Episode 3
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Yapping. Hello. This is Erika.
Edgar:Edgar.
Erika:And Dave. And we are the Yapping Snaussers. We entertain with you Yap worthy stories we found around the web. Today, we were getting rested from coming back from New York and New Jersey, and we I'm so really tired. I fella didn't have enough sleep.
Erika:Mhmm. And we cleaned up a little bit, and then laundry, you know, the usual.
Edgar:Yeah. Show day today. And then, yeah, we went to see to Jean's party. Not party. We we just celebrated in New York City, like, stuff for her, like, whatever she wanted to do, which is mostly, like, anime stuff.
Erika:Yeah. She's in that face now. She's 13. I know. She's growing up.
Darielys:A baby. And then
Edgar:Saturday, we went for my nephew's thing, but it was, like, kinda short because we had to, like, go all the way to New Jersey from New York. And, like, they live they they their Airbnb was, like, a little bit deeper than I expected. But then afterwards I know. Yeah. That was been, like, 10, 15 minutes away.
Edgar:Yeah. It was, like, half an hour from our hotel. But then afterwards, we went to the American Dream Mall. And we didn't get lost, but we went to, like, the amusement park and in that huge pool.
Erika:How was it?
Darielys:I wanna go.
Edgar:It was very good. And then we were at a hot tub in Burnt.
Erika:Oh, that was really nice.
Edgar:Like, a half an hour probably.
Erika:It was really nice. I love the hot tub.
Darielys:I gotta stay there for a while. Yeah. We did. I was like Jean liked the festival.
Erika:Love it. Yeah. Jean did not like it at the beginning. Yeah.
Edgar:She was like, I wanna get out. Do you like this birding me?
Darielys:I guess it feels really nice out there.
Erika:Yeah. She liked it a lot.
Edgar:I put my entire head. Okay.
Darielys:I would not be that
Erika:head. Yes. It's like shoulder. To tell him no, but That's insane. I didn't get
Edgar:I can feel my brain boiling.
Erika:His headache was going away.
Darielys:Your brain's being cooked.
Edgar:More than it usually is too.
Darielys:Okay. You're so funny.
Edgar:But yeah. Maybe yeah. We should go there again. Mostly for the just the the hot tub.
Erika:Yes. I think we something looked like a whole day thing, not just like a few hours because it's like a there's so much to do there and so much to see.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:I felt like we didn't get to really look at anything much.
Edgar:Yeah. But, yeah, next time. Like, it's, like, not that far away from us.
Erika:I mean but, yes, it is.
Darielys:No. Yeah.
Edgar:Like, the mall. The mall.
Erika:Oh, the mall. Yeah. Oh, Damien. Because it took us 4 hour journey just to get back home.
Edgar:Mhmm. Yeah. Because we had to do, the trains train from, Grand Central to New Haven, and then we had to do the 1 hour car ride from me where we are.
Erika:That's 4 hours. Mhmm. So, yeah, it was a long journey back. That's why we're really exhausted. We came home at 3 in the morning.
Erika:Mhmm. So yeah. And then I woke up at 7 AM to take out the dogs. Yeah. That was nice.
Edgar:Yeah. They missed us.
Erika:Yeah. I did. They were very happy to see us. They were, barking and jumping and being cute. They were happy that we're they were able to sleep in the bed once we came back.
Erika:Yeah. They got tired of the living room. But, yes, so now let's go back into it. And the first story is Emma the asshole for refusing to do Thanksgiving this year. I'm a 40 female, and I have 6 sisters.
Erika:Wow. My 2 older sisters are 44 and 47. And my 4 younger sisters are 38, 36, 34, and 32. We've always been a close knit family And for the past decade, I've been taking responsibility of hosting Thanksgiving at my house. I enjoy having everybody over, but it's a lot of work, especially since we all have 2 kids each.
Erika:Oh my god. Imagine that.
Darielys:What? It's like 12.
Erika:We're we're literally only 5.
Edgar:We're 2 kids each.
Erika:No. Do we have kids?
Edgar:Minus us. Well, we have dogs.
Erika:We have 3 dogs. Okay. But still, it's not 2 kids. But you
Darielys:but you guys don't have 6 sisters?
Erika:I know. Exactly. We only have we're only 4 and then one brother, but still. And then 2 of us don't have kids. So only 2 of them and him have 2 kids, actually.
Erika:Well, Alex is gonna have 3 kids now.
Darielys:Oh my god. Yeah.
