Episode 6
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Yapping!
Erika:Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar:Edgar. And Chelsea.
Erika:And we are the Yapping Snouchers. We entertain you with the app worthy stories we find around the web. We have today here Chelsea, my sister, and she's gonna tell you a little bit about herself.
Chelsea:Hello. I'm Chelsea. I just came back from the army. That's not my whole personality, though. No.
Chelsea:Not. None of this cool stuff. And, yeah, that's about it.
Edgar:Yeah. She's visiting us, before she goes to Korea.
Chelsea:Yes. I'm going to Korea.
Erika:Mhmm. I'm going to For a whole year.
Edgar:Korean fried chicken every day?
Erika:Korea. Shouldn't try it.
Chelsea:Everything got in Korea.
Erika:Wake. Wake. No. OMG. Yeah.
Edgar:We're gonna have in Korea.
Erika:Well, you definitely gonna enjoy the food, and I think you're gonna have a good time.
Chelsea:Come back to add it.
Erika:Oh my god. Don't even
Edgar:I'm just gonna have Korean words all over your hand.
Chelsea:Fall sleeve.
Edgar:Oh my god. You're gonna have a poem
Erika:don't see. Do not.
Edgar:A Korean poem on her arm, and she doesn't know what it says.
Erika:I'm not
Edgar:gonna know
Erika:what it says. You're crazy. Mom will die.
Chelsea:Listen. Mom can't hit me in Korea. She
Erika:can't hit you
Edgar:when you come back.
Erika:Oh, she just wears long sleeves long
Chelsea:I'll just wear long sleeves for the rest of my life even if I come back during summer.
Erika:Hey. You're so crazy for that. So, today, what did we do? I just did more of
Edgar:Christmas.
Erika:Yes. That's right. We I did wrapping and just trying to get everything together for what? When is Christmas in 2 weeks?
Edgar:In 1 week and a half.
Erika:In a week and a half. Yeah. And what about you, babe? What do you do today?
Edgar:Woke up late, and then I was just, programming a game. Well, we're making a personality quiz for the Yap Ming Schnauzer website because we're planning to add, like, more games every few weeks just to give you all entertained. And they're all gonna be dog themed, all about Bella, Selena, and Myla. So get ready for that.
Erika:Yeah. And their personality. So which one are you?
Edgar:Yes. It's cool.
Chelsea:It's cool.
Erika:They're not it's not really our dog. So, you know
Edgar:What do you mean? Okay. Oh, wait.
Erika:I mean, it's not like yeah. I tell your dog Teddy.
Chelsea:It's not like I'm really your sister.
Erika:Oh, that's
Chelsea:crazy. I mean, that's cool too, though.
Edgar:We can add Teddy as a secret character. Exactly.
Erika:Oh my god. Yes. He would be cute. It would be cool. Give me
Edgar:the biggest character. You know?
Erika:You're yes. They're adorable. Who's Kezoz? That's true.
Edgar:Not even say that way. Anyways.
Erika:Anyways. I don't even know what you're talking about. Okay. So
Edgar:What did, what did you do?
Erika:Chelsea.
Edgar:Chelsea.
Chelsea:I've just been sleeping a lot. I went to church. I didn't sleep at church.
Edgar:Wow. I know. I'm so
Chelsea:proud of you. It's really a miracle. Get it? Miracle? Church.
Chelsea:Anyways.
Edgar:Bro.
Chelsea:Okay. That was really it. I just came home and was fixing my room up before because it's looked like a mess. So but that was it.
Erika:The unpacking and stuff. Yeah.
Chelsea:Yeah. I gotta pack my whole life away and in the green doe for bag. So yay.
Edgar:All you need is a nice black shirt.
Chelsea:I have a nice black shirt. She does. I'm just bringing a lot of patterns. Maybe I should probably bring solid color things.
Erika:You should.
Edgar:It's gonna be cold in there, isn't
Chelsea:it? Yeah. My friend said, she's already here in Korea, and it's, snowing already.
Erika:Oh, shoot. It's gonna be cold.
Chelsea:Probably. I'm near the ocean.
Erika:That wasn't yeah. It's gonna be really, really cool.
Chelsea:We'll see. Mhmm.
Erika:Alright. So today, we'll be discussing top m I the asshole stories in Reddit. This first story is titled my neighbor kept parking in my driveway, so I had to so I had her car towed. Hey, everyone. I wanted to update on my previous story and well, today, things finally came to a head.
Erika:I woke up early for an appointment only to find Linda's car parked in my driveway again, blocking me in. My husband had left already for work, so I knocked on her door and waited for 15 minutes, but there was no answer. I even tried calling her, but her phone went straight to voicemail. I was running late and completely fed up, so I called a towing company. They arrived quickly.
Erika:As they were hooking up her car, Linda stormed out of her house furious. She yelled at me and the tow truck driver, calling me petty and claiming I could have just waited a bit longer or left a note. I calmly remained I calmly reminded her that I'd asked her multiple times to stop parking in my driveway, but she wasn't having it. She ended up paying the towing fee, and now she's absolutely livid. She's been telling other neighbors that I'm a vindictive control freak, and a couple of them have hinted that I might have gone too far.
Erika:Even my husband thinks I could have handled it differently and avoided escalating things. And, of course, my my mother-in-law, who was visiting today, had chimed in one of her usual subtle digs as we were sitting down for lunch. She cross she casually remarked some people just can't manage conflict like adults. I'm pretty sure she wasn't talking about Linda. So now Linda glares at me every time she sees me.
Erika:My husband is annoyed about the neighborhood drama, and my mother-in-law is treating this like it's my personal failure. I still think it was justified, but I'll admit the fallout is a lot to deal with. I just wanted to keep you guys updated. What do you guys think? Is she the asshole?
