Episode 43
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Yapping!
Edgar:Hello, this is Edgar and I am one half of the Yapping Schnauzers. We entertain you with yap worthy stories we find around the web. Erica is still sick and can't speak as well, I can survive to make her feel better. But she's probably coming back within the next few episodes, so stick around for that.
Edgar:This week we just chose a bunch of random threads from the most popular stories on ramitheasshole, So hopefully you guys enjoy! Our first story is titled, Am I The Asshole For Not Wanting To Educate A Kid About My Wheelchair Hey everyone, I, 39 female, temporarily have to use a wheelchair for longer distances due to a currently undiagnosed issue with my leg. My PT advised me to use one and my husband rented a nice small wheelchair for me. I am able to roll myself, which is a good workout, and did some training in maneuvering in our local shopping center. I visited a small zoo last weekend with my husband.
Edgar:My husband was getting coffee and I was waiting outside the restaurant. A kid aged seven, I don't know I'm not good with ages, and his dad got curious about my wheelchair. I understand that kids get curious and want to ask questions, but I barely understood why I'm in a wheelchair currently and I was really not in the mood to explain my issues or be educational about it. So I just mentioned that sometimes someone's legs don't work. Queue to more questions and I said I didn't want to answer more questions because I was tired.
Edgar:The kid's dad wasn't pleased with the response and mentioned that it was a good lesson for the kid. Now I basically wanted to tell him that I'm not a zoo attraction but there was a kid and I didn't want to make any drama. Luckily, my husband showed up with coffee and rolled me away. Kids ask questions about my wheelchair and I didn't want to educate the kid about my wheelchair. His dad did not like that.
Edgar:So, am I the asshole for not wanting to educate a kid about my wheelchair? I wouldn't say, yeah, totally not the asshole. Like, if anything, it's not the child. I mean, the child doesn't know how to act, to be honest. They're still learning, most children are.
Edgar:But yet the father being some assistant that, oh you should be educated- like this would be educational is a thick move. There's like no reason for anyone to be obligated to do anything for you. Especially like if it's a total stranger. OP was nice enough to give like a simple explanation, like a simple, I don't know if it was kindly worded because I wasn't there, but like a pleasant or neutral response to a question by the kid. She handled it the best that she could, saying, Oh, I'm just tired and all that stuff.
Edgar:But I can imagine, yeah, if you have kids and they are very curious or ask a lot of questions, that does get pretty annoying after a while. I mean it's just like part of kids, anyone that young, they just are very curious. They want to just know the things that they don't know. And that's not the worst thing to happen, but a lot of times, especially in OP's case, there are some boundaries that should be written down. Like, oh maybe don't look at someone strangely and just point out whatever abnormalities that they have.
Edgar:Like I said earlier, the child is not at fault for that. That's something that the parents had to teach the kid so they can be a little bit more socially aware and not lead to any sort of drama that happened now in this story. The top comment is, The kid's dad wasn't pleased with that response and mentioned that it was a good lesson for the kid. Then why isn't he teaching his kid? Lots of lessons in this one.
Edgar:For instance, learning how to respect a total stranger's privacy. Learning that just because you think you're entitled to know, you actually aren't. And learning that most times your need to know doesn't trump someone else's need to be left alone, so not the asshole. That kid is entitled, the father is lazy, who seems happy to delegate his responsibilities to strangers, which makes him the asshole here. And I totally agree with all those points.
Edgar:What the father should have done was just basically like that. It's just like, if the kid wants questions, especially like your own child, you should be the one, and you as the parent believe that it's an important lesson or something that you want the child to know. If you really wanted them to know, you'd be the one to teach them. That way it's a good lesson for both the child and yourself as a parent. Because often when you're teaching, you're forming new ways to something simply.
Edgar:It lets you think about it more deeper or lets you try to find a way to make it clear to your audience. Which is why when I was teaching myself to code, a lot of the advice I got online was if you can just mentor somebody or teach anyone, that they don't have to be drastically more inexperienced than you, but anyone that's just a few steps behind you, it's gonna help them and it's gonna help you solidify what you do know. Back to the story, yeah, the father should have been more proactive about teaching his own child this lesson that he taught was pretty important and not delegated to some stranger, which is pretty rude. Final verdict. OP is not the asshole, but definitely the parent is.