Edgar:Because oh yeah.
Erika:Yeah. We're so excited. Well, I I don't know about you, but I'm excited because we only have nephews except for Jean and Sofia, but now it's finally gonna be a girl.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:I've been waiting for this for a long time, and I'm excited. I love it. I'm so excited to see all the cute dresses and the cute little bows.
Darielys:It's exciting.
Erika:Anyways, look at my story. It's always sidetracked. I enjoy having everyone over, but it's a lot of work especially since we all have at least 2 kids each and all in age group from 5 to 15. It's chaos, but joyful chaos. My husband helps out but the majority of the planning, cooking, and organizing falls on me.
Erika:This year, I decided I needed a break. Life has been hectic and I'm feeling burnt out. Between work, taking care of my kids, 1011, and other responsibilities, I'm just not up to the task of hosting a big family gathering. So I suggested that one of my sisters take over hosting Thanksgiving this year. I brought this up in our family group chat thinking it would be a reasonable request and it's plenty ahead of time.
Erika:However, my 2 older sisters, Sarah, 47, and Emily, 44, were not happy with the idea. Sarah has a busy job in a smaller house so she feels she can't accommodate everyone comfortably. Emily argued that she's been dealing with a lot of stress lately and doesn't have the energy to host. They both suggested that since I have been doing it for so long, I should keep the tradition going, especially since my house is the most spacious and I'm the one who knows how to do it right. My younger sisters were more understanding, but they also hesitated to take on the the responsibility.
Erika:My sister, Jessica, 38, said she would be willing to help out more with the preparations if I hosted, but she wasn't confident on about hosting the entire event herself. The other younger sisters offer similar compromises but no one is willing to take on the full load. After some back and forth, I stood firm and said I really need someone else to hold this here. I suggested we could even make it a potluck to ease the burden, but Sarah and Emily were still upset. They accused me of being selfish and abandoning a family tradition and of that I have upheld for years.
Erika:They argue that I'm the one with the most experience and that Thanksgiving just wouldn't be the same if I didn't host. Now there's tension in the family with my older sisters feeling like I'm letting them down. I feel like I've done my fair share over the years and it's not unreasonable to ask for a break. But at the same time, I understand that my older sisters are also under a lot of pressure and that hosting Thanksgiving is a big deal for our family. So Emma, the asshole for refusing to host Thanksgiving this year after doing it for the past decade.
Erika:Isn't that crazy? Decade. But she does all the cooking and everything? All the cooking. Everything.
Erika:She does it all. Her husband helps but really
Darielys:That's not enough though.
Erika:With the way. Yeah. It's pretty much her responsibility.
Darielys:Trust me, all that food for that amount of people. It's a lot of people.
Erika:That's a lot a lot of people. But I
Darielys:like that potluck idea. Why don't people just bring, like, their own dish and that's it? I feel like that would be easier.
Erika:Yeah. That's a good idea. Right? Yeah. And, she said ETA.
Erika:The second oldest Emily handles Christmas. So I feel like it's a total fear that she don't want to do both. So at least Emily has an excuse as that, you know, she doesn't want to do Christmas and Thanksgiving. Mhmm. And but she doesn't cook though.
Erika:She hires a catering company but it still takes a lot of but still a lot to take on regardless. So, yeah, I think the potluck idea was good. I just don't understand why nobody wants to do it. Like, it's too much of a big responsibility.
Edgar:It's probably just, like, the number of people and then no one wants to put that much food or clean afterwards.
Erika:The cleaning part? Oh my god. Especially with that many kids.
Darielys:Mhmm.
Erika:Yeah. I can I guess I understand why? But, like, still, I mean, she's been doing it for a decade. It's time for for a change at least or somebody to help her out.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:Let me see what the top comments at home. One second. So the top comment is not the asshole. Thanksgiving is a lot of work. You're just sort of using tradition as a tool to manipulate you into doing a lot of work without any reciprocity.
Erika:I think you've been too nice. Lay it out frankly. Either the work of hosting Thanksgiving becomes more equitable or you're never hosting your sisters again. Yeah. That's a lot.
Erika:It's very expensive and nobody's like helping her. It's crazy to me. I would think that, you know, if people if somebody cooks, you give them, you know, half. Like, you split it Yeah. Between everybody so you could pay for the food.
Erika:I think that's more reasonable, especially because with that big a family. But there is an update. It says, so the sisters and I got together on Friday night and had a good talk. I may or not may not have a mini breakdown on them. On Saturday, Emily called the company that she uses for catering at Christmas, and they are going to do the Thanksgiving for us.