Chelsea:Well, she's something. I don't know if she's the asshole. I don't I mean, if she keeps parking in her driveway and, you know, dramatic measures must be taken. I'm for vindictive measures.
Edgar:Like shooting them?
Erika:No. What do you mean?
Chelsea:Execution style. Execution style. Talking about, you know, listen. A little payback don't hurt anybody. Tookes everybody a good lesson.
Chelsea:Yes? Mhmm.
Erika:Yeah. I mean
Edgar:I feel like it's awkward though. Like, you imagine if we parked in the neighbor's, right away.
Chelsea:That's unfortunately a very awkward situation.
Erika:Yeah. If
Chelsea:you're not afraid of an awkward situation, then I guess be vindictive. But if you are, then it seems like you shouldn't be vindictive. But I don't know if it's your personal failure. Maybe, like, personal hell? Maybe not personal failure.
Erika:Yeah. I mean, she said over a past few months, Linda reportedly ignored the request to stop parking in their driveway. So it's been a few months that this isn't happening and she still continues
Chelsea:to ignore it. Have space in her own driveway or does she just wanna be an asshole? Because if anything, that I pose the question, is Linda the asshole?
Erika:She definitely is.
Chelsea:Linda's definitely the asshole.
Erika:Mhmm. And she tried to knock on her door, call her, but she didn't respond. I mean, she had to go to an appointment. She had to do what she had to do.
Chelsea:Yep. I
Erika:don't think it was uncalled for. She did what she had to do. Right?
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:Alright. So the next story is
Edgar:Yeah. The next story is titled, am I the asshole for accidentally letting my sister-in-law get chemical burns in her face?
Chelsea:Well
Edgar:My husband, he's a 26 male and I, 26 female, bought our first home 7 months ago. His younger sister, 16 female, who just got her license, frequently shows up unannounced and has trouble taking no for an answer. Last Friday, she came over after dinner and asked to stay tonight. We agreed since we had no plans, she asked to shower. So we let her use ours as our guest bathroom isn't stocked yet.
Edgar:I splurged on salon quality hair care products because my hair is unruly, and my $27 shampoo bottle was brand new. Later, I found half the shampoo and nearly all the conditioner gone along with my skincare scattered across the counter. She used almost $50 worth of hair products and all of my skin stuff, including my prescription skincare stored in a pharmacy bag. I asked her to bring her own products next time as I wasn't comfortable with how much she used. I was in no way rude.
Edgar:I just explained that I splurged on really expensive products and can't afford to have $50 of products gone every time she showers here. She called me selfish in a passive aggressive way and ended up leaving. By Tuesday, her skin was red, peeling, and breaking out terribly. At dinner with my in laws, Tuesday, she blamed me for not warning her about my skin care. I and then I just explained I hadn't expected her to dig through my drawers and use prescription products, which are expensive and took my skin weeks to adjust to.
Edgar:My father-in-law said I should pay for a doctor visit, but my husband refused, arguing that at 16, she should know better and that it was inappropriate for her to look through my medicine bag to even find the prescription products that was likely the culprit for the irritation. Am I at fault for not warning her? I wouldn't go through someone's personal products, let alone use this stuff like it wasn't my own. I would have been happy to share some skin products. Not my prescription creams, though.
Edgar:She also brought up that I got mad she used so much shampoo and conditioner and basically made me look really bad in front of my in laws. Admittedly, I was upset about the shampoo and conditioner and the fact that she left a huge mess on the counter, but I was very calm and just explained money is tight as we just bought a house, and I didn't want her to use months of product in one shower. Anyways, let me know what you all think.
Erika:Yeah. She's not the asshole.
Edgar:Yeah. Like, $50, like imagine, like like, if a Jean or, like, any, like, guest, like, comes into our, like, apartment and we let them shower and then they use all of your Mary Kay.
Chelsea:Yeah. I love how
Erika:you put that in there. I would be so upset. I would be upset because it's very expensive. And why are you using my stuff without permission? At least ask.
Erika:Yeah. The polite thing to do is to ask before you use anything.
Edgar:He's just very bold. The the 16 year old, sneezer or whatever. To, like, just dig for
Erika:everything? It's his sister-in-law.
Edgar:Oh, sister-in-law.
Erika:Yeah. She just comes in unannounced because she got her her driver license, and she thinks she could do whatever she wants in her brother's house.
Chelsea:Womp womp. That's why she got chemical burns.
Erika:Exactly.
Edgar:I got like so when I first saw this title, I got like, he threw me acid. Yeah.
Erika:I don't mean acid. Yeah. I sounded bad at the beginning, but then when I first read it too.
Chelsea:I was like, alright. She could've passed.
Erika:Yeah.
Edgar:Yeah. You know, the actual for threatening your your sister-in-law.
Erika:I'm annoyed with the parents too. They're saying that she has to pay for her,
Chelsea:medical. On something. I mean, I don't know. Maybe, like, we don't know their dynamic.
Edgar:Yeah. That's a little.
Chelsea:I mean, let's have some decency here.
Erika:Yeah. I think that's why she's like this because her parents support it, and everybody's wrong based on for her. So they need to fix that. Okay. So the next story is, am I the asshole for refusing to help my parents financially after they paid for my siblings' lavish wedding, but not mine?
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:I, 32 female, got married 2 years ago. At the time, my parents told me they couldn't afford to contribute for my wedding because of financial struggles. My husband and I accepted this, paid for everything ourselves, and even kept the events small to avoid any financial burden to anyone. Fast forward to now. My younger brother, 28 male, just got married and my parents paid for everything.
Erika:I'm talking about a huge extravagant wedding with a fancy venue, open bar, live band, and over 200 guests. It's clear they spent tens and 1,000 of dollars on this. When I asked them why they were able to fund this wedding but not mine, they brushed me off, saying their financial situation improved, and they wanted to give my brother the wedding he deserved. Recently, my parents asked me to help them out financially because they're right tight on money. Again, after the wedding expenses, I flat out refused telling them that it wasn't fair for them to ask me for help when they showed clear favoritism.