Edgar:And the child, yeah, you can say they're entitled, but I don't think it's totally their fault. The next story is titled, Am I the Asshole for Telling My Wife I Can't Always Stop Work to Do Things for Her? I've worked from home since 2020 when the COVID lockdowns closed my office, and my employer subsequently realized we could easily do our jobs from home without needing an office at all. It works out very well because it allows me to take my kids to school in the morning, come home and start work, and then pick them up on my lunch break. My wife works at an office but her workday starts about an hour after mine.
Edgar:A typical day looks like this. I get up at 06:30AM and get the kids ready for school. I take them to school at 07:30AM and I get home around eight, make some coffee, and then start my workday at 08:30AM. During this time, my wife is still asleep. We typically go to bed around the same time every night, and most of the time I also use that time between eight and 08:30 to prepare lunch for my wife.
Edgar:Sometimes either she or I haven't packed something the night before, but if it's something like a sandwich, then I'll make it fresh right before she leaves. However, I can't always do this. Today I dropped my kids off at school when one of them noticed they forgot their lunch bag. We live fairly close so I could go home, grab the lunch bag, and bring it to the school for her. This however had me getting home at almost exactly 08:30 and I've had my wife well aware that this week is going to be hectic and I will be swamped with work all week.
Edgar:So this should have come off as a surprise. My wife, as she typically does, didn't get out of bed until just a few minutes before she had to leave, giving her just enough time to get dressed, do her hair, put on makeup, read, and head out the door. She has a history of having problems with punctuality and has for as long as I've known her. She asked me to put her lunch together because she didn't have time, but I reminded her that I was swamped and literally couldn't spare a minute, Much less the several minutes it would take to do all that. My job is very deadline based, so there are times I need to be working on a certain task by a certain time and it needs to be done.
Edgar:If I don't do my job, many other people can't do theirs and it would hold up our whole process. I hold a senior position with 10 at my company, so it's unlikely I'd be fired if I miss a single deadline, it's but not something I want to do if I can help it. It can be frustrating when she acts like I can always just drop what I'm doing. And as she left she said, I don't know why you care so much about this company you work for. You should care more about your family.
Edgar:And then walked out the door. I feel like that's unfair because I believe I have an excellent track record when it comes to caring about my family. I've often thought about asking her to be the one to get up and take the kids while I sleep in sometimes, but I never do because in the end I'm glad she's able to get extra sleep before she heads to a job where she's on her feet all day. Yet somehow she thinks I am the asshole for making work a priority in this rare situation. Is she right?
Edgar:I empathize with empathize, empathize, I get those words confused, but yeah, I feel for OP here that he has like a lot of responsibilities in this position and he's able it seems like he's able to juggle well enough, like this full time senior position role, while also being like a decent father and husband. I would say more than decent, since he's waking up super early, going to sleep early, and also be there for his children. It's a little bit unfair on the wife's part, but I mean, this is like a case where both OP and his wife should have some sort of, not boundaries, but more like, just come to an understanding about the whole situation. Because I feel like this doesn't come out of the blue from the wife's end. Like she doesn't just like, Oh, because it is one instance, I think that you put your work over your family.
Edgar:This is probably something that's been bubbling for a while now and this is just how she feels about the situation. That she feels that OP cares about work more than his own family. But a question for OP's wife, why is he working so hard? What is this all for? Because I imagine in a senior position, it's allowing their family to live a pretty financially stable and well off life.
Edgar:And to work that hard and to facilitate all that. And he wants to get a job. Like I know he says that he can, he doesn't miss deadlines, he can afford to miss like a few of them. And I mean, if it was like a more pressing emergency, like, oh something happened at home with like anyone in his family, I imagine that would be something that warrants just missing a deadline for OPay. But for something as simple as just like, oh, I just don't have time for or something as simple as making breakfast for your wife, which is one time, like, just missing out on that because you have a deadline, it's like something that just isn't worth, like, using, like, one of your few brownie points with your company.
Edgar:I do think they just don't see eye to eye at the end. And that's not a divorce bullpense at all or anything to go to couples counseling for, but it just means that they just have to talk it through and just realize that even though it seems like they have different priorities, all for the same common goal, which is that they have like a stable family that is happy and that they are continually or that they're continuing to work as a team. So the top comment is not the asshole. You sound like a great partner and parents. I think your wife is being unreasonable.
Edgar:She knows she's being unreasonable and is projecting that on you. I think you two should have a conversation and let her know how unfair that was of her to say and how it made you feel, and things like that are not okay. Yeah, and that's basically what I said, like, having this sort of comment thrown out, yeah, it comes from a bubbling from the wife's end. But also it shouldn't be something that is habit. This is the kind of exchanges that they have because it's very toxic for the relationship.