Erika:Still happening at my house, but they are, like, the full service catering too. They come and set everything up are there for the service of the food and then they take everything down. Sarah, Emily, and I are going to split the cost and since I normally don't split Christmas costs with them because I did Thanksgiving, I will now split Thanksgiving costs with them this Christmas cost with them. This will be how we proceed moving forward. Well, that's a really good idea.
Erika:So now they're splitting everything and now they don't have to worry much about food. I cannot tell you, oh, how much I appreciate the helpful comments and support. I feel like such a weight has been lifted. I know there are some good there are some going comments about the younger sisters, why they don't contribute the cost. The answer is that pretty simple.
Erika:They are less established in their career or single income household households due to stay at home parenting. They help in a lot other ways in a day to day life, and week 3 older sisters really don't mind paying the bill for the holidays. Oh, that's sweet. Yeah. That's way better.
Erika:Yeah. I think that's a good idea. They actually were able to figure it out, and now she has a whole less stress to think about.
Edgar:Yeah. I think he's just, like, OP was, like, probably frustrated when he first made the post. But now, like, he's, like, a lot a lot better. I need to yell, like, handle that, like, pretty responsibly.
Darielys:Yes. They needed to have that talk because her making all that food by herself was just not gonna be it.
Erika:Yeah. I think it's a good thing that they came into an agreement.
Edgar:Mhmm.
Erika:Okay. And you're gonna read the second one.
Edgar:Yeah. The next story is called, a mighty asshole for disinviting my daughter to Thanksgiving when she won't host Thanksgiving. Far away. In our family holidays are rotated, so one person hosts the 4th July, another hosts Christmas, and another hosts Thanksgiving, and etcetera. This way, no one is constantly hosting, and it makes it fair for everyone.
Edgar:This post is about my middle daughter, Clara. Clara has always been skipping her host duties. When it gets to her, she has an excuse why she can't host. It ranges from usually goes along the lines of really stress or she is too busy. This results in our family members to pick up her holiday.
Edgar:It is frustrating and multiple people have talked to her about this. She bailed on hosting Easter, but promised me that she would do Thanksgiving and we swapped holidays. At the time, it made it very clear she needed to stay true to her word and if she dumped it on someone else, she wouldn't be going to Thanksgiving. It usually gets dumped on me. Anyways, I called her asking if she wanted me to bring a dessert board for Thanksgiving.
Edgar:She told me that she could not host because she had just moved into her home. She moved in July, and it was way too messy to host. I told her she could clean since it was just a few weeks away, and she told me she can't. I know the other kids can host it. Well, one could, but she was doing Christmas, and it's not fair at all to her.
Edgar:I informed everyone it would be my place this year. Oh, it would be at my place this year. I also informed everyone that Clara is not invited this year to Thanksgiving. Clara was pissed when I told her this and we got into a huge argument. She thinks I am a big jerk.
Edgar:My other kids are split. 2 of them are happy since they are tired of picking up for slack when this happens while the others think this is too far. So outside opinion, a mighty asshole. I think he's fair, like punishing, like, the sibling in that way. Because I guess it's like, to get to that point, she's probably been doing this for, like, years, like, for a long, long time.
Edgar:What do you guys think?
Erika:It's hard because I completely understand that they have she has not been taking responsibility for years, and she keeps saying, yes. I would do it and then backs out last minute every single time. And then at the last minute, somebody else has to pick up their slack, which is not okay. I think eventually people get tired. No matter how much family you are.
Erika:I think it's very irresponsible of her. But I don't know about this inviting her.
Darielys:I don't know. I was to invite her. I'd be mad at her but, like, she's still part of the family. You know? Mhmm.
Darielys:So I don't know.
Edgar:Maybe he's just, like, frustrated because, like, I think it'd be better if, like, she gave, like, a lot of notice. But if it's, like, too last minute, it could be annoying, especially if it happens all the time.
Darielys:At least, like, ask for help if you can't, like, do all of it. Like, host all of it. You know? I don't know. Or, like, help.
Darielys:Mhmm. Just help a little bit. Like, oh, I can't, like, host the whole thing, but, like or I can only, like, do couple things that I don't have time to do the other stuff or whatever. But that thing about where she moved because she like, that was her excuse and she moved in July and she couldn't do thanksgiving because her house was a mess. So you're telling me your house is a mess for, like, months?
