Episode 38
· 41:38
Yapping!
Erika:Hello, this is Erick.
Edgar:And Edgar.
Erika:And we are the Yapping Snousers. We entertain you with the app worthy stories we find around the web. Today's theme is workplace foolery. The first story is coworker and I live in the same apartment complex. She's been approaching me at home for a ride to work, unplanned and uninvited.
Erika:Bro. My coworker just moved into the same apartment complex where I live in. She lives quite away, but still a walking distance from me. Last week Thursday, I was walking to my vehicle and I hear my name being screamed many times through the air. It was my coworker from her balcony.
Erika:She was yelling something else that I couldn't quite hear but also was leaving work and didn't have time to stop by. So she was needing a ride to work. That Friday she was screaming my name as she walking towards me from her apartment building yelling that she needed a ride to work. I thought that I could bring her, but I couldn't bring her home, and I won't be able to bring her this week. Honestly, I'm not comfortable at all with her just showing up at my vehicle and expecting a ride, nor screaming my name from afar.
Erika:It's not a proper way to act. She was getting a ride from a other coworker, but they got into a tiff. Her supervisor has offered to pick her up before. I've been thinking today that this is going to happen again tomorrow, and I'm sorry to say, but even if I'm headed straight to work, I won't be giving her a ride. I'm a loner and I like being by myself on the ride to and from work.
Erika:And I'm just thankful that I don't park anywhere near my building because I could see her just showing up unannounced, screaming my name until she found my apartment. It's just weird to me. We're not at work. This is where I live and I would like my personal time and space to be respected. We should see how the week goes.
Edgar:Hopefully there's a part two. Yeah, think it's pretty fair that he is. But yeah, I think it's fair for him to not want to be at someone's chauffeur. I definitely wouldn't want that. Because I understand the having the me time before and after, because work is just draining.
Erika:Yeah, definitely. Mean, you shouldn't just assume and yell and be like, Hey, give me a ride. At least talk to somebody, ask permission, not across in a balcony all the way up and yelling. I don't know, it doesn't seem right.
Edgar:Yeah, seems off. I mean, it would be more understandable if they're related, but they're just like work acquaintances. She's basically a stranger.
Erika:She is. I wouldn't be comfortable with asking some random coworker that I don't even really know for a ride, even if she lives or he lives there.
Edgar:They'd have to be like a really good friend of mine, but even then I would still be hesitant I guess.
Erika:Yeah, mean, was, say I was having troubles with my car or something, I'd be like, alright, I'll give you gas. You know what mean? It doesn't matter. It's just one of those things where you shouldn't just assume that they're just gonna help you for free. I mean, it doesn't matter if they're related or not.
Erika:He could also tell her, hey, you know, I don't feel comfortable. Maybe today I can give you that ride but from now on I won't be able to. Or whatever, he could give an excuse. But just be upfront with her too. He doesn't have to just tiptoe around her either.
Edgar:Yeah, probably setting boundaries about would ride be necessary in this case. Yeah. I guess we'll see how the week goes for this dude.
Erika:But there is an update and it says, She didn't show up at my vehicle today. She told me at work that she found a work band company to use, which is great. My reasoning are below why I didn't want to start giving her rides every day or why I don't want to get so close outside of work for those who thought I was being rude, selfish, or mean, which we're not gonna go into because it's another huge paragraph. Paragraphs. Yes, at least she was able to find another way of transportation to her job.
Edgar:And a good thing too that they didn't try to set up an accommodation to have him take her to work. Because if they did that, with the other option, they would just keep on hanging out in that case.
Erika:Yeah, I mean it's completely different if it's your friend or you know somebody. It's a little bit much better. But even then it gets awkward, especially if it's a coworker that you don't really know. So the top comment is you need to be direct about this. People are so afraid to just speak up and say no.
Erika:Instead of being passive aggressive and tiptoeing around issues, now you don't mention whether or not you two work within the same department or how turning her down may impact the workplace. Honestly, it shouldn't matter. You need to say that you're not going to give her rides to and from work. If she pushes once to tell a reason, tell her, I have a five year old because I said no, then walk away.
Edgar:I agree.
Erika:It is awkward and uncomfortable to be direct? Yes. Is it better than innovatively feeling like a hostage in your own apartment complex? Yes it is. Yeah, I mean, I think his best bet was just to be direct with her in the beginning.
Erika:He might come off as an asshole, but I mean it's really his choice. He doesn't have to give her a ride.