Edgar:Even though as a one time thing, not a bad signal for the relationship, if this becomes a habit then it would be something that creates resentment between both OP and the wife. From my point of view, the wife is being unreasonable saying all this when she it seems like she has a little bit more time waking up in the morning, which is fine. Not everyone's a morning person. I'm definitely not a morning person at all. But yeah, this is the sort of thing that you just need to have a one on one conversation with your partner just to make sure that you guys are on the same page.
Edgar:I'm sure the wife is probably was like a little bit grouchy or has her own issues at work. Like OP doesn't mention all of the we're only just getting this from OP's side and not the wife's side. But still, this is something that warrants a discussion. So final verdict. Yeah OP and the wife honestly, they're not acting as assholes in this situation.
Edgar:I know OP probably was hurt by that comment. He seems like he's giving a lot for the family and for work, his children and his wife. To hear that kind of sucks. But this is like an opportunity for them to get closer by just trying to resolve an issue in an adult and loving way. So the next story is titled, Am I the Asshole for Rejecting My Mom's Loving Gesture?
Edgar:I, autistic adult male, live with my mother. She works with cooking while I work at home doing art. My mother works at a restaurant that focuses on pastas and noodles and she has brought home food from work and it's often, you guessed it, pasta. I don't like pasta, but I will eat it if I'm very hungry. However, I've gotten very tired of pasta really quick.
Edgar:I'd say it's on my list of disliked foods and she should know this because I've told her a couple of times already. It's not like I don't cook, I do. In fact, since she works all day, I'm the only one who cooks for me and for her when she comes back from work. She oftentimes doesn't eat what I made because she's too tired or because she already ate at work, and that's fine by me. Anyways, a few weeks ago I told her about how I was craving some fried rice from the Chinese takeout and she told me she'd bring some one of these days.
Edgar:Well, fast forward to today and she texts me saying she's at one of these places that sells fried rice. Then she proceeds to tell me she wants to order pasta instead of fried rice because she's not feeling fried rice today. And I tell her it's confusing of her to tell me that knowing I wanted fried rice and I'm tired of pasta. And I told her that's like me telling you I want donuts and then you walk into a donut shop and buy me a cupcake instead. Why?
Edgar:She got pretty angry at me and started saying, Make your choice already. But what choice? She did not give me a choice. And I mentioned this to her and she went on about how I'm ungrateful. It really stung, so when she asked me if I still wanted a pasta, I told her she didn't need to buy me anything if she did not want to waste her money.
Edgar:Because during her rant she mentioned her money being tight and I thought this would ease things up. This only made her more angry and she sent me a message saying how this was a loving gesture and how ungrateful I am. I hate being called ungrateful because she uses it towards me a lot and it really does hurt me, especially since I am autistic and a picky either. Despite that, I still eat pasta because whenever she brings some home, I'm just tired of it. She has a history of bringing me things I do not like and expect me to like it.
Edgar:It feels like she doesn't know me at all, even though I am her son, and I communicated with her about my likes and dislikes. So, am I the asshole? Yeah, Ophie. Yeah, you're definitely the asshole in this one. I'm very grateful for my family and I guess I used to be a very picky eater when I was younger, but going to college and that entire experience away from my family just made me appreciate food porn.
Edgar:Because at least right now I see food as more of an energy thing first and then second just something that is good. But in in ever college life, you just don't have a lot of options. So I just learned to enjoy all food, veggies included, which I was definitely not a veggie child when I was younger. On top of that as well, parents, they do a lot for you. Like if you have a stay at home mom, they are still doing a lot of work maintaining that house.
Edgar:But if you have parents that also work, like your parent does OP, they're doing that and also they're cooking for you or trying to find some way to put food on your plate in whatever way they can. Like, sorry that you don't like pasta anymore because you have it every day, but that's like what she is able to provide at this moment. And I'm sure she is sick of plastic as well, but she still eats it because it's something for survival and she's able to bring extra and share it with you because she cares about you. So yeah, think of all the other people who don't have parents, either because they have strenuous circumstances or they just aren't around anymore. I imagine a lot of those people wish they had at least one more meal or one more day with their parents.
Edgar:Another thing I like to point out too is Opie, your mother keeps saying that you are ungrateful and you say those things because you don't like being called ungrateful. But the surefire way to not be called ungrateful is if you show some gratefulness from time to time. So let's read the top comment. The top comment is, not the asshole. This is weird.