Erika:5 months.
Darielys:Like, that's insane. Yeah. Like, the excuse is like you know you're like, yeah. There's no way
Erika:it takes you 5 months to clean.
Edgar:No. Maybe that specific excuse was like like, what was what triggered him?
Erika:I don't know. But it's just it looks like there's also been comments about Ophi responding to some things. But it looks like they have tried giving her, like, certain dishes or something to bring, and she still doesn't do that. So it's it's not even that she can't toast. It's just that she doesn't wanna do anything at all and just wants to bask in everybody's, that's just so annoying.
Erika:Stuff to be honest. And do. Yeah.
Darielys:It's just like she just like shows up just to show up. Yeah. That's it.
Erika:No responsibility taken. Yeah. So, I think m m, yeah. Yeah.
Darielys:I don't know.
Erika:Do you still do you think that she it was fair for her to get uninvited?
Edgar:Yeah. It's fair. But, yeah. I mean, I don't wanna say that he's the asshole for uninviting her. But Yeah.
Edgar:I don't think wanna say that she's in the in the wrong for being for being, given a consequence for her actions.
Erika:Yeah. I think it's a 5050. If she would have done better, this wouldn't have been gotten this far. But I think in a way, it's kinda good for her to learn. Like, there's consequences for you not doing the things you say you're gonna be doing and then just showing up and not bringing anything while everybody does the work.
Erika:Mhmm.
Darielys:Maybe in Christmas, she'll do something. Should be like, damn. They didn't invite me in for Thanksgiving. That means they might not invite me for Christmas. Let me, like, step up my game and do something.
Darielys:I don't know.
Edgar:I feel like that's unlikely.
Erika:Yeah. She probably would not gonna show up ever again. She's gonna be, she's gonna abandon all her family. Own heart. I don't wanna come back no more.
Darielys:She's like, even better. Whatever. That's more for me.
Erika:Yeah. This one's hard. I honestly don't know. I I think so I don't think he he or she is the asshole for this inviting her. But
Edgar:I mean, like, they're family, but yeah. It's just it's, like, a little bit hard. I don't wanna say he's not the asshole, but also he could maybe because I because you're supposed to, like, forgive your family for most things.
Darielys:Mhmm.
Edgar:Like, the holidays isn't, like, that big of an issue.
Erika:But it happens every year and she does this
Edgar:And that's the only that's the only reason why, like, I don't wanna say that he's, like, an asshole because, like, if it happens all the time, this has this, like, this
Erika:issue.
Edgar:And they give
Erika:him, yeah, a bunch of chances to to just bring dishes or certain things she can do instead of hosting the whole thing, and she still cannot do it. So I honestly don't think he's asshole. And then the majority Beau was not the asshole. So Yeah. I don't think he's asshole at all.
Erika:Do you do you guys wanna hear the top comment?
Edgar:Yeah. Let's see what people are saying.
Erika:So so I said edit after seeing OP's response, not the asshole. Have you ever had a conversation about coming to a comprom compromise or seeing why Clara is so adamant about not hosting? For example, do the rest of you have spouses that can help while Clara is single? Does she have a small children? What while the rest don't?
Erika:Or maybe Clara just has the personality where hosting is rough on her. If I were you, have this honest conversation and see what the middle ground can be. For example, in my family, my parents always host for the holidays because they have the biggest, nicest home and because they live near other people they like to invite. But my sister and I often go over for a few days early, do the cleaning, the shopping, and cooking and make things as easy on my parents as possible. And when they're out assigned guests, we take on the role for hosting duties.
Erika:I'm just surprised that you jump to ostracizing Clara from the holidays without figuring out a way to help her contribute without host hosting. And she's only willing to take in all the aspects. That's one issue. If the only thing she's not willing to give is hosting, though, if you love her and want to spend time with her, wouldn't you want to at least try to figure out something? And so OP responded, I asked, and she claims that she wants to host.
Erika:We have asked her to bring things before, but she also does not do that. None of the kids are married. One does have long time girlfriend, but everyone is on their own. No kids, and she doesn't have a personality that will make it difficult to host. So, yeah, definitely not that as well.
Erika:She has no excuse. No. There's no excuse for her not to host or bring a side dish or anything. She has no responsibility.
Darielys:At least buy something if you don't have time to make anything. I know. Like, easy. Anything. Just go to the store, get something.
Erika:Get a pie. Bring
Darielys:it. Yeah.