Erika:Now they're saying I'm being petty and holding a grudge. Some relatives agree with me, while others think I'm being too harsh since family helps family. I feel justified because I've always been financially independent and they didn't show me the same support they gave my brother. But now I'm wondering, am I the asshole for refusing to help my parents financially after they paid for my sibling's lavish wedding, but not mine?
Chelsea:No.
Edgar:No?
Erika:No.
Chelsea:Because, like, they're paid free for your sibling's wedding, and now they're asking for money. That's like
Erika:You're paying for the new wedding.
Chelsea:Like, then you should have
Edgar:They shouldn't have spent so much. Like, I don't even know 200 people. Like
Erika:Me either. What the hell?
Chelsea:I mean, do we know 200 people?
Edgar:Not enough to invite to a wedding.
Chelsea:Yeah. Not enough to invite. Like, if I'm inviting someone to a wedding, like, we gotta be close. Yeah. Or, like, I have to know you in this band.
Chelsea:Like, we're not talking about, like, oh my god. I met you once, like, 5 years ago. Like, you're not getting invited to my wedding. You're yeah.
Erika:I don't even know where you are.
Chelsea:Like Yeah. Like, I'm not gonna invite a friend Shriner to my wedding just because I met them, like, 5 years ago. But that's beside the point. No. I mean, they got they got bands to spend on that wedding, then they should have saved.
Chelsea:Should have been.
Edgar:Yeah. It looked like they, responsible. Yeah. They look like they were always splurged since they're, like, the parents are now struggling financially.
Erika:Yeah. I mean That
Chelsea:seems like a parent
Edgar:issue, unfortunately.
Erika:Well, yeah. They should ask the brother to help them out.
Chelsea:Mhmm. My brother got a free wedding.
Erika:Yep. They should help him out now. Was she was she going to the other daughter when did they even help her out?
Chelsea:So Exactly.
Edgar:I think, like, the average, like, wedding, like, cost, like, in America, at least it's, like, 20 to $50,000.
Erika:So it's
Edgar:probably, like, in the upper band of that that they all spend the one night.
Chelsea:$50,000 too much. I'm going to a courthouse and calling it a day. Just divorcing right there? Divorcing? No.
Chelsea:I'm just gonna go to the courthouse, get a certificate, and call it a day.
Edgar:Oh, oh, the courthouse wedding thing. Yeah. That's probably, like,
Chelsea:yeah, look cute. Those are gonna look cute.
Edgar:Is it cute to, like, do that? I don't know. It's like I feel like it's a little bit sanitized.
Chelsea:What are you talking about?
Erika:I mean, like, it's just nice.
Edgar:Like, sanitized. Like, you're in, like, an office setting. Like
Chelsea:It's a court. At the end of the day, you should have
Erika:I don't think it's Ben.
Edgar:A fancy office.
Chelsea:If you if you if you love the person.
Erika:Yeah.
Chelsea:As long as you're willing to get married, then I mean,
Erika:I don't
Edgar:need to see what it
Erika:is. I don't know. I think Maybe a nice dinner. Yeah. Exactly.
Erika:And then you could well, your sister did have a little courthouse, ceremony. Right?
Edgar:Yeah. And it was like a it was a nicer courthouse number because it was in Hartford.
Erika:Yeah. Mhmm. So it wasn't it wasn't it was pretty cute.
Chelsea:It could be cute.
Erika:But then she had a real wedding. So Yeah.
Edgar:Then she had a real wedding. Yeah. Then she had a real wedding.
Erika:I don't know.
Chelsea:I think it's Maybe, like, eventually, but, like Mhmm.
Erika:Yeah. And I think, like, Wendy's recommending to have it in the house. So Yeah.
Edgar:Yeah. In the backyard.
Chelsea:Backyard. That's cute. Mhmm.
Erika:So what's the next story?
Edgar:Yeah. The next story is titled, am I the asshole for not letting my stepson move back in after he pranked me? My wife, Karen, 45 female, and I, 48 male, have been married for 5 years. She has a son, Dylan, 22 male, from a furious relationship. Dylan and I have always had a decent relationship.
Edgar:Nothing super close, but I treated him like my own and helped support him through college. Dylan recently graduated and moved back in with us temporarily while he looked for a job. Things were fine for a while, but he started hanging out with some friends who he said were into pranks. A couple of weeks ago, while Karen was out of town visiting her sister, Dylan decided it was it would be funny to prank me by wrapping all of my work supplies, computers, files, even my chair, in duct tape. I work from home, and this was the morning of a big presentation I had spent weeks preparing.
Edgar:I lost it. The tape was impossible to remove without removing some of my files, and I had to scramble to piece together my presentation. When I confronted Dylan, he laughed and said, it's just a joke. I told him that this wasn't funny at all, that his lack of respect for my work was unacceptable. He brushed me off and acted like I was overreacting.
Edgar:When Karen got back, I told her what happened and said that I couldn't live with someone who didn't respect me or my home. I told Dylan he needed to move out. He packed up and went to stay with a friend, but now Karen is furious with me. She says I'm being too harsh and that Dylan is just a kid who made a dumb mistake. Dylan has since apologized, but I told him he needs to learn that actions have consequences.
Edgar:Karen thinks I'm being petty and putting my pride above family, but I feel like this is about respect. Am I in a household for not letting Dylan move back in?
Erika:No.
Chelsea:I mean, he like, the prank was good in theory. Right? But, like, I would have stayed away from paper, especially if it's, like, duct tape. Like, I think you kinda gotta know that one. That's, like, kinda common sense, like paper on the tape.
Edgar:Have that.