Edgar:Why couldn't she just get fried rice for you and pasta for herself? And I mean, yeah, from what I see from all of the Reddit posts or all the Reddit commenters, it seems like a lot of them are saying that OP is not the asshole and OP is in there right here and they're asking, Oh, why didn't she just get pasta? So I feel like they're maybe not understanding the situation to be honest. Like they're all wrong and I'm right in here. But I don't understand how they don't see that OP is working I don't even know if he's working from home, because he seems like he's just doing art.
Edgar:I imagine he's not bringing any money, so the mother is the one providing for the entire family. Though so ultimately the entire decision on food and a bunch of that stuff, that's not in OP's control nor should he expect it to be. He can suggest things, but in cases like this where Obi's mom is clearly tired and overworked, being a little bit more empathetic and just saying, Yeah, and you being more empathetic and allowing your parent to help you out the best they can would go a long way in the relationship between OP and his mother. I I hear a lot of people who say, Oh, if you ever move back with your parents after college or after you've been away for so long, that's like a surefire way to destroy your relationship with your parents. And I moved back with my parents after college and I did not feel that at all.
Edgar:If anything, I felt like a lot more stronger and closer with them after moving back. So it just makes me wonder what kind of situation is going on between their like what kind of friction could actually be going on. Like I'm pretty low key and my family is pretty accommodating and supportive of me. But also at the same time, I am back at home, I do feel I owe them me trying my best to make something of myself. So even though I was at home after college, with not a lot of job prospects, I still try to be as productive as I can be.
Edgar:That's why I went to construction and that's why I studied pretty hard to teach myself how to code and get into a much better tech job. I feel like that's the least you can give to your parents. Have them be proud of you and be able to support them when you can. It's interesting to think about. Do you guys think that moving back from your parents after having your freedom and being away from them for so long is a bad thing for that relationship?
Edgar:Yeah, final verdict. Despite what the majority thinks, I still think that OP is the asshole and his mother would I say she's a saint? No, I think she probably has her own flaws and stuff like that, but I think she's trying her best. As a mother, a loving mother, it's like a blessing within OP's life. I hope he realizes this soon.
Edgar:So, the next story is titled, Am I the asshole who filing a police report on a good friend who was caught on video stealing my boyfriend's camera at a dinner. She has refused to help me either replace it in full or contribute to the cost of replacing it. So that title was a mouthful. I don't have any immediate impressions. I a reading level of a kindergartener to your age.
Edgar:So, more context. We were out to dinner one night at an expensive hotel. My boyfriend let me borrow his Canon G7X1800 camera, yeah fancy camera, to bring to take pictures with my friends. At the conclusion of the dinner, I went up to the room and realized the camera was gone. I went back right down to the table and no one had seen it.
Edgar:I immediately got with hotel security and she is on video, clear as day, swiping the camera when my back was turned and shoving it in her purse. I covered for her initially with my friend and contacted her to find a resolution. She had taken the camera with her and my other friend to a club after dinner, which I did not attend and lost there. Her background, this is my good college friend who I know very well. The camera thief by the way.
Edgar:And she has been taking on free trips to Coachella and St. Barthes on my dime. Not kidding. As well as many other things. We have done a lot of things together and are good friends so I expected her to feel sorry.
Edgar:Initially she lied, saying she didn't have it. When I told her we have her on video, she confessed and said she took it but lost it at the next bar she went to with my other friends. It is now gone. I asked her to help me replace it with splitting it with me on the cost. She had refused all measures or resolutions and now I feel like I have nothing left to do but file a police report and let them handle it.
Edgar:It is impacting my relationship and I am furious my friend is not helping at all. Why should I be on the hook for something she stole? I have given her three weeks to help me resolve this and she insists she is going to do nothing. I am being pressed by my boyfriend to either replace the camera or help him follow a report with her info and the footage. I even asked her to just throw in half or less than half the cost to help, but she still refuses.
Edgar:I do not want her to get in trouble, but I'm at the point where I feel she just doesn't really care. So those are a few updates I'll read back to back. I sent her a text this morning telling her, If I do not receive a full cost of the camera or shipping confirmation of a new camera from an approved vendor to provide an address by the end of the day Friday, we will be filing a report with this police Saturday. I felt like an asshole typing this out to her but I have to do it. And she told me she is sick of me and that I will be receiving a tracking number by twelve eastern on Friday and not to blame her as the package is never received.