Edgar:Better an asshole than being like a doormat.
Erika:Yeah, it's just about comfort. If he didn't feel comfortable, then that's it. Know, she could find another way.
Edgar:Is he a final verdict?
Erika:Nah, I would say he's not the asshole. I mean, it worked out then anyways.
Edgar:Yeah, Lucky for him, yeah, worked out. The next story is titled Total Wine Would Not Sell Me the Pacific Wine I Drove 60 Miles For Because They Claim I Was With Someone Else Who Left and They Need to See ID for That Person. I was alone. So I made a mobile order of 10 ks and never picked it up. I got mad all over again writing this because of the sheer amount of disrespect from Total Wine Management.
Edgar:I have no speak for this order as well. There is a Pacific wine I used to pair with food. The closest Total Wine that had it was a 60 mile drive and it was storming out and I want it for the holidays because most likely this was going to be cooped up inside. So I drive over. This seems to be my typical total wine until I move two counties away.
Edgar:Anyways, I go in and pick up the wine and get some other stuff for holiday parties. And I was in there maybe an hour and it came time to check out and the cashier asked me for my ID. So, I give it to her and then she tells me she needs to see the ID of the other person I was with. So, now I'm confused and say I'm alone. She says, Well, I have to go get my manager.
Edgar:Okay, fine. So he comes out to tell me that she told him I was with someone and they need to come back and bring their ID or they won't sell it to me. I told him I wasn't with anyone. He asked to see my ID, looked at it and says, Well, unfortunately you look young. At this point I'm like, Are you serious?
Edgar:And he's like, You can come back tomorrow alone. And I find it extremely disrespectful to tell someone they look young while you're holding their ID in your hand. Not to mention, I've been shopping at the exact location for about four years and have never had a problem. So I told him about how I drove there and have been shopping there for years and that I even have a second form of ID and he was just kind of giggling and saying no. So, I left very angry and it was late around 9PM.
Edgar:Then I had about an hour and a half drive back home in the rainstorm. So, I was home pissed about it all night and the next day I went into the one close to my house to get the other stuff. Unfortunately, that one was out of line that's why I didn't originally go there. They were pleasant as usual, actually beyond nice and didn't even ID me, which just goes to show the other location was on some kind of power trip or something. Then I got an email from them to review my experience, which they send every time I go there and I never do it.
Edgar:But I needed to select the location I had the bad experience at and give feedback on it. So I wrote exactly what happened and then the next day I got a call from the store manager. Turns out the guy that night was an assistant manager or something. However, he was much more pleasant than the woman that called me. She was extremely rude and condescending and told me that she reviewed the cameras and that someone walked in with me at the same time and that made us a party.
Edgar:I told her I didn't own them. She said it didn't matter, so apparently people can't walk into Total Wine at the same time as you. Then she said that the employees were watching me and that the person left thirty minutes before I went to check out and they saw it. Okay so, and if that is the case and that is your policy, why don't you just say something when you saw the person leave and we could have cleared up the whole situation right then and there instead of continuing to allow me to shop for another thirty minutes and waste my time to know that when I came to check out you were going to deny it. So I told her, even if that is the case, someone can't leave a store, and she said no.
Edgar:To complete the transaction they would have to drive back with their ID. This made me extremely angry because even if that is the case and that is your policy, at least you can offer an apology for the inconvenience. Not just call me to argue and stir the pot. I was already kind of over it because it had been like two days but just the whole attitude and nastiness about the host thing was really insult to injury. So I decided to look up their policy and the policy clearly states that this only applies to parties at checkout.
Edgar:So the rule is who is with you at checkout, which that makes sense or is at least more understandable. Another policy I read which was interesting was that any online order not picked up within a week, they will issue a full refund to your original payment method. So my friends and I were sitting home drinking the stuff that I had got from the other location later that day and told them what happened and they were all shooked. So my friends and I were sitting at home drinking the stuff I had got at the other location. Later on, I told them what happened and they were all shooked.
Edgar:I know people who work at retail specifically during COVID and I know what an inconvenience it is to set up big curbside pickup orders because they take up a lot of space on the order shelf. Drunk and mad, I decided to enforce their own policies on them and make a $10,000 order for the soonest possible pickup time, which they had promised would be ready in three hours. So I made sure to order the cheapest, heaviest bottles I could think of, so it can take up the most amount of space in the curbside. I made sure to order one or two of each so they couldn't just give me a case. I know when customers saw it, they would ask for it and then they would have to explain how someone ordered all two thirty eight bottles back there on reserve.