Edgar:Get Popeye's.
Darielys:Something. Popeye's? What? Did you say Popeye's? Yeah.
Erika:He just wanted Popeye's.
Darielys:That's no
Edgar:It's cheap though, and it's, like, really good.
Darielys:No. You're so funny. Yeah. I grew up in the town. I'd be like, I brought Popeye's.
Darielys:And everybody's just like, Like, what you mean?
Edgar:Everyone's gonna celebrate?
Darielys:No. No. We I
Erika:was talking about a pie. They put you get it, you know, or you get
Darielys:the pie. They just put
Erika:it in the
Edgar:Popeye's out of best pies.
Darielys:I love how he
Erika:got them.
Darielys:Popeye's out of pie. Yeah.
Edgar:I'm just hungry.
Darielys:You just ate.
Erika:Dude. Oh my goodness.
Edgar:Give it some more.
Erika:You could eat after.
Darielys:You're always hungry.
Erika:So the next one is am I the asshole for not going to Thanksgiving over the dishes? This weekend is Canadian Thanksgiving. I, 29 male, live in the United States, but my stepmom is Canadian. And her mom always comes down from BC for the weekend to celebrate with the feast for my mostly American family. To be honest, my step grandma's cooking is not good.
Erika:She is the most passive aggressive person I have ever met. Every year, she makes such a big deal about how much work she wants to put in into her bland ass food and expects endless praise for her efforts, but I digress. Every year at Canadian Thanksgiving, my husband and I are asked to do the dishes. It's fine. We don't mind.
Erika:But the hard part is that we are guests, and we are the only people ever expected to help. At first, it was like, okay. Okay. We are the youngest, so that's why. But in the past few years, my stepmom's nieces and nephews are all in early twenties for there and after dinner went into the hot tub.
Erika:Meanwhile, if I'm playing with my nephew, I don't get to see much. I hear from the kitchen my step grandma say loudly, if only someone could help me with the dishes. And of course, my dad comes over and says, hey, can you guys help her with the dishes? I'm just sick of being the only ones expected to help. This is our 2nd year living in a different city and about a month ago they asked if I was coming.
Erika:I told them I wasn't sure and later told them I wasn't. They offered to pay for our flights and I still said I couldn't make it. Made up an excuse, but really it's the dishes. Again, I don't mind doing them, just sick of being the only people expected to help out while everyone else is socializing and hanging in the hot tub. I've talked to my brothers, both older.
Erika:One agrees with me and the other thinks that this is as a stupid idea. So am I wonder so I am wondering, am I the asshole?
Edgar:First of all, she can't write. No. We had we had to, like, rerecord, like, the middle of the, of that story, like, 5 or 6 times.
Erika:Yeah. It was kinda that comma was messing me up.
Edgar:Yeah.
Darielys:It still threw me off at the end. Yeah. The group yeah. We people. Yeah.
Erika:Who's we people?
Edgar:We be the only people escaping. Yeah. No. But, otherwise, I think yeah. She's, like, reasonable to not wanna come because of dishes and stuff.
Edgar:I mean, it's, like sort of a small reason, but also, like
Erika:No. It's the principle. Like, why is everybody not helping, but
Darielys:Yeah. It's like everybody's having fun.
Erika:Grandma makes them help.
Darielys:That's so dumb. No. I'd be mad. I feel like you do the dishes. I'm gonna go in the hot tub.
Erika:Yeah. I don't know. I feel like they're singling them out. And that's why she's frustrated about it. Yeah.
Erika:And I don't blame her. I would be upset too. I'm like, there's, you know, at first she thought it was because they were younger. But now they have younger, nephews and nieces. So why can't they do the dishes?
Erika:Like, it's crazy. Yeah. So I don't blame her. I don't think she's the asshole at all. So for top comment says not the asshole.
Erika:Shame on your siblings for not offering to help. It's fine to help out every once in a while, but for you guys to be the cleanup squad each time, not cool. And y'all are being taken advantage. And shame on the step grandma for making bland food.
Edgar:Yeah. Grandma
Darielys:is your asshole. No.
Erika:She can't cook. She was a she's a she's very passive aggressive and her food is really bland, but she expects to have praise for her
Darielys:efforts all the time. Probably don't even put salt. Bro. It's just like just plain like out of the package and just that's it. Mhmm.
Darielys:So you get a turkey and then you just put it in the oven. That's it.
Erika:That's what?
Darielys:Like, put some seed in your something.