Chelsea:No common sense.
Edgar:I think at least do that on a weekend. I mean, I mean, he has, like, no job or anything. Right?
Erika:The the I thought he went
Chelsea:to college. Didn't I say that she she supported him to college?
Erika:Yeah. He just graduated, I think. College? Oh, wait. Did he?
Edgar:Yeah. He recently graduated. So I guess, yeah, he has no responsibility at the moment. So I guess he doesn't understand. He's, like, bored.
Chelsea:Yeah. I mean, then didn't she get a job if he's bored? Question mark. Just a thought.
Edgar:I know. Just a thought. But I
Erika:don't know.
Edgar:I I
Chelsea:don't think she's the asshole.
Edgar:Mm-mm. I
Chelsea:mean I
Erika:don't yeah. I think he I mean, I get it. It was a prank. I think it's alright, but I think he should have not touched his, like, work. He worked from home.
Erika:And he he had a really important presentation. And he comes and tapes everything, destroys all the paper that he worked a while for. Yeah. So he has no respect for his thing. So I think it's just disrespectful.
Erika:Mhmm. I'm I'm not saying he shouldn't have pranked him, but
Edgar:But
Chelsea:is it enough to kick him out of the house though?
Erika:He almost cost him his presentation and that's his job. You would
Chelsea:you would have kicked him out the house?
Erika:No. Alright. But, I mean, he it depends on the type of relationship though. That's true. I mean Not everybody has the same.
Erika:Exactly.
Chelsea:Alright. That's fair.
Edgar:I think, what's your call again? What was I gonna say? Hey. The only kinda Lisa on the weekend.
Erika:I think he should have done a less crazy prank.
Chelsea:I think Dylan should have used common sense and not put duct tape on paper. But
Edgar:Would it be enough for you guys to, like, kick him out if, like, anyone did a prank?
Chelsea:I mean In
Edgar:the house.
Erika:Would you be mad at me, Erica? I would get mad at you, but, like, I wouldn't kick you out. However
Edgar:Like, remember remember that stack of paper from the from your job that you had for a few weeks?
Erika:What paper?
Edgar:The the mails.
Erika:Oh, yeah.
Edgar:Imagine if all of that was duct taped and all that stuff. Would you kick whoever responsible, for that out of our apartment?
Erika:No. I wouldn't. I mean, if it was my child, no. Now if it was my child, then yes. I would be like, you're, like, you have limited time here.
Erika:You're just
Chelsea:get out of my house. No.
Erika:No. I wouldn't click them out right on. No. We're just gonna be my house right now. You're gonna be limited time here, so figure it out.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:Would you? How about you, babe?
Edgar:Yeah. I don't like when people touch my stuff. So
Chelsea:Yeah. Especially like I
Edgar:mean, it's like not a super offensive prank to have pulled, but still, like, it's, like, annoying.
Chelsea:In theory, it was a good one. It just didn't work out how
Erika:It's just bad timing, really. Yeah.
Edgar:Yeah. Mostly a bad timing thing. I think if she she did this on a weekend, she wouldn't she would be upset because, like, my papers and my my all my work stuff, but, like, she would have time to, like, fix it and stuff like that.
Erika:The wife is, I mean, the wife is literally agreeing with him saying well, he's disagreeing with him saying, you know, I don't think he's that's, like, something you should kick him out for. But
Edgar:Yeah. I mean, like, after college, like, especially, like, immediately after, you're still kind of like a kid. Well, at least, like, in modern times, like, you're you're acting like a kid. You don't have as much responsibilities as, like, a full adult.
Erika:Yeah. I mean, he's not 12 either. I mean, he's 20
Edgar:22? Yeah. But, yeah, that's sort of, like, relatively young nowadays. I guess, in terms of, like, experience, you know?
Erika:Yeah. But he's not 12 years old. He should know him better.
Chelsea:His frontal lobe is not fully developed? I think his frontal lobe what time you graduate? You're at, like, 24. Right? Your frontal lobe develops at, like, 20
Edgar:He graduated, and he's 22 right now.
Erika:He's almost there. Like, come on. He shouldn't have get a free pass for this. Hey. No.
Edgar:I think he should get a free pass. I'm just trying to figure out why he'd be he doesn't have common sense.
Chelsea:You're a Dylan defender. His name was Dylan. Right?
Edgar:Yeah. Dylan.
Erika:Yes. But and then also that's his stepson. It's not his son. His real son either. So I think
Edgar:that You
Erika:have my dad. It's also that might be some part of the dynamic as well.
Chelsea:That's controversial, Erica. They're dropping controversial takes.
Edgar:Yeah.
Erika:Well Is
Chelsea:this true? Are you saying because they're not blood that he should just throw him to the side?
Erika:Well, I'm just saying it's because That's the tea. That depends on That's the tea. They'll be
Edgar:about I
Chelsea:don't know about y'all.
Erika:That's the catch. Don't be a I don't know about y'all. More of the story. No. I'm just
Edgar:saying that
Erika:depends on this reaction of the whole prank.
Chelsea:More of the story. Don't have step kids around Erica.
Edgar:Because you know what? They're gonna go out
Erika:of that street No. I definitely Work
Chelsea:in that corner.
Erika:You're so terrible. No. I just think that's why he, you know, made a certain decision that way. Because maybe that's, you know, the type of relationship he has is decent. That's what he stated in the on the Reddit.
Erika:So
Chelsea:Alright. Mhmm.
Erika:Alright. So next story is, am I the asshole for admitting a random kid after I almost missed my train? Yeah. This is one was weird.
Chelsea:After what?
Erika:Abandoning a random kid after I almost missed my train.
Chelsea:Okay.
Erika:So throw away because I have colleagues following my main. Also, sorry for the grammar. I was traveling back to the state I work in with 45 minutes to spare before my train. Just chilling when this lady comes up with a kid looking flustered, she says, can you watch him for a minute? I have an emergency.