Edgar:Then they would probably get grouchy and ask for a manager. But the manager would be busy because I also made sure to order a lot of bottles behind glass so they would have to run around with their keys scrambling to get the order ready. I worked in Mito and I know how much stuff like this froze off of schedule and annoys the managers. So I loaded up the cart and stopped when I got bored and placed the order. I got the email confirmation which specified that you had to wait for the pickup confirmation email and that pickup times aren't guaranteed so I thought for sure they were either going to cancel the order or call me or something.
Edgar:And something interesting that is sent with the email is the pickup policy that states specifically the recipient of the order needs to be 21, so you can have other people in your cart. Not 21? Well, five hours later I got the pickup email. It took them longer but I still was surprised. Then later I got a pickup reminder email.
Edgar:Then three days later, a second reminder email. Then seven days, I got my final notice email. And then day 10 I got a phone call. It was the manager acting like a completely different person this time asking when I was coming for the order. At this point I think she knew I was messing with them because it had been ten days and she knew my name from the previous feedback thing.
Edgar:Because when she called, she asked for me by name and my name was on the order. So I told her, Yeah, I went to pick it up and was told I looked too young. So I just went to the other Total Wine and picked up the same stuff there. So then she was mad and said, Are you seriously not coming to pick this up? And I said, Nah.
Edgar:And she hung up. When your higher ups ask you why your store had to refund someone $10,000 explain to them what you did. They were supposed to automatically cancel the order at the seven day mark, but didn't. She called me at the ten day mark. So I called her customer service line to cancel it and she told me some stores wait till the end of the month to do it.
Edgar:I'm assuming the manager was trying to hold out on refunding, but I made them cancel it right then and there.
Erika:I think there was so much work for a petty revenge.
Edgar:It
Erika:was too long. I think he just should have just never gone back there and that's it.
Edgar:I I think that's kind of illegal, I'm not really sure. But it just sounds illegal.
Erika:For what they did?
Edgar:No, what the OP did. Oh. That basically is like some sort of fraud. I mean, yeah, again, think it's a necessary amount of work and effort to mess with somebody or mess with a store, even though the store was pretty terrible in how they treated him.
Erika:Yeah, mean how are going to say, Oh you came with that person just because you walked in at the same time?
Edgar:I think they were trying to cover their tracks but also they didn't want to admit they were wrong, which they were very obviously wrong.
Erika:Yeah. I mean, they had a chance to fix it, I don't understand why they didn't take it.
Edgar:Yeah. I mean, it was the assistant manager, so probably, yeah, they were like half power tripping, half didn't want to seem like they were wrong in the situation where they clearly were.
Erika:Yeah, that's very unfortunate.
Edgar:But yeah, I don't think OP's response was reasonable though at all.
Erika:No, it was too much. Dude, that's too much energy.
Edgar:I know. I I can tell he or she has nothing else going on in their life.
Erika:Yeah. I mean, I would not waste my time doing the whole thing. I would just let it go.
Edgar:Exactly. Feel like this entire situation, it probably took them at least one or two weeks.
Erika:Oh definitely.
Edgar:Probably all they talked about. Like this is their entire personality.
Erika:For a couple weeks at least.
Edgar:For every.
Erika:Alright, so the top comment is Total Wine Management always are on a power trip. My friend had just left the checkout line. A shopping cart full of fourth of July party. Management grabbed his cart before he could leave and yelled that he needed to pay. He told them he did pay and if they didn't let him leave, he was going to return the whole cart.
Erika:And no, he wouldn't show them the receipt like they asked. Had they asked nicely for a receipt, he would have showed them. But violently grabbing the cart was enough for him. He returned the whole cart while the manager tried to apologize and talk him out of it. I mean I imagine you literally pay, you have receipt, I mean the cashier's right there and you're exiting and then somebody just stops the car like oh you have to pay for that.
Edgar:RIP.
Erika:Yeah, I don't blame him for wanting to return all that.
Edgar:Yeah, it's unfortunate because I do hear a lot of stories that a lot of Toto wines aren't the best places to get your stuff just because of the employees. You only have like everything.
Erika:Yeah, exactly, I agree. Oh, okay, so there is another comment with another story. It says, A few years ago I was at a liquor store buying wine and liquor for a party. While I was walking around grabbing bottles there was a guy following and watching me like a hawk. I tried to ignore him because he just wanted to get my crap and leave.