Edgar:I told her if she was my real friend, she would be sorry and in no way will it allow this to be flipped on me. Should I ask if the camera is new or is the one that disappeared? Interesting. I mean, I don't believe that the camera would be gone. I mean, can believe it if they were drunk enough, but definitely this other chick is a shady character, I wouldn't put it past her.
Edgar:She could have just pretended to have lost it but have it in or out somewhere. She sent me a tracking number via FedEx. It says that it's awaiting packaging. I ask her repeatedly if she is sending me the original camera, assuming it magically turned up, or a new one. She refuses to answer and only tells me to stop bothering her.
Edgar:And the final update, I am more and more convinced my friend, the camera thief, took the camera hoping that I would just replace it for my boyfriend, gifting her a free camera. For background, this friend is heavily involved on Instagram and loves taking pictures. The Canon G7 is coveted by women because it is known as the Instagram camera. Even if you wanted to buy one at full price, they are always out of stock everywhere. Let's hope it gets returned with this tracking number.
Edgar:FedEx still says awaiting package even though shipping info was sent to them yesterday. So I mentioned this happened over the course of a week. First off, I wanna see how expensive this camera is. Looks like it's almost $2,000. So yeah, basically grand larceny if charges would have ended up being filed, which is what I think OP should have done.
Edgar:Giving because I feel like he was very loose with her friend. Very forgiving for I mean, I guess, I imagine this is a pretty one-sided relationship given the context and given everything that we've read to you so far. It just seems like OP's friend doesn't even care about her. She just sees her as some sort of free piggy bank. OP kind of brought it upon herself by being like a doormat for so long.
Edgar:Now her relationship is on the line, which I mean, since it's a very expensive camera, can imagine the boyfriend's freaking out right now. But that's just what happens when you put your trust on the wrong people. And OP's friend, or now ex friend, is definitely a pretty bad person. Like he's lying, stealing the camera outright, and again lying when there's photographic video evidence. And then to act that way, to act so negatively and annoyed that you were caught stealing a very expensive camera after that friend that you stole the camera from has been giving you free trips and free vacations.
Edgar:It just shows an ungratefulness that think Opie should just cut off after this. Which I'm sure there's no salvaging this relationship. So yeah, the top comment is, You're the asshole. Is there a reason you aren't choosing your feeding friend over your boyfriend? She made it clear she's not your friend and that she's not going to make things right.
Edgar:This police report should have been filed the moment she said she wasn't going to pay for it. If I were your boyfriend I would be reconsidering the relationship with you over this. You're dragging your feet to make this right and get the report made and replace this camera. I mean definitely a police report should be filed if the camera never comes. OP's friend said, Oh don't be surprised we don't get anything.
Edgar:That just screams that she's probably doing something fishy around this whole package thing, this whole FedEx thing that she's trying to send to OP. I don't think Opie's an asshole though. Like, sure like, like, from her perspective, this is her best friend or one of her closest friends. Cashes her stealing and maybe they're so close where she just wants to give this one friend that she assumes is like a good friend of hers as well. Guess she doesn't see it for herself that this is one-sided.
Edgar:But she assumes it's a mutual, they're both close friends. I'm sure she just wanted to say, Oh, I just want to forgive you this one time. I guess she just didn't want to break it off immediately there. She didn't want to have her best friend be in so much trouble over this. But ultimately, I'm pretty sure she sees that camera's either not coming or she's going to have to go for illegal routes to get the camera back.
Edgar:Like I, yeah, understand the boyfriend being upset over losing this, but this isn't something that I would say is worth breaking up for. Because this ultimately this is just a thing. It's just like a you lost a very expensive thing, but it's just like things and that shouldn't be put over your own relationship. Oh and then one more thing too I wanted to add. OP's or at least to Fred or Reddit in general, when you get outside opinions, yeah they're pretty detached from the situation so that's why they hindsight is twentytwenty.
Edgar:The commenter is saying that she should have just throw the book at her friend day one. Yeah, mean that's obvious now. OP If knew the entire dynamics of this friendship that she has with this one person. If she knew that from the get go, yeah. She probably would have just called the police in the first chance they could have gotten.
Edgar:Realistically, there's just like a lot of things that are going on moment to moment that the commenters aren't really picking up on or applying to the case. I think OP is doing the best she could. Now she has to basically make more harder decisions with the police rapport and how to gracefully end the friendship with one person. Yeah, for my pride and verdict, I wouldn't say OP is the asshole. But I say the boyfriend's the asshole.