Erika:I'll be right back. Before I could even respond, she hands me her number and disappears. At first, I thought, fine. I'll be here anyway. About 15 minutes turned into 30, then 40.
Erika:I kept calling her, but she never picked up the phone. The kid was crying and I was panicking because my train was about to leave. When the warning was all blue, I had to decide. I ran to the police check check post, explained everything, gave the kid, her and my number to them, and ran for my train. Just made it just in time.
Erika:A minute later, we were off. 10 minutes later, she called screaming that I kidnapped her kid saying she filed a police complaint. I told her that I called multiple times. She didn't pick up, and the kid was now with the cops. Asked them.
Erika:I then called her a terrible mom and hung up. I feel bad for the kid, but I didn't know what else to do. Am I the asshole?
Chelsea:No. I didn't I like, for me, I wouldn't even have, like, accepted that. I just would've walked away. I left a kid there. Well, we know the type of person you are, but no.
Chelsea:No. She's not the he's not the asshole.
Edgar:I mean, like, what kind of request is that to, like, ask a random stranger to take care of your kid? Like, for me, like, even even just that alone, which just make me think it's like some sort of scam.
Chelsea:Yeah. That's that's weird. I I feel like
Erika:What kind of emergency would you have to go that you can't go with your kid? Yeah.
Chelsea:Like, that's that raises that question.
Erika:Like, just leave him there with a random stranger.
Chelsea:That's crazy work. And you don't even know this guy. Mm-mm. You don't even know this person. Like Yeah.
Erika:I could literally can kidnap you.
Chelsea:You literally could've kidnapped your kid, but you're not the asshole. I mean
Edgar:I think it was a scam, though, because as soon as she left, then the, the mother or whoever, like, dropped off the kid, called her.
Erika:No. He was waiting for
Edgar:No. Like, as soon as she left for the, the train, like, 5:10 minutes later, then she gets a call from the child's parents saying, how could you and then accused her of kidnapping. So it's like a lucky thing that, like, the OP left it with the the police.
Erika:No. That could be it too.
Chelsea:Mhmm. That's a
Erika:really good call. I didn't think about it that way.
Edgar:That's because it might be, like, when I was younger in the Bronx
Chelsea:a person's kid.
Edgar:I'm a person's kid, came into, like, a restaurant that my family and I were eating at, and he was, like, kinda, like he was, like, limping, so we assumed that he had, like, a bad leg. So we gave him some money. Like, tiny Tim? Yeah. A little tiny Tim.
Edgar:Yeah. And then I was so happy. We're not happy, but I was just like, oh, yeah. We helped the kid. And then as I looked out to the window, the kid ran across the street to, like, some guy.
Edgar:Bruh. So that's
Erika:fine. I don't get donations. I don't never donate
Edgar:Oh my god. To charity.
Erika:Is that why you always say that?
Edgar:That's part of the reason. But yeah.
Erika:But never donate. Say that.
Edgar:Never donate.
Erika:What what happened? Donate. That you never wanna donate?
Edgar:That.
Erika:Well, you said part of the reason. What's the other reason?
Edgar:I gotta think about it because I
Erika:That's not a way that hard to do.
Chelsea:He's just against donating until then.
Edgar:Yes.
Erika:That's so funny.
Edgar:I mean, like, most charities, like, the bigger ones too. Like, if you think of, like, Goodwill and stuff like that, they make, like, a lot out of the charities. I think more than the legal amount,
Chelsea:but I don't know. I can't
Edgar:I can't make any accusatory statement. So, allegedly, they they are more for a profit than they are nonprofit. But Oh. Yeah. Well,
Erika:yeah. Just
Edgar:donate to if you're gonna donate, I don't even know where I can't I don't even know where you wanna donate, but, yeah,
Chelsea:just don't donate as a rule. Just don't donate. Yeah. Well, I don't know if y'all shouldn't donate. Maybe, like, once in a while.
Edgar:What what would you donate to?
Chelsea:Probably that one shelter, the ASPC shelter. Y'all know what I'm talking about?
Edgar:In the arms. Oh, okay. There's some music. I gotta make it a new one.
Chelsea:So sad. Those commercials used to make me cry.
Erika:Oh my god. It always comes out at the end of the night too when you're, like Kinda like you're feeling tired and, like You feel sad?
Chelsea:The puppy is behind the cage. Predatory? Oh. I mean, they know how to get you. I'm telling you.
Edgar:Exactly.
Chelsea:Or like, yeah. I don't know, honestly.
Edgar:I might donate to, like, a shelter for miniature schnauzers that look like Selena only.
Erika:Oh my god. You are so bad. It's for Selena. Yeah. So he definitely has a favoritism with Selena.
Edgar:Well, I I don't have favoritism. I just don't
Erika:have favoritism. You totally
Chelsea:do. Favoritism. Yes. Crazy because she latched onto your nipple,
Erika:but the person I heard.
Edgar:That's so crazy. She used to attack me for whatever reason.
Chelsea:At risk? For whatever reason?
Edgar:Oh, the wrestling fighting. Yeah. I don't know
Chelsea:if it's for whatever reason, but they did this.
Edgar:It's her go to move. Well, yeah, her go to move to just try to bite me anywhere. And she's at one at that one time I was just too low to ground. Then she made a jump for her.
Erika:And she did. And she started to
Chelsea:breastfeed. Yes.
Edgar:The chocolate milk.
Chelsea:Ew. Anyways, because you
Erika:bother her too much. Anyway, what's the next one?
Edgar:Yeah. Yeah. And then our next story, is titled a mighty asshole for considering divorce over my wife's ex behavior. Recap. I've been with my wife for 6 years, married for 1.5 years.