Erika:Well, as I was walking to the refrigerator that has all the mixers, which is located right at the exit, the dude ran at me and grabbed my basket. He then started going on about how I am a thief and I was obviously trying to make a run for it because I was at the exit. No, dude. I'm just trying to grab some cranberry juice. He kinda paused for a second and let me go.
Erika:I still end up buying my wine because I didn't feel like going to another store. I haven't been there since. And then there's other stories that it was just like back to back, like just terrible situations where they just are blaming them for doing nothing.
Edgar:I mean, always get carted over there.
Erika:You look like you're 12.
Edgar:Exactly. I think this one time I forgot my ID and I was like dang. And I had like a picture of my ID in my phone but they wouldn't accept it.
Erika:No, you need to understand.
Edgar:Total Wine for me was like, at least when I lived, where I used to live, was like fifteen minutes drive. So like, obviously I didn't get anything. Yeah. Oh, and remember that other time we went to Total Wine, but you didn't have your ID?
Erika:Yeah, and I went to the car and grabbed it.
Edgar:Did I? You didn't have your ID.
Erika:Oh, I left it in the house, yeah.
Edgar:So yeah, I had my ID and I was carted, so obviously I showed them my ID, you didn't have your ID, but since you were with me and you didn't have your ID, they couldn't sell it for us.
Erika:Yeah, that was so annoying, I really wanted my wine.
Edgar:Exactly, it wasn't like we were going crazy, we were just gonna get one.
Erika:We literally had two. Had two bottles. Yeah, we
Edgar:wanted to just have a nice Friday night or whatever.
Erika:Yeah, just low key.
Edgar:Yeah, they wanted it in the salad dress and I'm like bro.
Erika:I know, I mean like I said, they didn't accept because I had a picture of my ID and stuff, but they didn't care.
Edgar:And it's not like where we live, the closest total wine is like thirty minutes away.
Erika:Thirty ish minutes, but in traffic, yeah.
Edgar:Yeah, so.
Erika:It was not worth it. There was no way we were
Edgar:gonna like drive back home. And that was like an afterthought too, but still.
Erika:Yeah, it does suck. If they were better with customer service they would literally be making more money. I feel like a lot of people at least would go to different stores instead of going to that one. At least whatever happened to OP I would never return to that one regardless if they had my favorite wine or not.
Edgar:But I think it's, Otona wine I feel like is one of the bigger wine places, at least where we live. Yeah. Just because it has like everything, everything.
Erika:Mhmm, that is correct.
Edgar:So they can kind of like afford to be like dickish like this, since there's no really other options
Erika:for
Edgar:what they have. But also, in a lot of states, in a lot of places like in The United States, laws around liquor are very strict.
Erika:I know.
Edgar:So they probably just like, they rather trust themselves than trust the customer at all times.
Erika:That's true. I mean it is tricky. I mean I think around here there was a wine, no it was just like a liquor store where they got closed because they were selling to minors where we Exactly.
Edgar:I mean yeah that place, I don't even know how that even happened. Because like for me, they always like carded me hard.
Erika:I know, for real.
Edgar:All the people, they didn't card at all. And then when, yeah, so they had a tea about this place. I won't name it for libel reasons. They were first in trouble because they were selling to minors, but then their business, like the person who owned it, was banned from running a liquor store because they were trying to erase the evidence right after.
Erika:Yeah.
Edgar:Which I assume means that they were trying to erase footage or all that stuff. So now they have to sell the entire business.
Erika:Yeah, it's a tricky business. Why are selling to minors, first of all? I mean I know, so this is like a college campus nearby, but you know, still, why would you want to risk your business for that?
Edgar:I mean that's their only customers probably, but also not a good look.
Erika:Yeah, definitely not.
Edgar:So your final verdict on this story?
Erika:I would say he just put too much effort. I think he's an asshole, but I think he just put too much effort on Petty Bruin.
Edgar:Nah, OP is an asshole. You
Erika:think so? Yeah.
Edgar:I can see him in hell. Like he's gonna go into heaven's gates and they're gonna be like, okay, do you remember when this happened?
Erika:I don't know. I think he just should have just let it go. Mhmm. But
Edgar:also his like, his spelling and punctuation and grammar was atrocious. It was like so difficult to read that whole passage.
Erika:And it was so long. Mhmm. It was so long.
Edgar:It could have been a small text, TVH.