Edgar:Not really. You're more upset, rightfully upset about losing a very expensive camera. But definitely OP's friend is a huge asshole in this situation. Just the amount of ungratefulness and the blatant stealing, It's just like, this is so much disrespect. Imagine it's like so and it just comes to show you that you're never betrayed by enemies, you're betrayed by friends.
Edgar:The final story is titled, Am I the Asshole for yelling my friend out for implying I was trying to be a homewrecker. So I, 19 female, am in a group project with four other people. Only two are important, my friend and there is one guy from our group. The guy and the other two live off campus and drive. Me and my friend both live in the dorms and we do not drive.
Edgar:We had to meet off campus for the project and the guy offered to drive both of us and meet the others there as it made the most sense. When we were in his car I was shotgunned and my friend was in the back and he drives a small two door so we're all super close to each other. I flipped down the sun blocker to use the mirror and a pull away of him and his girlfriend was clipped to the sunshade. And I said, oh that's cute. Is that your girlfriend?
Edgar:And he said yes. And he flipped his own sunshade down to reveal another picture. I said Aw that's so sweet. And I tried to be friendly and make small talk. I would be working with him for at least the next month.
Edgar:I started asking about his girlfriend. Oh how long have you guys been together? How'd you meet? Did she go to talk college? Etc.
Edgar:I thought nothing of it until my friend asked me what the hell that was later. And I asked what she meant by that and she said that I was clearly being weird. I told her that I didn't understand and she asked if I would be asking all of this if his girlfriend was in the car. And I said no. I probably asked her instead and I told her I didn't see her point.
Edgar:I didn't ask her if she wanted to just never talk to our group mates and the teacher wasn't really clear on how future projects would work. These groups were randomized and he implied that we might keep these groups for other projects as well. However, I am unsure. So she said, yeah, obviously you can get to know them but don't ask questions about his girlfriend like that and used a weird tone like you were flirting and that is kind of disgusting. And I told her that she could get out of here with that stupid shit and that it wasn't that serious.
Edgar:And she told me that she was now further considering I was trying to be a home wrecker. And we have only talked about the project at this point and it's only been a few days. And I'm reconsidering how mean I was to her. It was something somewhat trivial. So I do not know where Opie's friend is coming from with this.
Edgar:Like, I didn't feel like this was a pretty normal reaction when you're just talking to somebody. Like usually when you're talking to a stranger or someone you don't know too well, you either say something, you do some sort of small talk to get a feel for their vibes. And if there's anything you can hold onto to keep a conversation going and to just build rapport, it's normal to just go into that. And from this case, I hope you saw that my groupmate has a girlfriend and I imagine this is one of the few things that he would like to talk about or is very excited about talking about. So of course, just ask questions about that.
Edgar:So I think this is like a very normal kind of conversation that you can have with a stranger that you just met or know very little about. I think OP's friend's response is more like, it seems like an untrusting kind of signal that she has. Maybe she originally feels like people shouldn't talk about, I guess, private manners. I guess depending on how someone sees it, like a relationship, like a relationship status could be a private matter. And it's based all on comfort and stuff.
Edgar:Like obviously OP and her groupmate, they're comfortable enough to talk about this sort of things openly, but Opie's other friend, or the friend that she's closer with, sees otherwise. Calling Opie a hope marker over this, I feel like it's a huge jump in logic. Definitely, to you're seduce someone else, I wouldn't just be talking about their significant other. I feel like that was just I don't know. That's just not a way that for me, I can't really figure out a way to put A and B together.
Edgar:We're talking about who someone is dating is gonna make them somehow like me more instead. I guess this doesn't make sense. But yeah, let's go to the top comment. The top comment is, You were trying to make polite conversations. Your friend was trying to stir shit, not the asshole.
Edgar:And yeah, simply said, I think, you know, homebrew comment is very uncalled for. Especially from your own friend, which I guess says a lot about that friend at least. And I think yeah, when you're in college or high school, a lot of people you know and me befriend. I feel like a lot of those things kind of switch up pretty easily depending the situation. So final verdict.
Edgar:OP definitely is not the asshole. Neither is a group mate. They're both just trying to be regular average people. But it's probably something not deeply wrong, but something like some slight worldview or like social issue for OP's friend or ex friend now. So that's all the stories we have today.
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