Edgar:No. Flavor.
Darielys:Yeah. Flavor. So sassal. Exactly. Lots.
Darielys:Lots of it. I'll get you a pack. Here's the pack. Thank you.
Erika:Alright. So, yeah, we agreed that she is not the asshole at all.
Edgar:Nope. The next story. Am I the asshole for refusing to let my brother bring his girlfriend to Thanksgiving after she disrespected my wife? I, a 31 year old male, am married to Lily, a 30 year old female. My brother, Josh, 29 male, recently started dating Lindsay, 27 year old female.
Edgar:And while she's been polite at family events, Lily feels Lindsay has made some passive aggressive comments. For example, at a recent barbecue, Lindsay said it was selfish that Lily and I wasn't planning to have kids anytime soon. Lily felt uncomfortable, but I didn't say anything at the time. Another incident that happened at a family dinner when Lindsay remarked, I'm surprised you 2 are so happy with our kids. You must be really good at being selfish.
Edgar:And Lily was hurt by this comment, and it made her feel like Lindsay was judging our life choices. Most recently, at a birthday party, Lindsay made a comment about Lily's career saying, it's cute that you're working part time with no kids while Josh and I are really focusing on our careers. Lily was annoyed but didn't say anything because she didn't wanna start drama. Thanksgiving is at our house this year, and when Josh asked if he could bring Lindsay, I told him after hearing she didn't come. I explained that some of her comments had made Lily feel disrespected, and I didn't want that to ruin the holidays.
Edgar:Josh got upset and said I was being petty. He argued that I was overreacting and that Lindsay was just being honest, but I stood my ground. Now Josh says he won't come if Lindsay isn't invited, and my parents are caught in the middle. My mom thinks I'm being too harsh, but I feel like I'm just standing up for my wife. Am I the hassle for refusing to let my brother bring his girlfriend to Thanksgiving?
Erika:No. Mm-mm. Absolutely not. That's
Darielys:actually mean. Why would you say that to a person? Does Lindsay have kids? Why doesn't she have kids? I know.
Edgar:I I like yeah. They're mentioning the kids.
Erika:Why are you judging people for not having kids?
Darielys:I would've been like, why are you having kids then? Like
Edgar:Yeah. Like, where's your village?
Darielys:Oh, not the village.
Erika:Yeah. I think it it was just disrespectful. Why is she judging her for her life choices? Every everybody does their own thing. Mhmm.
Erika:It's not bothering you. You're not paying for her. You're not doing anything for her. Why does it matter what she's doing?
Darielys:Oh my god. I cannot. I feel like she's like, oh, like, if she's, like, better than her because she's like, the one she was, mentioning about the careers, like, oh, me and him are focus focusing on our careers. And, like, if she's not, like, if she's not doing anything. Yeah.
Darielys:I'm like That's crazy. Like, if you're not doing anything, why don't you have kids? Like, you have time for kids. Girl, that's crazy.
Erika:Yeah. Not okay. The top comment says not the asshole, but I'm not sure why you are hiding behind Lily. 2 out of the three examples you give, Lindsay's talking about both of you, but somehow only Lily is offended. Say you don't like being called selfish either and honestly, in no defense, I think when most people are rude they mean it.
Erika:If someone says I am selfish in my career's cue, it's actually worse if they mean it, I. E. They are it's honesty. And if they are saying it for some petty point scoring reason, if Lindsay really believes that what she is saying then she needs to if she needs to interact with you socially.
Edgar:These people on Reddit have such vocabulary? Apparently. If you use that word
Darielys:for that. I don't even know what that
Edgar:is. Maybe we're illiterate.
Erika:Maybe wait. Let us ask. It's too big. Go away. Alexa, what's equivocate definition?
Erika:According to an Alexa Answers contributor, the word equivocate means to use ambiguous language so as to conceal the truth or avoid committing oneself.
Darielys:Okay.
Erika:That makes sense.
Darielys:Just say that instead. Oh, okay. Ambiguous. Yeah.
Erika:Ambiguous is I like that better word. Mhmm. And equivocate.
Darielys:That's a longer word. To that. What? Alexa. Alexa, go home.
Darielys:Oh.
Erika:We can tell we all have Alexa,
Darielys:so we know
Erika:what we're saying. Yeah. There's no reason for that. I think she just stepped out of line. And the fact that I feel like the the what the boyfriend?
Erika:The husband? Mhmm. It's not like
Darielys:I don't know. And yeah. Dating. Yeah.