Erika:I think the title said it all, honestly.
Edgar:Basically. I could have just read the title and then that's it.
Erika:Alright, so the next story is, I dyed my hair blue so my boss will stop blaming me for hair and customers' food. I used to work for a sandwich shop. All the other employees there were Indian women with very long black hair. Mine was short of similar, I suppose, medium length and brown. But every time a customer would complain about long black hair in the food, my boss would immediately blame me without any hesitation or investigation, despite the fact that I was the only person who wore my hair up and netted.
Erika:So one day I dented my hair blue, with the sole purpose of not being blamed for black hair being in the food. You guessed it, it happened. And how huffy and annoyed my boss got when I said it couldn't be my hair because mine is blue was beyond amusing.
Edgar:Low key, Opie the genius.
Erika:I'm not going to go into that, but I definitely, I mean, it's ridiculous that the boss continued to blame her even though she's the only one that had her hair up and netted. Like, how is it her hair?
Edgar:I don't know. Definitely just like heroism or maybe their family or something like that.
Erika:Yeah, probably. She was probably the outsider I guess, and always blamed her for everything.
Edgar:I mean, what are they gonna do now? She has blue hair, they can't blame her.
Erika:No, that's why the boss was mad, because they couldn't blame her anymore.
Edgar:You know? Now he has to actually enforce it with That's those gross. I can imagine they didn't care. Like there was a of workers with the long hair probably didn't care. They were like, nah, just putting nasty hands and hair all over the place.
Erika:I don't know about you, but I can always tell when there's something in my food because I always look at my food and I always see eyelashes or hair. This is one time I was in Subway, because I always open up my sandwich because I just, I don't know, I'm always like, I can't. So I opened up and there was a fly in there.
Edgar:RIP.
Erika:So like, I seriously have like the worst luck or either or I just am so cautious I always find crap in my food.
Edgar:Yeah, mean, you missed out on essential proteins from the bug.
Erika:Ew, no! I almost, I was like, I almost barfed. I was like, oh my god, coulda eaten that.
Edgar:I'm not that cautious.
Erika:You literally eat everything!
Edgar:When I'm hungry, I'm hungry. But I'm now on a diet. I lost 34 pounds in the past month.
Erika:Oh man, I really don't think it needs to be on a diet, but you know what's what makes you happy?
Edgar:Yes, I shove you a stick.
Erika:You're already a stick, what do you mean?
Edgar:You know, you know, in Bug's Life, in the movie?
Erika:Yes, Bug's Life.
Edgar:Remember that stick? That stick bug that made me?
Erika:It's the one that looks like the wood.
Edgar:Yeah. I have a picture of him in the mirror. Take a look at him every morning.
Erika:You're so funny.
Edgar:But yeah, so, top comment.
Erika:I called my bright pink hair my food safety hair.
Edgar:Boo.
Erika:Yeah. I don't know yet. Me either. How much? It had 6,000 likes.
Edgar:6,000 people below IQ.
Erika:I don't understand that.
Edgar:It's an inside joke, we just don't get it.
Erika:Yeah, guess not. If somebody knows, explain it in the comments.
Edgar:Pull forward.
Erika:Please and thank you.
Edgar:But, yeah, final verdict?
Erika:I would say she's smart. I mean, it's ridiculous that she had to do that. The boss would just be an asshole. He's definitely the asshole here.
Edgar:Yeah. AOP is not the asshole, and give props to her and hopefully she gets a good 6 figure job after this.
Erika:Definitely.
Edgar:Definitely is smart enough for it. So the next story is titled Cab Drivers Rip Me to Shreds Thinking I Can't Understand Him, but I Can't. I'll read that again. The next story is titled Cab Driver Rips Me to Shreds Thinking I Can't Understand Him, but I Can. Obligatory, this happened several years ago.
Edgar:A few months after I had moved to Chicago, I had moved there from Romania, where I had been living and going to school. I love Romania. People are great. Drop what you are doing and visit. Anyways, while I was there, due to my living situation, I had to learn the language fast and thoroughly.
Edgar:Not many people around me spoke English outside of uni. So fast forward to the few moments after I arrived in Chicago, imagine my surprise when the driver of the Uber I had ordered appeared to have a Romanian name. The area had a lot of Eastern Europeans so I guess it shouldn't have been so surprising. And I was very excited to talk to him and make sure I wasn't getting rusty. Maybe make a friend.
