby.
Edgar:The pregnancy has been very hard. I have horrible morning sickness. I reached a really bad point where I passed out, hit my head, and my doctor admitted, me to the hospital for a week. When I got home, my husband allowed his brother's family to move in to our 2 or 3 bedrooms. They were evicted.
Edgar:I don't know why. One room was my office, was tossed into our room papers everywhere. The house was a complete wreck. Trash, dirty clothes, used diapers. I started to cry.
Edgar:It was like a light flipped. My husband was no longer the same. My husband told me it wasn't that bad. My reply was fine and you should have got in the house cleaned up before I wake up. Completely exhausted, I fell asleep for 4 hours.
Edgar:I woke up and went to get a drink of water. I couldn't see every glass we owned scattered around the house. They didn't clean a single thing. I aggressively started to pick up the 30 dishes and wash them. The following morning, I was trying my best to work when their kids were crying nonstop, banging on the walls, and so on.
Edgar:Their mother was in her room for hours ignoring them. When my husband came home he was upset with me over how I didn't make his brother's wife feel welcomed in our home by helping with their kids when she was tired. Then continued to claim how nothing was done while he was at work all day in the house, yep, the same one he didn't clean. That led to a fight where I told him I am too sick to have company and they need to leave, To which she replied, they are his family and he won't kick them out. I started to cry again.
Edgar:I was beyond frustrated, exhausted. I physically couldn't do it anymore. I called my mom asking if I could stay with her, telling her the whole story in front of my husband, who at this point was completely shocked, angry. Also, I could tell he wasn't sure what to do. My mom came with my brothers.
Edgar:I have the older brothers. My mom, super angry, so did my husband. Since your family can stay, so can we. My mom quickly took charge. I was sent to bed.
Edgar:My brother started cleaning, complaining loudly at how disgusting my brother in law's family is along with what a horrible husband my husband is for putting me through this while I am sick. I got a text message from my mother-in-law for calling me and for not helping my husband clean up the house and putting my brother-in-law in an uncomfortable position by having my mom boss him around. I added it to add an update. When my mother-in-law showed up, she was super angry outside. I could hear her shouting but couldn't understand what was said.
Edgar:Once inside, she was shocked. My house looked really bad. My brother-in-law lied to her about what happened. My mother-in-law quickly started to help my mom in debossing mode. My house is just cleaned but deep cleaned.
Edgar:My brother-in-law and his kids are now staying with mother-in-law. She didn't know about the eviction. My in laws helped them financially a couple of months ago. My mother-in-law was not happy about it. She sister-in-law refused to come out of the bedroom.
Edgar:She would scream through the door, but that was about it until the family came to pick her up. Last little bit, I did talk to my husband. He seemed very remorseful. I asked for some space where he is stay while he where he is staying at a hotel. He asked to come by and talk to me tonight.
Edgar:My mother and dad are here. Both moms felt like I should have someone here since I am sick. Both moms have set up a meal plan where they trade off and who will bring in dinner. It was my mother in law's idea. Thank you for all your advice.
Edgar:I truly appreciate it. Talk with husband, I summed up since it's lasted 4 hours. It was hard tark. He is remorseful.
Erika:Okay. She writes to a k woman. Oh my god.
Edgar:It's so hard to read this.
Erika:Okay. Brother-in-law was only Hey. You're just so tired. I'm a broke here at this point. I'm tired.
Erika:Then originally oh my god.
Edgar:I know.
Erika:It's 11 PM, guys.
Edgar:Yeah. Then originally, he thought they would be gone before I got home. He said he is tired and emotionally upset.
Erika:Off. But I always get passed out. My husband loved to help a friend move.
Edgar:He he can't even found me. He's he said he
Erika:had no idea how long I was on floor. He was originally scared I had
Edgar:died. Since then, he had nightmares on top of
Erika:dealing with my mom. Family drama. Oh, dude.
Edgar:He admitted to dumping his frustration onto me when it's not my fault. He begged me for another chance. The next steps, we are still separated. He's staying at
Erika:my brother's house in his custody or Casita. Okay. Okay. Are you laughing? No way.
Erika:Yeah. I know. That's the only part I understood. So we are we are going to
Edgar:marriage counseling and individual counseling. He asked if he could come when the home health nurse comes each night into my doctor's appointment. I I agreed to that. Update our brother-in-law, his wife admitted to having
Erika:an affair. She told him, alright. There's no way. There's no way. There's no way.
Erika:There's no way. She told him she got
Edgar:married too soon and doesn't want the responsibilities of being a mom anymore.
Erika:I'm not sure what happened with him and his kids, but I am shocked that she goes away with
Edgar:especially with poor kids.
Erika:With well, how about you? Sorry. This this
Edgar:is reading like a the novella or like a
Erika:like some Hello, Bella?
Edgar:Some drama show.
Erika:I don't get it. I got lost halfway. I I blame
Edgar:this on how she's writing this. Like,
Erika:yeah. That was me there with the whole story. But there's a brother-in-law. Yeah. Yeah.
Erika:Gee. I don't know. What? Yeah. Whenever Ronnie is illiterate.