Erika:Yeah. There doesn't like feel offended. I guess he doesn't care what she thinks, but still like she shouldn't be doing stuff. I'd be
Edgar:like, girl.
Erika:When she said that, I was like, what?
Darielys:I'm saying what genes? Shut your mouth
Erika:exactly the audacity of people yeah she's definitely not that asshole I would be pissed off too Alright.
Edgar:And then, yeah, we have one more story left.
Erika:Yes. This is the last one. And this is called
Edgar:Bring yourself.
Erika:Oh, yeah. I'll try. Emma the asshole for refusing to host Thanksgiving after my sister handed out a family code of conduct contract. This happened recently, and I'm still baffled. For context, I, 32 female, have hosted Thanksgiving for for my family every year since I moved into my house 5 years ago.
Erika:It's always a little messy and chaotic chaotic but that's part of the charm, right? This year my sister, 29 female, decided she wanted to help bring some order to the gathering. At first, I thought she just meant coordinating who will bring what dishes or helping with the cleanup. Instead, she showed up with at my house last week with printed copies of what she called family code of conduct. She handed these out and insisted everyone read and sign them before attending Thanksgiving.
Erika:Some highlights included a rule against overlapping conversations at the dinner table with suggesting for taking turns like a respectful debate club.
Edgar:Bro.
Erika:2nd, a ban on political or controversial topics with her as the final arbiter of what was too heated. 3rd, a dress code of a smart casual because holiday photos should reflect well on the family. Oh. Yeah. 4, as as assigned seating that she claimed was based on optimal personality comparability.
Erika:Okay. That one's insane.
Darielys:This is ridiculous. Yeah. What?
Erika:Hey. That's just some of the highlights. There was more.
Darielys:And that's crazy. As you
Erika:wanted them to sign it, okay. She was completely serious. When I laughed and said, you can't be serious, literally, that's what I would do.
Darielys:Like, what?
Erika:That's literally what I would say. She accused me of not taking, her efforts to improve family dynamics seriously. I told her I wasn't going to enforce a code of conduct at my house and that if she wanted to micromanage Thanksgiving, she could host it herself. She doubled down saying I was being ungrateful and unstubborn. I canceled hosting and now the family is mad at me.
Erika:My mom thinks I should have just humored her for the day while my brother, 35 male, is refusing to go anywhere unless no one tries to draft a holiday constitution. I'm torn. Was I wrong for standing on my ground or should I have let her run today to keep the peace?
Darielys:She should have ran it then. The one that made that contract or whatever.
Edgar:You're okay Cindy, asshole. But, yeah, I wanna see the rest of this list because, like, that's so funny. Like, everyone takes turns.
Erika:No overlapping. Yeah. No pile of tanks.
Edgar:No, address code.
Darielys:Address code is insane.
Edgar:I would sign it and then come in in rags.
Erika:That'd be cool. I'm
Edgar:reflecting the family now.
Darielys:What is she gonna do if I sign it and I don't listen to it? Does she gonna print it or something?
Erika:Sue me.
Darielys:Like, girl, even this is my own house. I don't You're making She's
Edgar:gonna be like, you had to get out the house.
Darielys:You're making rules for my house? Dude, you're the one that's coming to my house. You need to follow my rules. What do you mean?
Edgar:Mhmm.
Darielys:I cannot. That's actually insane.
Edgar:That is insane. Wait. You should look
Darielys:in to
Edgar:see if they have the rest of the He
Darielys:got personality. What? Not everybody has the same personality. Okay. Oh, I can't
Edgar:They, see by optimal personality compatibility. So, like, I
Darielys:don't know.
Edgar:I don't know what that means.
Erika:People to have in common.
Edgar:Yeah. I guess whoever she wants to sit with.
Erika:Yeah. Well, she has the apparently she's the, the ones on the side was is too hot topic to discuss and which the topic is okay. Like,
Darielys:I can tell whatever what? I can sit wherever I want. It's like she's about I feel like one of the rules is, like, limited food. One piece per person. No.
Darielys:No. Double what is that called? Double dipping. Uh-huh. Or like what's that?
Darielys:When you serve yourself twice, not doing that. One plate per person. 1 uh-uh. Uh-uh.
Erika:You can't even look at her wrong. Don't even stare at me.
Edgar:No intent.
Erika:I can't
Darielys:even You gotta ask you gotta ask Sue's bathroom. Like, dude, what?