Edgar:Up pulls the guy, I get in, he greets me, but he appears to be on the phone with a buddyfamily member, so I just sit quietly in the back, listening in a bit. The person on the other end asks if the driver is getting off work soon. He responded with something like the following, No, I still have a few hours left. Then I'll go home. Right now I have someone in the car.
Edgar:God, I hate this country. The woman here is so fat and ugly. At least this one has a nice chest, but why can't she lose some weight? And he goes on and on about all the problems with me and other American women. And now I have always been a bit on the chunky side and you guys believe the Romanians love to comment on it, so I was used to it.
Edgar:But I was a bit shocked that this guy was going off like that. Anyways, am just kind of sitting bemused in the backseat as we near my destination. Then I tell him, in Romanian, with all my might trying to pull off the distinct accent of the region I had been living in, can you just pull over there on the right? I threw out this guy's head to the exorcist girl head move and he turned a shade of red. I have seen nowhere else in nature.
Edgar:He didn't say anything. Just pulled over. When I got out, I said, Thanks and added, You're not attractive and you're also fat, so maybe you shouldn't make comments like that. I have never again reached such a level of self pride.
Erika:Yeah. He deserves that. Every bit of that.
Edgar:I mean, it's good to know a lot of languages.
Erika:It does. And especially when think people don't think you understand, you do is amazing.
Edgar:Yeah, that's why I'm trying to learn Chinese, Japanese.
Erika:You first need to learn Spanish, okay? You I to learn Spanish.
Edgar:I can't understand it, I just can't speak it.
Erika:You say you understand it, but not really.
Edgar:Actually, I understand several languages. There's just languages that computers can speak. That's where all my mental ness is going towards.
Erika:You mean coding? Yeah. I'm I talking about
Edgar:knew 20 languages.
Erika:Oh my god. Yeah, but you should definitely learn Spanish first before you start learning any other language.
Edgar:I used to know Russian, yeah, and I had it almost as a minor.
Erika:Why do say almost?
Edgar:They scrapped the Russian minor at the very last year.
Erika:Oh, that really sucks.
Edgar:So I took like one to three classes a year of Russian every year because I wanted to have it as the back burner while I was studying, and then the very last year they canceled it, like almost the last semester.
Erika:My gosh.
Edgar:It was one by one guy. He was gay and very flamboyant and very funny. I remember the first day, I wasn't there because I was late to class, my friend told me were all waiting for the professor to come into class, and he came in like fifteen minutes late, and he was like all red and stuff. He was like, if I die, tell my husband I love him. Apparently he was choking on something from like lunch.
Erika:Oh my god, and he went walking like that to class?
Edgar:Yeah, and then he like ran back, and then like ten minutes later he came back all composed and then he went into his intro.
Erika:That's crazy! But yeah,
Edgar:the whole Russian department was ran by this one guy, but he was always complaining at the end of every class, like, Yeah, they make me like I'm basically doing two jobs and getting paid part time because he had to run the program, make the curriculum, and then also teach.
Erika:Oh dang, that's a lot for one person.
Edgar:Yeah, like he had to do all the administrative work too since he was basically the lead of a minor, bachelor's department.
Erika:Oh my god, well no wonder it got canceled. Probably got sick of it.
Edgar:Yeah, he was very sick of it. I mean he loved the language and he loved teaching it and we were all pretty chill with him. But yeah, he was definitely unlivable, especially in New York City.
Erika:Oh my god, yeah.
Edgar:I still have him on Facebook, but yeah, haven't talked to him for a long time.
Erika:Oh, but that's pretty cool. I like that. I think it's amazing that people can learn up to four languages, five languages, and it's like insane. So if anybody has that gift, amazing. Wish.
Erika:Bilingual. I
Edgar:mean, once I have a mansion then I'll start learning languages again. Because I remember in college I used to learn a lot of languages just because I had the Russian and then Russian helped me more confident about learning other languages.
Erika:Well, mean, Russia is pretty hard to learn.
Edgar:Yeah, how you learn languages is depending on what you know already. If you know English, like other Roman languages, like Spanish and the other Roman languages or love languages whatever, I forget the exact term, you can pick it up a lot easier. But Russian is a Slavic or like it's just like basically a total different kind of like branch of languages, so it's a lot different, the grammar and the spelling and stuff like that.
Erika:Yeah, definitely.
Edgar:You get to learn a whole different alphabet.