Erika:I hate I I don't know.
Edgar:I hate when I I read this kind of story. Like, I
Erika:don't like, I understand it what you're writing. There's, like, 20 periods in one paragraph. That's ridiculous. I'd rather have it be in a runoff sentence. Yeah.
Erika:Then 20 periods in one. This is
Edgar:what I'm trying
Erika:to to
Edgar:write a novel.
Erika:This is what happens when the education system fails you. Yes.
Edgar:Just let's remind you of, like, when you went to your high school to recruit those kids. That's a
Erika:little No. Bitch one? Get out. Garbage.
Edgar:Oh, gosh.
Erika:I mean, they probably would. I think the garbage man. That's unfortunate. Yeah. Todd Common says, wait.
Erika:Your mother-in-law called to fuss at you for involving your your mother? There's this pot kettle thing. Not not the asshole a 100%, but houseguests is a shared home required. 2 yeses and not only 1. Both of you agree or it shouldn't happen.
Erika:Your husband has treated you
Edgar:Abominably. I'm not sure.
Erika:I'm not sure. Okay.
Edgar:So suffering here.
Erika:Okay. Wait. Abottomally? Abottomally. No.
Erika:Just skip the word.
Edgar:Yes. No.
Erika:Peter, you bad.
Edgar:Okay. Ned. Say this. Your husband's speech you like shit. Okay?
Erika:No. Let's say that. Okay. 54320. Your husband treated you bad.
Erika:Lee. I'm tired. Me too. Go. Go.
Erika:Go. Yeah. Can I say
Edgar:it again?
Erika:I gotta sleep. Not the asshole. 100%. But houseguests' shared home required 2 yeses and only 1. Not only 1.
Erika:Both of you agree or it shouldn't happen. Your husband has treated you badly. I'm not sure I could deal with that, honestly. Can you go with your mom? And she said, yeah.
Edgar:So So if there's a lot so overall, the story, it could've been streamlined. All the edits didn't add anything to, like, the main question, which is, like, is OPD asshole for being mad at her husband for bringing, like, I guess, family into the house while she was away,
Erika:which I don't think No. I don't think so. But I think they the husband brought in the sister-in-law and brother-in-law. Yeah. And she just wasn't agreeing upon that, but he still did it anyways.
Erika:Mhmm. And even after she said, you know, I don't feel well. This happened to me. He said, no. This is my family.
Erika:I'm not kicking I'm not kicking them out.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:That's what happened. Yeah.
Edgar:Yeah. So I guess on that point, is that OPD asshole?
Erika:Wait. Who's the o p who's Ray again? I'm sorry. I'm I'm still what's the fair? What a fair.
Erika:What a fair.
Edgar:I think this is one of the spice of the story. Okay.
Erika:Keep it up. Sense. Ultimately
Edgar:what what is our verdict on?
Erika:Okay. Okay. So, okay. We're calling her right. Female.
Erika:So, yeah, she is not that. That's who the husband is. Yeah. Yeah. That's what we're all Yeah.
Erika:Yeah. Yeah. She's also 4 months pregnant. So Yeah. Oh, she I missed that part.
Erika:How did you miss that? The first time I She hit her night and she went to the hospital. Yeah. Because of a horrible morning sickness. This story just confused me.
Erika:Like, I only know the title.
Edgar:I know. Based on the title alone, is she the asshole?
Erika:No. No? Yeah.
Edgar:I don't think so.
Erika:Yeah. This was a lot.
Edgar:More of the story you listened to, right? It's like she was just pregnant.
Erika:Yeah. But why did they decide, like, whoever wrote this decide to put one Spanish word in the whole story? I still don't know. Oh my
Edgar:god. They wanted to add some culture into the the story.
Erika:But they added it's funny because they put brother's house in his casita. What? They said house twice. Yeah. Yeah.
Erika:In once I'm so done. Yeah. I cannot. I think that story is cursed. It's a cursed story.
Edgar:You'd be surprised. Most people don't know how to write well.
Erika:Well Yeah. No. That proves it.
Edgar:Mhmm. Anyways I think OP is the asshole for making me read
Erika:this. Exactly. Yeah. I got it. I'm so lost.
Edgar:I think OP is
Erika:to take a language arts class again. I think I wanna hear more about that affair. Yeah. I don't even know what that was. Hanging out.
Erika:That was so random. Random. That's an affair.
Edgar:Hopi, if you're listening to this, go back to middle school.
Erika:No. I might know more about the affair. Anne, tell us more about that affair. Exactly. Yeah.
Erika:What happened?
Edgar:After you learn how to write in middle school.
Erika:At the middle school level. Yeah. Unfortunately, you did not eat with this one open. There's always kids in there. Your actually story.
Erika:It's really sad. Like, it's really, really sad. Fatherless. Chelsea. Sorry.
Edgar:Well, you
Erika:live and you learn. Mhmm. Yeah. So I hope you guys enjoyed all the stories, and thank you guys for joining us today, Dave and Chelsea. I know last last week, I didn't thank Chelsea for joining us, but thank you for joining us today.
Erika:And I hope you guys enjoyed, And we'll see you next week. Bye.
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