Edgar:Her son, let's call him Jake, is 9. He used to call me dad, and we had a great bond. 5 months ago, his biological dad showed up. Since then, Jake has been repeating things his dads say and constantly insults me. I went from he is my dad to he is just my mom's husband, LOL.
Edgar:I talked to my wife about it, but she thinks he's just a kid and that I should let it go. Last week, Jake called me because his dad, who was supposed to pick him up from school and then take him shopping for his mom's birthday, bailed on him. I stepped in, took Jake shopping, and we had a good half day together. I paid for the gift he picked out. I dropped him off at his dad's, and he was sleeping and forgot about even picking Jake up from school in the first place.
Edgar:On my wife's birthday, Jake lied and said it was his dad who took him shopping, and paid for the gift despite his dad never having a job or paying child support. His dad graciously accepted all the compliments and even made fun of the gift I gave my wife. My wife, however, didn't say a word to him. After the party, when Jake went to his dad's, I told my wife I was upset that she didn't stand up for me. She rolled her eyes and said, why?
Edgar:Because he was more thoughtful than you? I told her the truth about what happened, but she didn't believe me. I even showed her my credit card statement and phone logs providing that, Jake called me on Tuesday. Frustrated, I left to stay with my brother because I can't be around someone who doesn't trust me. Here's the thing.
Edgar:My brother thinks I'm right. My mother-in-law has messaged me a 1000000 times saying it's a misunderstanding and that I'm overreacting. My wife hasn't apologized. She came over yesterday and said she feels stuck because she doesn't wanna make her son feel bad about his dad. She keeps saying, he's just a kid and you should be the bigger person.
Edgar:When I asked if she was apologizing, she said no. She insisted it was just a misunderstanding, and added that she's seen how much her ex has been trying. Then she said I was acting like a needy man baby. I told her that if she thinks so highly of her ex and doesn't see my efforts, she should leave because she clearly doesn't get my point. She doesn't seem to care about any of the effort I put in.
Edgar:Her response? That's exactly what I'm saying. You're acting like a needy baby who needs a reward. You need to man up if you love me. So now I'm torn.
Edgar:Should I start talking to a lawyer because there's no point in working on this, or am I overreacting, And should we try counseling? Am I the asshole?
Chelsea:No. No. Maybe try counseling.
Edgar:Counseling.
Chelsea:Because I mean, what can you really do at that point?
Erika:I think the wife is the asshole.
Chelsea:Nicely. The wife's definitely the asshole.
Edgar:Your wife's asshole. The ex oh, yeah. Consider He's
Erika:the asshole asshole.
Chelsea:Be real. He's the ex. He's gonna be the asshole. Mhmm. I mean, I mean, maybe.
Chelsea:I don't know.
Erika:I mean,
Edgar:it's It depends.
Erika:It's fine to be an asshole, but, like, you don't be an asshole to your son. Like, if he needs you to be there, you say you're gonna be there and you just stood him up. That's not okay. Yeah.
Chelsea:It's Mhmm.
Edgar:I think it's like a kind of weird dynamic because, like, even though, like, the the ex the ex slept and didn't, and bailed on his kid,
Chelsea:the kid still, like, loves him still.
Erika:Well, because he's a child. They don't know any better.
Edgar:Yeah. I just think it's, like, it's strange.
Chelsea:And then also, like, the the wife or whatever, like, backing his ex up. It's just like,
Edgar:maybe there's something going on there.
Erika:Well, because I mean, he said that he was gone for a while, and then he I guess he returned, after 1.5 years, because it looks like that's when she married him. Mhmm. And now he's back, and he decided to have his real dad back. So that's why he's, you know, putting up with, you know, the the crap of not him being there for him. Because he wants to spend time with his father.
Erika:Because he basically just vanished out of his life. So I think it's just, it's sad. I think the mom should really do better at parenting. Because she is allowing she's making it okay that her dad is, you know, not a not a good father, not as, you know, doesn't keep his promises and say making it like it's okay.
Edgar:Yeah. Excusing behavior and all that stuff.
Erika:Yeah. Just because he's trying doesn't mean that that's good enough. He should he should know better. He's an adult.
Edgar:Mhmm. So, Yeah. I guess in final, OP isn't the asshole.
Erika:No. Definitely not. And then
Edgar:ex and the wife are the assholes.
Erika:Yeah. Definitely.
Edgar:And they should go to counseling. Is this salvageable?
Erika:I don't know. I mean, it depends on the wife because, honestly, I think she has this type of mentality where she's I don't feel like she's gonna change her mind on anything. And she's probably going to not gonna reject counseling, honestly.
Edgar:Mhmm. Yeah. It's,
Chelsea:I feel like it's a hard decision like, hard position to
Edgar:be in when, like especially when the ex comes back like that. Yeah. Imagine, like, it just makes the relationship complex for them because then there's, like, a lot of feelings that come back, especially if he he's been gone for a while. It's just, like, suddenly comes out out of nowhere.
Erika:Yeah. It's gonna be difficult. I mean, it depends if they both try and they both wanna make it better and, you know, work through it. But if they both don't put the same amount or somewhat, you know, try to make it work, it's not gonna gonna work regardless of the counseling.
Edgar:Mhmm. What did the comments say about this?
Erika:So the top comment is detangling your life now. I feel bad for the kid, but not the asshole. So, basically, to leave and not try. I mean, I think he should at least try with marriage. But if it doesn't work, then it is what it is.
Edgar:Mhmm. I mean, yes. Not like a I feel like it's not a divorceable offense. But
Erika:I don't think so either. I just think they need to have better communication and just talk.
Chelsea:Mhmm.
Erika:And she needs to work on because her kid also lied, and I feel like she just completely glazed over that. Yeah. She lied for her dad. So what else would he be lying if they go out, as for example, that he takes her for takes him for a day, and they do stuff, and he comes back home, and then her mom, his mom asks, how how was your day? He completely lies and says, oh, he took me here, took me there.