Erika:Yeah, mean French and even Italian, it's a little bit similar to Spanish, so you could have some words there that you could understand. But yeah, Russian is a whole different page. I love other languages, so I love hearing people with different accents speak. I think it's amazing.
Edgar:I know you wanna learn Korean.
Erika:Yeah, I know a little bit of words, just because I watch my Korean dramas.
Edgar:All
Erika:every day. All day, day, every day, No, I have them in the background. I usually have every something in the background while I'm doing something, cleaning, doing something. All right, so the top comment is, I live for this brand of revenge. People shouldn't assume they're safe to talk crap just because it's not in English.
Edgar:Exactly.
Erika:Yeah. I mean, if you're, if you're even, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if you're good looking or if you're not, you shouldn't be judging anybody else's appearance. It doesn't matter. Because if you point a finger, six, seven people are pointing at you, so just let it be.
Edgar:So final thoughts?
Erika:No, he got what he deserved 100.
Edgar:Yeah OP is definitely not the asshole. Massage, what's it called again? The pedicure ladies? They're next on the
Erika:list. My gosh, I've seen so many videos where you have a random person that knows Mandarin or whatever and they're like, What are you talking to me about? Like, it's just crazy. I think it's well deserved when they get talked like that because there's no need for that. All right, so the last story is, Am I the asshole for letting my daughter flaunt her expensive items?
Erika:I, 50 female, and my husband, 48 male, have a daughter, Danica. One.
Edgar:We name her.
Erika:I'm just gonna add D. Is that okay?
Edgar:Yeah, sure.
Erika:Who has been
Edgar:No, no, say Danica.
Erika:Danica? Yeah. I don't know, it doesn't roll off the tongue for some reason.
Edgar:It sounds funny.
Erika:It does. I mean that's a pretty cool unique name but I don't know.
Edgar:I know if she was a boy they'd call her Danica. I'm pretty sure they wanted a boy and they had that name all set up, Danica, and then it came out as a girl.
Erika:I mean it does sound better with Danica, not Danica.
Edgar:Danica, yeah Danica. Remember how I said if we have children, if it's a guy, I want it to be named Edgar. But if it's a girl, Edgar or a?
Erika:Absolutely not.
Edgar:Same vibes.
Erika:It's not gonna happen. Okay, back to the story. Danica, a 21 female, who has been extremely independent her whole life. Danica began working when she was 15, and now she works part time in a large corporation while pursuing her studies. We are extremely proud of her and how hard she has worked.
Erika:We generally allow her to manage her own finances and she insists on contributing monthly to family expenses with the money she earns. Danica occasionally likes to make pricier purchases, which I do not have any concern over, as I think they are sensible financial choices. Like last year she decided to purchase the newest MacBook as her old laptop was on the last leg, and she wanted something reliable and long lasting or when she bought a Marc Jacobs bag for work in university. We recently went on a family trip with my brother and his family who have two kids of their own, Tammy, 20 female, and Nick, 23 male. Mind you, they're in their twenties.
Erika:His kids and Danica aren't exactly close, but they get along fine for the most part. I know that Tammy and Nick do not have any source of income besides my brother and have not worked a day in their life. During the trip, Danica would occasionally pay for three of them for small things like drinks or food. When we were shopping, Danica brought a few items for herself and picked up gifts she wanted to bring for her friends. During dinner that night, my sister-in-law, brother's wife, told my husband and me that we were spoiling Danica too much with her purchases.
Erika:We explained that Danica earned her own money and every cent came from her job. Sister-in-law then proceeded to point and tell Danica that if that was the case, she shouldn't be flaunting her purchases and items in front of her cousins who don't have cushy little office job and parents who spoiled her into this person she is. Danica apologized politely in saying that she didn't mean to flaunt her things, but I could tell that she was upset and embarrassed. My husband stood up and shut back saying that Danica shouldn't have to apologize for her own hard work. I also pointed out that Danica had been financially independent since she was 15 and that we've only done our best not to spoil her.
Erika:Sister-in-law then proceeded to tell us that we weren't teaching her how to manage her finances correctly and that all this money had turned her into a little brat. Danica excused herself to the bathroom and texted that she had gone back to the hotel. We had a tense back and forth for the rest of the dinner, and we came back to finding Danica crying in her hotel room. I called my brother hoping that he is able to talk to his wife, but he explained that for the past few days, Tammy had been crying to her parents about not having what Danica had. She had been whining to her mom that she wanted the newest MacBook as well, but she refused to get it for her.