Edgar:You must and you must announce your bathroom if if you're going number 1 or number 2.
Darielys:Exactly. Like, you gotta, like, say every single detail.
Erika:Yeah. This is unreasonable. Sorry. Not that asshole. I do not blame her for being like, no.
Erika:I'm not the enemy.
Darielys:You should do that on Thanksgiving.
Edgar:Well, make
Darielys:As, like, a joke
Edgar:Make a note.
Darielys:Just, like, watch everybody's face. Everybody look
Erika:at me in shock. Like, what? What? Wait. Wait.
Erika:What? I have to
Edgar:make sure it says Spanish.
Erika:Spanish version? Yeah.
Darielys:Yeah. So they can understand.
Erika:Writing in English?
Darielys:No. Because remember
Erika:it beyond the hassle because you need something to use English.
Darielys:Alright. I forget. I don't know if you're translating.
Edgar:And then Virginia need Japanese. Japanese.
Darielys:Yeah. That's funny.
Erika:So, yeah, this was posted like 7 hours ago, so it's pretty recent. I don't see any other I would've would've loved to hear the whole list because that is hilarious. The top comment says, just host your brother. LOL.
Darielys:That's funny. That's funny. That's funny. That's funny.
Erika:And I'm just doing live action of your reaction to this comment because I did not read this. And then tell everyone else that if they're happy about the code of conduct, they're free to attend your sister's house. However, you would not be hosting. Mhmm. Exactly.
Erika:I love that. Yep. Yeah. I know the host of brother.
Darielys:Host of brother.
Erika:Think of this big dinner. I wouldn't mind that. More food for me and leftovers
Edgar:stuff
Erika:yeah that's crazy yeah that's unreasonable and the parents are her side too
Darielys:that makes
Erika:no I was just cute by her You say that now, but then when she gets crazy for you guys signing in and doing the opposite
Darielys:That's gonna be crazy. Because, like, what if, like, that whole thing goes through and then, like, nobody really listens to it? She's gonna be, like, on everybody's, you know
Erika:Yeah. She's gonna be, like, you sign me?
Darielys:Gonna be
Edgar:so pissed.
Erika:Your promise. What? Yeah. This is not No. You can't do that.
Erika:Wait. No. You can't say that. No.
Darielys:No. You gotta leave. You gotta do this. You gotta girl.
Erika:No. That's too much. Adult timeouts
Edgar:for all of you.
Darielys:Go sit. Go sit in the corner and look at the wall.
Erika:That's too much micromanaging.
Darielys:Like, dude.
Edgar:I know. Like, you're not at work. You're at Thanksgiving dinner.
Darielys:Exactly. Like, relax.
Erika:Yeah.
Darielys:Don't stress yourself out. Why you you're literally wasting time by creating a contract? Yes. What's the I
Erika:think that's ridiculous. We should
Edgar:do it 1 year.
Darielys:What? We should do it now. Would you be like as a joke? We're like I know you'll get the dirtiest looks because you're is this from your mom? Because you ever had, like, her expressions are, like, they're so, like, no.
Darielys:You can tell right away.
Erika:They can throw off. Yeah.
Edgar:Yeah. She's
Erika:like, can I pass it? Yeah. She's like, right away.
Edgar:You had to sign it.
Erika:She was like, hey. So
Darielys:give her a pen, make a whole list of, like, 30 different things or something. I don't know. Or do you know them, like, long ass papers that are, like, just keep rolling and rolling and rolling. And at the end, you gotta sign it. Do you
Erika:wanna be kind of funny? She would be like, what is going on? What is this?
Darielys:It's like no laughing.
Edgar:I think the best of you ever would react?
Erika:I don't know. Honestly. I feel
Darielys:like the people are
Edgar:like yeah.
Darielys:This is just like, why? He'd be like, why? I don't know. Yeah. And then they could be like, put her face and then Paulina would be like, probably just like and then your mom would just say something that's nice
Erika:and my mom would be like Mira Marco yeah thank you no but I really do hope that everyone has an amazing thanksgiving and has you know time quality time with their family and gets to enjoy yummy food and get a food coma and hopefully the food is not bland
Darielys:Yeah. Just bring seasoning in your pocket. That's okay.
Erika:A little hot sauce up in there.
Edgar:Some some salt and pepper, at least.
Darielys:Exactly. Yeah.
Erika:A little bit
Darielys:of salt and pepper.
Erika:A little bit of seasoning at least. And we'll see you next week, and thank you for joining us.
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