Erika:And in reality, he just was drinking, and he was at home doing nothing. Mhmm. You know, that's also abuse. Like, it's just one of those things where you have to teach him not to lie.
Edgar:Yeah. And, like, it seems like the the ex's dad is also, like, putting words into him, like, about, like, his current dad.
Erika:Yeah. Because before, he used to call him dad, but not anymore. So that's sad. You know, they were having a good relationship, but he came over and ruined everything.
Edgar:Yeah. It's pretty hard to get come back from.
Erika:Yeah. Especially as a as a kid, you know, you were manipulated so much easier than adult. And that's really sad because it looks like they had a good relationship, the stepdad. Yeah. The last and final story is Emma, the asshole, don't want to bring my girlfriend to a wedding.
Chelsea:That's odd.
Erika:So it starts off, I have a family wedding coming up. The family's first wedding in, like, 10 years. So it is a big deal for the family. When I take my girlfriend for a year plus to events, she wants me to babysit her, sit by her, expects me to introduce her to every person in contrast, take me to an event, I am fine. I'm happy not to be introduced to anyone.
Erika:If I talk, I will go introduce myself. Not that long ago, I took her to my uncle's 88th birthday party. He lives in a nursing home. I knew maybe 4 people out of the 25 there. I started mingling, meeting the people, trying to understand the relationship with my uncle.
Erika:On the way home, she eviscerated me. She left me there sitting with my aunt. You didn't introduce me to everyone, etcetera. All I can think about was how about I don't bring you next time? It's not worth all this.
Erika:As additional info, she is like the CEO type, runs an organization, getting her way on most things. Recently, I took her to a gala that had about 400 people. I probably knew a 100 personally. On the way there, she gave me a lecture. Don't leave her, etc.
Erika:So walking in, I introduced her to everyone that I ran into on the way to our seats, probably 10 to 15 people, but then I just sat at our table. I only talked to people at our table. I felt so constricted. So finally, I said, let me go talk to my friends over there, and I spent about 10 to 15 minutes talking to the people I knew. Additional info.
Erika:It is a cross country relationship. She happens to live live near my hometown, which I visit regularly and thereby visit her. She comes out to visit me on occasion. She has met my cousins, particularly the groom's mother, whom she has become friends with so. She knows all the details in the wedding, which is also in different state.
Erika:So go to the wedding, both of us would have to travel. Last night, as I was home alone, I had an epiphany. I really don't want her to come to the wedding with me. All I could think about was all the cousins and family that I haven't seen in forever. And being constricted and just hanging with them, she's gonna feel like a boat anchor at this one and a dekida family event.
Erika:Maybe I've just been an asshole about this my entire life, not doing introductions properly. Maybe I'm just not happy about other things. I flew in a long weekend, and she wanted to go out at Jazz's place. She made reservations. She must always have reservations wherever she goes.
Erika:And while out, she got sick, probably bad food earlier. We left early and she is driving home in a brand new luxury vehicle and she pulls over quickly, opens the door, and starts vomiting, covering the door, the cupholders, the hand holds, everything in vomit. We finally make it home and she goes to bed. I go out her car and clean the vomit from everywhere. I get the bucket of soap and water.
Erika:Mhmm. I get the bucket of soap and water and clean it completely, but I realized that some of the vomit is so deep in the hand wells that I need to take a small bit of it apart. I clean it separately and let it dry separately. So I leave the piece out on the console to fully dry. The next day, she is feeling better and has to go somewhere, and I say, don't mind that little piece that had taken off out of the door.
Erika:She starts complaining of how how I have compromised the warranty on her car and how I need to go put it put it back together this very moment. I responded by saying, it's not a big deal. Not going to affect your warranty. She continues to shriek about it. So I get up and spend 30 seconds putting the piece back in place.
Erika:Something about the sequence just irritated me. I just want to go to the wedding and have fun and join my family, but I realized that if I don't wanna take her with me, the relationship is probably over. What do you guys think? Is he the asshole?
Edgar:Frank in general for not bringing her?
Erika:Yeah. I mean, like, I feel like he's complaining about everything, every little thing. I I think he has fallen out of love with her. Like, I think maybe at some point he loved to take charge and the person that wants to be, you know, a certain way with everybody or she likes a certain personality like type a or whatever. Mhmm.
Erika:But now he just finds every little thing for her annoying. And now he doesn't wanna even bring her to family functions anymore. Yeah.
Edgar:That's how
Chelsea:you know it was over from the beginning.
Erika:Mhmm. Because
Chelsea:he get annoyed I didn't
Erika:get done
Edgar:with it.
Chelsea:And all that, bruh. Like, you know it's over. Yeah.
Erika:I think, I mean, I don't know. It's one of those things where I'm just like, well, I mean, if he feels like he has to babysit her on events and he feels constricted with her being there, like, why does he feel that way? Like, I I don't understand. Like
Edgar:I mean, I feel like the like, in general, just for, like, the the structure of OP's post, I just feel like it's too much going on. Like, I I just seems like he has, like, a lot of pent up energy about and pent up negativity about, his his wife or girlfriend. But, yeah, I think he would you guys say he's the asshole in the situation for, like, cons at least considering not wanting to bring his wife around?
Erika:It's not his wife. I think it's his girlfriend.
Edgar:His girlfriend. Yeah.
Erika:Yes. Because, I mean, if you're with her and you wanna go for the long run, you need to bring her to see your family, especially if it's such a big event. If you're not bringing her there, it means literally that you don't want her there and you don't think it's I think unconsciously, he feels like it's not gonna last long anymore. So that's why he doesn't bring wanna bring her to his family any longer. And I just realized that there is a, like, an update.