Erika:Myself, Danica, and my husband have been getting calls from the rest of the family, some calling us assholes and some who were willing to hear us out and understand where we were coming from. So, am I the asshole?
Edgar:No, not at all. Like at first I was under the impression that Danica would be a little bit of an asshole, it looks like she just likes nice stuff and not like she was showing it off. I can't imagine her doing that, it just seemed like she always buys nice things every once in a while and she's on a vacation so of course she wants to get something nice for herself and for friends as well. But it does say a lot about like the brother, I guess OP's brother, and like their family situation. Seems like they, I don't want say they were always not right, but they haven't like launched off as Zydnegret had.
Erika:Yeah, I mean, she's
Edgar:a more And efficient now they just have a lot of envy. Danica being financially independent at 15 is pretty nice for anyone. You'd be pretty proud if your own 15 year old was like that.
Erika:Yeah, of course. I mean, in order to get that job or get a good office job, you need to work hard. It's not just handed to you. So the fact that she's able to buy her expensive stuff and even help around with expenses in the house is amazing. And she's responsible, so who is she to tell her what she should be doing with her hard earned work money?
Erika:Especially if the sister-in-law doesn't even work, only her brother or the brother does.
Edgar:So
Erika:why is she talking about flaunting what she doesn't have? Then you should work too if you feel like you don't have enough money. You know what mean? It's just crazy to me. And if she's not working, I would understand, for me it would be like okay, maybe the kids are young, but they're in their 20s.
Edgar:Yeah, mean, 20, 23 is college age, just out of college, so I can still see if they're not making the amount of money Danica is making. But still, Danica was also paying for their meals apparently in that vacation, so it seems like she was just trying to be nice and stuff.
Erika:Yeah, definitely.
Edgar:It's just a case of envy.
Erika:Yeah, definitely When
Edgar:you should just be more inspired or at least just consider Thankful. Yeah, thankful at the very least, but also consider that you can also be well off if you put the work into it.
Erika:Exactly.
Edgar:But instead they just chose to throw them all under the bus.
Erika:Yeah, berate her for what? For having nice things and having a good job? That's not her fault.
Edgar:Yeah,
Erika:it was completely unreasonable. And the fact that the kids are whining and saying, I want a new MacBook, they seem like they're the ones that are spoiled and not Danica. And then also I went to just Adalus. They said Danica so many times that I was just like, and they said Danica one more time in the story. It was crazy.
Erika:Okay, so the top comment is, so two grown adults complain to their parents about what a third grown adult has bought with their own money, do they not realize how pathetic that sounds? Not the asshole. Your daughter has done nothing wrong.
Edgar:Yeah, basically that's how you boil down the story.
Erika:Exactly. There was just no reason for that. If they want to get something, buy it for themselves.
Edgar:Yeah. It's like a little bit unfortunate, but not every family, not every person in life or in this planet is going be successful like that. Or they're not going be able to wanna put the effort to have nice things like that?
Erika:Yeah, definitely.
Edgar:They'd rather just complain.
Erika:Yeah, and then make themselves victims. I think it's unfortunate, but I mean, you choose your own path regardless if you're born rich or if you're not. You could, you know, if you even broke hard work you can make anything happen.
Edgar:Yeah, hard work or high risk? Yeah. For your final verdict?
Erika:I would say no, you are not that asshole. She did not do anything wrong. And she didn't flaunt anything, she was just doing her own thing.
Edgar:Yeah, maybe that just looks like flaunting to to them.
Erika:I guess. I mean, I would be like, oh you go, I don't know. I guess because I'm very supportive. If I would see someone like that, I'd be like, oh girl, that's good. I would be happy for that person, not jealous.
Edgar:I don't know. I'm not really one to notice all that stuff.
Erika:Yeah.
Edgar:Like if someone showed up with a jacket made out of tiger, I wouldn't even notice.
Erika:Yes, because you're a guy, but for me, like I said, I wouldn't even, I don't wanna be jealous, I would just be happy for that person. Especially if they're family, there's no need to have envy. Well that's all the stories we have today. Thank you for tuning into this week's episode. Check out our website, www.yappings.com, and join our mailing list for updates.
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Edgar:Also, we have a Facebook group called AITA Relationship and Family Drama linked in the description. Join so you can share Am I the Asshole posts you like or share your own stories for us all to judge. We may even read a few posts in one of our episodes.
Erika:Thank you. Bye.
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