Chelsea:Uh-oh.
Erika:He said, I had no idea this is that this would blow up like this. Most responses have level of real reality, whether it's not the asshole or yes to asshole or just breakup. However, let me clarify that I wasn't clear enough or just omitted. She did thank me thank me for cleaning up the vomit. She has no problem being outgoing.
Erika:I just think that she wants to turn that off sometimes when not working, particularly when she is with me. She's an incredible woman. Don't let common sense when not in the best mood take away from that. Don't I don't have a problem introducing her at all. I do it all the time.
Erika:It just feels like a chore at this point. It's not really introducing the person that I am with, but better to do this or suffer the worth later. I'm also terrible with names. I remember most people oh my god. I'm like that too.
Erika:I'm such terrible with names. My 2 dashes go something like this, and this is x x. And I then wait for them to say their name because I don't remember right now. Oh my god. I was in a conversation with my friend 50 years about really everything, and he said something to me that I never really thought about.
Erika:When is she nurturing you? Again, thank I thank everyone for sincere comments.
Edgar:Yeah. This dude's like a straight gapper. He's like a clarification and then he, like, just goes into his whole life story again.
Chelsea:Yeah. I don't think we needed to
Edgar:know why. Yeah.
Erika:It's such a long post. I didn't realize.
Edgar:Yeah. That clarification could be like, thank you for the comments, guys. Guys.
Erika:Mhmm. Bro. Well, you wanna clarify some things, which, I mean, I guess nothing.
Edgar:He just wanted to I don't know.
Chelsea:Clarified nothing. Just wanted to hear himself talk. Yeah.
Edgar:I mean for, like, 4 or 5 paragraphs.
Chelsea:I
Erika:mean, I I mean, I can't say disagree with you because there's nothing really useful he updated it. But, I mean, I think he feels like he's doing a lot in the relationship, but I I don't know. I think he's but I think he's doing I don't care how. I don't think it's a big deal. I I don't know.
Erika:I think he's
Edgar:That's not for a woman.
Chelsea:Yeah. I think He's doing
Erika:the bare minimum. I'm sorry. Let me go and get my my girlfriend. This is, you know, this is my girlfriend. How is that so much work?
Erika:Mhmm. Tell me, like, would that be a lot of work for you, babe? Would that be a lot of work for you?
Edgar:For what?
Erika:If you, you know, you introduce me to your family, like, hey. This is my girlfriend or, well, my fiance.
Edgar:Mm-mm.
Erika:No. Were you complaining about it? No. I just I don't get it. And he's he feels like it's a chore, I mean, at this point.
Edgar:I I think he just sees a therapist in the Reddit.
Erika:Yeah. I really think so. I mean Some of
Chelsea:these people just need a therapist in that Reddit. It's really concerning.
Erika:Yes. And the top comment is not the asshole, but the wedding isn't really the issue. When you don't wanna take your partner to an important event in your life, you're with the wrong person.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:I really think he needs to reflect if he really wants to continue to be with his girlfriend because I don't think he sees a future with her anymore.
Edgar:Yeah. Yeah. So in final, is he the asshole OP? I say I just wanna see he's the asshole because I don't like that he just keeps talking. So
Erika:I think he is the asshole because if he really doesn't think that there's a future with his girlfriend, he needs to tell her. Mhmm. He needs to be real with her and tell her, well, you know, I don't wanna take you to this event because I don't see a future with you. And be honest and stop, you know, just saying, oh, don't tell her. Around the bush.
Erika:It's worse. Exactly. So I think he's just wasting time.
Chelsea:Things are not good for you.
Erika:Yeah. So I really think he he is asshole for that, for not being clear and honest with her instead of hiding and not taking her.
Edgar:Yeah. Mhmm. Chelsea. Do you think he was the asshole?
Chelsea:No. But he's not a great person. I mean, is he the ass it's like, I would've call him an asshole, but I would say maybe inconsiderate.
Edgar:Yeah. Perhaps. Yeah.
Chelsea:Because, like, you know, if he really didn't see
Erika:a future, then he should have really just
Chelsea:said that and not be in around the bush and done all whatever. He's doing too much.
Edgar:Yeah. Definitely.
Erika:I agree. He's just he's just not being real with her. He needs to stop and just tell her, you know, that's it. I want this over.
Chelsea:Big boy pants on and call it a day. Unfortunately, he chose the beat around the bush route. So I mean
Erika:yeah. So yeah. He is for me, he's asshole, but you guys both think he's not, which is okay. I just think he is because he's he should be an adult and say what he's feeling to his girlfriend instead of just hiding it from her or not telling her.
Chelsea:Or not being she's scary.
Erika:So then it's still venom.
Chelsea:Maybe she's scary, and he didn't wanna get into an argument.
Erika:But still I yeah.
Edgar:He didn't
Chelsea:make It's worse. It's worse if he it's the way that he did it was worse. Mhmm. The way that he's doing things is
Edgar:Hope he did say that, he didn't wanna feel the girlfriend's wrath.
Chelsea:You're saying It's
Edgar:like kind of a weird weird thing to say.
Erika:I'm telling
Chelsea:you Behind every action, there's there's a reaction and maybe her reaction just
Erika:The one scene with her, if he's scared to talk about anything.
Chelsea:Maybe Erica, he has something more going on.
Erika:I'm defending OP. Yes? I don't get it. Like, if you wanna have a, like, a serious relationship, you
Chelsea:want to
Erika:have a relationship. For that. Clearly, he is not. He's complaining about introducing his girlfriend. Like, it's a chore.
Erika:So Okay. Yeah.
Chelsea:That part was a little much.
Erika:But he needs to reflect on if he really wants a relationship and he has to work
Edgar:for it. Mhmm.
Erika:So I think that is, all for the stories this week. I hope you enjoyed. See you next week.
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